Love vs. sex

Do you think it is more rewarding to seek love and relationships or to stay single and try to have sex without getting tied down, or are you celibate, by choice not bad luck lol. There's no right or wrong answer but I'd like to see this discussed so please, entertain me.
Personally I have always been committed and faithful not that sex isn't important to me but I prefer to seek a woman I can be with long term and have to myself rather than look for an easy lay or try to convince friends that we could be fuck buddies. Also I'd just like to mention I don't get whipped or anything so my individuality is always in tact and if it causes problems so be it not all relationships last forever but you gotta know the line between pacifying a lover and loosing yourself.

 

well obviously the answer will vary depending on who you're asking. personally, i'm basically in the celibate by bad luck column, but my ideal would have been a few years of random sex when i was younger, and then find love around my current age. get the best of both worlds, ya know?

 

here is a random thought. lets fuck.

 

I don't mind being tied down for sex

 

I'm not sure if this will answer what you are asking, but I've been in a serious relationship, soon to be marriage, for seven and a half years and I have to say if I was single, I'd probably have casual sex. Not with everyone or just anyone, probably my friend who is ridiculously good-looking. I had another one in mind until he got married, lol. I guess in my world, sex is just sex, it's really not the big deal I used to make it out to be. The only thing that makes it sacred is the fact you can make little people happen that way, and that can normally be avoided with the right precautions. lol

 

or, worst case, the right postcautions.

 

I take xanax so either way works for me Lol i didnt even read ur post. Must be the xanax

 

Well, I have only had sex with two people (and one rape but I don't count that) and they were both with people I was in a serious relationship with so clearly I personally care more about love than I do about sex.

But to each their own. I see nothing wrong with people just having sex for the fun of it as long as they are responsible about it and don't create unwanted babies or spread disease.

 

Wow, that was a nasty little one lliner, even I wouldnt have gone there. And I've quoted it now so its there forever


Not quite as bad, put still maybe poor taste, I cant resist doing this:

So Canadians cant have sex now?

 

I like both, I like the intimacy between relationships, getting to know each others little kinks and turn ons and having time to experiment with eachother. I haven't had sex with anyone I didn't have at least slight feelings towards, no one night stands or anything with just a random person. But I have had sex just one time with people, thats after knowing them/talking for a while, then after realising that it just isn't what I like or want. So I suppose I like casual sex that isn't completely random, and sex whilst in a relationship. But then, because I have never had a one night stand, I don't know whether I like it, the thought doesn't turn me on though.

 

I knew someone was going to say that!

 

I never have quite been able to get people who try to decide between serious relationships and casual sex. Nobody gets to decide when you meet someone with outstanding potential for a serious relationship. It happens whenever it happens. The world is not running over with these people. When one comes along, you had better get all over that. Casual fucking is for other times.

That's actually the typical pattern.

:smilielol5:

 

When I was younger I was into casual sex and no relationships. I was just having fun. In college, I met my current boyfriend and completely changed my mind. I love being in a relationship and still get to have a lot of sex!

 

Celibate because of life circumstances.

I cannot decide if I want love or sex more, but either would be nice at this point. Sex can temporarily satisfy my base urges, but sex together with love is a million times better.

Sex alone is grossly overemphasized in today's society. However, it is good for making people not think about what is real and important in life. The system loves people to be engrossed with sex, and Huxley even mentioned this in the foreword to Brave New World.

I think that hedonistic people are some of the most brainwashed and sheep-like -- just a by-product of MTV shithole culture.

The way sex is promoted today... it is absolutely antithetical to love.

 

It is a rare event when two people can have love and crazy-ass sex in a forever format. If a couple has done it, they should write a book. Yes, I know of a few 20-30 year marriages where they are sexually frequent, and have love and commitment. Of them though, there are fantasies and desires that aren't fullfilled.

The only answer I can see is that we separate love from sex. Love with one man, and sex with lots of others. For me, it seems to be about variety.

 

Sex is fine, until you are old and no longer, as they say, "hot".

A relationship is an investment that you build over the years. It pays off when you are too old for sex anymore, but you still want someone to put up with you. I suppose you could just buy a lifesize cardboard cutout of some celebrity to live with, but it's not the same.

 

If this was what I did I would be intensely miserable

 

We each have to admit what it is that truly works. I'm glad you think you know.

 

Yeah, what works for someone is not what would work for others. I do know what works for me but thanks for the condescension.

 

Loving relationships are, by far, the best sex. When I look back on the times that didn't mean anything it makes me sad. When I was doing it, I guess I felt empty.

So, yeah...Love.