Have Got A Deep Crush On A Younger Female Co Worker

I do not think that people who are miserable married should stay married. That is a choice each person has to make based upon what their marriage is really like. The honourable thing to do is decide and then follow through doing as little damage as possible on the way out. Honour the commitment to children and treat your ex-spouse the way you wish to be treated by them.

The point is until you do make that choice to end it you should be committed to it and not spending time emotionally bonding to another person. That is unfair to all involved and usually ends up causing pain to all involved.

 

Why did you married your wife at the first place? I think you are now falling in love with someone because she gives you the feelings of your wife gave you 10 years ago? You like new things. When two people are together, think of the contributions you both had been putting in. No wife or husband are perfect, you gotta accept her bad side and she gotta accept yours too. If she didnt, then talk instead of being unfaithful. That's a lure in my opinion. Seem like you are immature like the 20 sorry to say. Think you gonna be sorry to yourself soon. Nobody will ever trust you. Don't cry for your wife to come back to your side. If you think your wife is not good enough for you, think why at the first place she chosen you when you are not even a perfect guy (because you are being unfaithful?). Good luck.

 

Sorry to say, but you are just giving yourself excuses to have an affair. Nobody can help you out. Because you are gonna step into a deep hole. u gonna hurt your wife! You are not perfect man, but she is still with you! And tell us who knows you better than your wife does?

Just because you are click with the girl, doesn't you are suitable to be with her. She will constantly find out your bad sides and vice versa. Then you break with her and you seek new affair until your last day on earth.

 

^can't people eat popcorn in a GIF without making a mess?

 

Yours Is Bigger Than Mine...:lurk5:.....................:bigcry:



Tears Glen.

 

True, no one's perfect are they. I have faults that other's see in me to.
Yes, I click with this new co worker very well & she has done a few things in discreet /novel & subtle ways to let me now she likes me - if it's an attraction she has for me for one reason or another, or just as a good friend at work - those moments have made me like her more than before. But wether she is attracted to me just as a friendly co worker - well I guess if she starts getting friendlier in other ways, I will know how she really feels about me.
One night a few weeks ago, we did met after work briefly - but that was because she said she had a minor problem with her car & she asked for my help. I have an idea it was possibly planned thou - as I think she did something to it to get me closer to her. It was easy fixed & maybe she did something to it , when I weren't near her car beforehand,
She also let her hair down from a ponytail while I got her car's minor easy solved problem sorted & the change of her new appearance totally got my attention even more. She looked even sexier than before & I told her the next day I liked her hair the way she made it look the day before. She now comes to work with her hair in that style a lot more often now. Maybe she is trying to flirt with me in her own cute way - if so, I like it.
Also just maybe she liked my compliment & decided it was time to show she liked me even more? She had always come to work with her hair in a pony tail until then. So she's going to be at work again tonight after her 2 days off & what ever she says or does - tonight goodness knows or should that be 'god' only knows - she is religous anyway - no offence intended.
She's just a great person to be with at work & her personality is just so likened by me - she's got a side to her that I don't see in others at work - unique would be a great way to describe it from the others I socialise with at work.

 

Oh, how many more hints do you need?, she's gagging for it, time to strike

Just remember a few things:

1. Probably best not to just be yourself, its whats repelled women so far

2. sounds like she wasnt daddies favourite so keep telling her how much of a pretty little princess she is

3. Doesnt mean you have to get divorced, just build a granny flat in the backyard for the wife and make sure its got a fully functional kitchen and laundry, you'll still need those tighty whiteys whiter than white

 

she could just be trying to charm her coworkers in order to move up the ladder. Be cautious before doing anything irrational. She could use your infidelity against you.

 

Nz, please just talk with your wife. This is unfair on her and unhealthy for you too.

Just remember, this chick you like has a husband, a husband who probably adores her, a husband that probably gets intimate with her regularly, and he is clueless to your existance and motives, he has feelings that should be respected. In doing what you want to do, you will likely ruin his life and cause a lot of heartache for some people, your wife included.

