When ever me and the wife are getting "busy" in the bedroom, I noticed she brings up the topic of "other" woman!! Maybe some examples would explain better... If we getting the mood, she will ask do u like watching porn, if I say yes, she wil ask do I like watching other woman getting fucked!!! And then she would ask do i want to be the man fucking those woman!! Recently she asked after I went to a friends batchlor party...so..if there was a woman that wanted to be fucked..would I be tempted to fuck her? I don't where she is going with it, but I always notice it really turns her when whenever she talk about it and she gets really wet!! Iv tried asking her the same similar questions, but she brushes it off quickly and turns the attention back to me It's always only when we in bed and never in a normal conversation.. Is she just liking it as a means of foreplay or what?????? Help
I know of many people that are like this. They find the idea of someone else turning their partner on very arousing, but wouldn't want their partner to actually act on it - this is probably why it doesn't come up in normal conversation. Try to loosen up, get into it and enjoy it, you may find it arousing yourself. And if you don't enjoy it, politely let her know and find a compromise that you both enjoy.
I have gotten into it and yes it can be very arousing!! I really don't mind it at all, just had me a little confused
Fantasies aren't necessarily meant to be taken literally. For example, a lot of women have rape fantasies, but they don't actually want to be attacked in an alley and beaten half to death by some crazy misogynist. They want to be raped on a pirate ship by Johnny Depp.
Seems like her asking you those types of questions is her kink/perversion/dirty talk. Seems harmless to me. In fact it sounds kinda hot to me.
It could be many different things! I would suggest talking openly about it with her when you are not having sex. You never know maybe she would like to explore bringing another lady in to the bedroom or maybe it is just something that turns her on to talk about in the moment. Being able to communicate about anything sexual with your partner is a good thing and can lead to both of you having the best sex life you could ever imagine. Just don't judge each other when you do talk about these things no matter what they are or the communication will stop.
thanx soo much for the replies so far..much appreciated.. do u think i should mention to her that we shouldnt judge each other for what we say even during sex or while being intimate, because sometimes i want to say things that i know will turn her on in the moment but i also keep thinking that i say those things i dont want her thinking about it afterwards, like..maybe if i said yes i would be temted to do things with other woman, (like her question if u read my 1st post).. i dont want her to think im capable or looking to cheat on her, so i dont want to do something for the moment and spoil the wonderful life we share, after all she is the love of my life.. hahaha, talk about confusion
My wife likes me to talk dirty to her during the thrills of passion. I would never in a million years say those things to her outside the bedroom. She never brings it up outside the bedroom either but she definately gets super turned on. What happens in the bedroom stays in the bedroom lol.
Fuck yeah dude. That's some good dirty talk. But be careful, you never know if she would use what you say against you when you guys are fighting.. Just a thought.
Four months later and the same talk is still going on..and like always I enjoy it The other night during forplay the topic of blowjobs came up, and she asked...why I like someone else to blow me..to test the water I said yes, So she said I can have that on condition that she could watch me So I played on further and asked why would she want to watch..she said she would like to see if I enjoyed it..would I look at her and would I feel any guilt Damn she is good and keeps me totally confused What's going on..any thoughts
