husband over sensitive and under sensitive?

So my husband has a very big sex drive unlike me. Its all he thinks about and is always horny like a 18 year old kid. He will get turned on way to easily. Just talking about something as stupid as pants or walking in underwear department he will get ridiculously turned on. Now mind you I am not the best looking or in shape person in the world but he is very attracted to me. When we have sex I basically have to not move or he will come... literally. I have been told by many my vagina is tight and or " the perfect fit" when in reality I think I have a tilted uterus or something. I am very tight and not sure why. He acts like my Vagina is magic or something or like he is a virgin when he is far from it. While I am flattered he thinks my Va is that great its quite annoying that I can't do anything without him stopping me every second. Its like he can't control it.
He bought these condoms that desensitize you. They have helped a bit in the past but eventually he will go soft from them. I hate them! Even if we go at it a bit ( with out condoms) and he tries to control it , and stops me etc after a few minutes he will start to go soft. For a while I took it personally. Thought he wasn't attracted to me but he makes it very clear he is.
Its come to a point that I don't know what to do anymore and he thinks I am going to leave him cause he can't please me. ( He can and has) I am not leaving him but I don't have a large sex drive because of medical issues to begin with and well this just makes me not look forward to sex as much either.
I just don't understand . How can he be so horny, so sensitive but go soft fast??? He isn't coming or anything.I can tell and he will tell me if he did before I have time to even tell. I know he isn't lying to me about it ( obvious reasons)
He will also get hard again in a few minutes and want to try again but by that time I am quite out of the mood.

 

Sounds like he needs to practice learning to control himself. There's not a lot you can do, it's more about him training himself and learning to control it. I'd try talking with him about it. Make sure he knows that he can in fact learn to control it, and let him know you're willing to assist him if at all possible.

 

Check out my thread on premature ejaculation just below in "Sexual Health", as 35,000+ others have done. It should help.

 

Also, you could both try tantra. Basically it helps to stimulate and get in touch with yourselves in a deeper way.

 

i think he's masturbating too often in his off time and its affecting his performance...just a hunch because you say he gets horny easy...follows that he would rub one out at least daily...

 

There are numbing creams out there that people can buy. Maybe try using a very small amount on the head of his penis to desensitize him a bit.

 

I've always been against the idea of using numbing agents. The whole idea behind sex is for you to FEEL it. So why would you want to do something that takes away the feeling? Another reason why I dislike condoms.

 

It's not about taking away the feeling, it's about lessening it to make him last longer. Hence the reason I said to use a very little amount.

 

It doesn't last that long. It wears off and then the guy can come. And everyone dislikes condoms, but most people also hate mistimed babies.

 

Why would you even want to lesson the feeling? That's what sex is all about, the feeling!! If anything I want to enhance the feeling. You can learn control through practice and experience. You don't have to take away (or lessen) the feeling to achieve that.

 

Because some men can't control themselves with practice and experience. Every individual is different, and if it works for some men, there's no harm in it. If you don't want to use it, then don't.

 

I'm not so sure about that. Barring some medical condition, I think all men can learn control. We all learn to control our bladders, and although it's not quite the same, it's somewhat similar in nature. Sure everyone won't be able to last like a pro, but they can certainly improve their personal lasting ability.

I personally don't believe in numbing agents and will never use one. I would think most guys would feel similar to me when it comes to things that remove the feel from sex (and you see a lot of guys make that complaint with condoms for the same reason), but to each their own. I'll continue to encourage men to work on their control through practice the old fashioned way. And I'm certainly willing to help guys who wish to learn control through practice.

 

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