I bet if you actually asked this girl if she was willing to leave her husband, her house, her life to elope with you and live happily ever after, she would say no. I was in this sort of situation (unmarried though) where I was in an unhappy relationship and liked someone else (also at work).. I broke it off with my partner first (infact, it was one of my first ever HF posts, asking for advice/experience), and was honest with him, it was a much better ending than what would have happened had I gone behind his back and cheated, or just left with no explanation. But then, we had other very serious longterm problems too and both knew we were on our last stand with eachother and the other guy had no partner.

 

Some co workers don't even talk to each other for the first time after arriving at work - just walk past each other as thou they are invisible.
This co worker & I chat to each other on different topics & discuss what we believe or don't believe in. When some people say they love someone - it doesn't always mean they are in love with them - just love them for who they are. But no, I won't try doing anything irrational - got onto the wrong side of another worker a while ago & I were only trying to show I cared about her as she was going thru a bad patch in her life - ex hubby causing her problems. Just some of show our feelings in totally different ways don't we & others take it the wrong way.
One night at work, one of the other workers asked me who I thougt was better looking between a previous employee & the one I've become very friendly with now. I looked at her & said to the other person, she's a lot better looking. She grinned & looked at me for a second or two & then she knew I liked her in more ways than one.
She has a minor facial skin problem but I can see the good looks are not spoiled by it. So she knows I can see thru the things she dislikes the look of.
She has a diiferent outlook on things I don't believe in (eg: god) but thats not seen as a negative to me - just a difference of opinion.

 

She has a child as well but mine are now of adult age.
I will find out how she really feels about me sometime either if she likes me just as a co worker or in other ways as well. Some others at work (all females) say they love each other but thats them just saying they like them in a different way. Do I like / love her - yes of cause I do, but for different things we have chatted about or she has done for me in a nice way. I like her to bits & will for as long as she's a co worker & for as long as I live & always will admire her for her own special things I have experiened with or talked or she has done for me so far. She's not originally from NZ & has features I find very sexy about her appearance & other things that others from her country have, are very common.
ways. Maybe I could learn some of her own countries language & speak to her in it - even if only a few words. I have learnt 2 words so far but that was from others who taught me slang words for 2 body parts.
I would try to learn words that say something that she may like me better for & not rude?

 

Make a play already, I double dog dare you!

 

Sorry can't understand your quote.
I would learn words that either compliment her in some appreciative way & that she would like to hear or other words in her language she may like to hear another person from NZ prononce properly that are welcomed by her in a nice way.

 

where is she from

 

From an Asian country (Phillipines)-but have now used google to find a few words to use in her language to impress her & others at work from their country.
So see what type of reactions I get. They may just like to hear someone speak in their language from English descent. Nothing like taking an interest in someone elses country - have asked them a few details about it many times before.

 

is everyone you work with asian? are there a high percentage of asians in new zealand?

 

My manager is from the philipines.

She says dat and dee, instead of that and the. its sooo cute

 

No, only about 6 asians work with me at different times or on different days. We either work together some nights or with others we get paired up with or as the boss likes. There are about 12 or more in the store altogether but in other areas of it & with different working hours to those I work with. I work at nights with my co workers - they are either NZ born or from over seas - UK, Germany, Fiji. at the moment. It's nice to hear numerous accents they speak with & to hear their own languages to occassionally.
The ages of my co workers range from 18 - mid 50's.
The Asians are aged between 30 & mid 40's & are very good workers.
It's good to work with those I like more than others - we all have our favourite ones we like to work with & other times have to work with because we have no choice. That is organised by our departments boss before we get to work or just after we arrive. We all start at different times depending on the roster we have. So we all look forward to getting to work to see if we are working with someone we like or who we just have to work with for about 7 hrs or so.
There are many Asians in NZ & they are very hard workers that I have worked with. They like NZ as it's a better place to live financially for some depending on where they came from before.

 

I have been taught these 2 words by one of my co workers :

Pek Pek - pussy
Titi - penis

These 2 go well together dont they lol

Some of my co workers have sexy voices & thats a turn on too depending if I like them thou.
I also worl with a very attractive German women & she has a beaut accent & figure too. The clothes we are provided to wear show some workers figures off well or hide them completely & you just get to see the odd butt crack or cleavage or more than you should depending on what angle they are on at the time if you look at them or what accidently gets revealed.
Makes the time at work more rewarding at times,when you least expect it.