Added a random girl on Facebook after hearing from a mate she's up for it?

The girls are never interested lol, they never give me a chance haha. I'm older now though than when I last tried, so I'll give it a go haha

 

Well good luck, you sound like a pretty decent guy. Just maybe actually try to get with a girl in a relationship rather then just to fuck her aye?

 

Like I said haha, I fall for people relatively quick and most likely if I like her personality and she likes mine and I'm physically attracted to her, I'll probably fall for her haha. We'll have to see how it goes though. I won't use her though, that's just wrong I've always been upfront with people, hate people who bullshit or lead others on to believe they're getting one thing but then get something completely different

 

Well Said.

 

are you guys serious?
you're ridiculous.

 

^ What makes you think such a thing?

 

No... no.

 

if you want to learn how to talk to people, you're better off just talking to them and seeing what works and what doesn't for you. having an attack strategy like i'm seeing here is just going to make you come off as insincere because you're being insincere

it's trial and error. you're 18 and you have time to learn. you're gonna need to go through all the awkwardness that comes along with socializing

you'll probably fuck this one up. you might not, but you probably will. but the important thing is that you'll learn way more from experience (and also be better next time) than sitting at home reading about how to talk to people online

 

casual sex happens, but not in such a glamorized way. its much different than you think, or how media portrays it.

 

To the OP :

My question is, why would you NOT want to be in a serious and romantic relationship, or at the very least with someone totally special to you, when you lose something equally special like your virginity? Dunno, I'm a virgin, twice your age as a matter of fact, but I'm SO NOT in any hurry to lose it myself. The idea that I'd be losing it to someone who wasn't "right" totally puts me off the type of approach that you're taking.

That's DOUBLY so if the girl is a virgin, too. Hell, if that were the case then you should consider that before your own virginity. Her first time should be a wonderful experience, certainly not with someone who's just wanting to score. I'd be the first one to tell her to stop wasting her time on someone who's befriended her just for his own pleasure. If she isn't a virgin, then... Well, same thing. It should still be a wonderful experience for her, and you should focus on that before you focus on your own pleasure.

That's just my opinion, though. I just don't want you, or the girl, to regret it later on, 'cause it only happens just once in your life time.

All the best!
::AT::

 

Title reminds me of something.

http://www.hipforums.com/newforums/showthread.php?t=464182&f=27

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Coming straight out with that line will surely shoot yourself in the foot with a lot girls. Better to just say you don't want to get too serious right now, so you you just wanna go with the flow and see where it leads.

 

well, virginity really isn't particularly special.

realistically, if she doesn't have so-so sex with someone who's mostly just interested in scoring, she'll most likely end up having so-so sex with someone else who's mostly just interested in scoring.

he's a virgin. there's little to no chance that the first time he has sex with any woman will be a wonderful experience for her. you can't really tell him to never have sex because he isn't experienced enough to make it great for the girl though.

or, if he waits for some fictional "perfect" first time, it won't even happen once, and then he'll really regret it.

 

Classic. I want to add this to my sig. :smilielol5:

 

Well, maybe not to YOU(assuming that you meant LOSING virginity rather than virginity itself). But it IS special to a lot of people. It's special to me, and it was special to a lot of people I know.

Unless she DOES end up meeting someone who cares about her enough to make her first time special. So what if this kind of Disney-like first time sweetness during sex has never happened around you? You can't be sure that it won't happen to other people, because there HAVE been people whose first time sex was great for both parties involved.

Just because one is a virgin doesn't automatically mean one is a bad lover. With the right kind of approach, the OP could still make it a wonderful experience not just for him, but for her as well. And I never told him never to have sex. I just told him to focus on her pleasure before focusing on his own.

You can't be sure that it won't ever happen. There's nothing wrong with believing in that perfect first time. In my opinion, it certainly beats settling for something mediocre.

 

yeah, but you have to admit it doesn't sound like it's particularly special to the OP. and i meant both the virginity itself and losing it.

i didn't say it would absolutely not happen, just that it doesn't usually happen that way.

you're right, you can't be sure that it won't ever happen. but it probably won't. there's nothing wrong with believing in the perfect first time, until you realize you spent your whole life waiting and never got to experience sex at all.

you're certainly entitled to your opinion. in my opinion, settling for mediocre sex is better than settling for no sex.

 

You're right, it doesn't. But I can kind of understand that. I went through a phase where I was desperate to lose my virginity when I was in my late teens. My friends and I would try to pick up girls everywhere we went trying to score, it was actually pretty pathetic now that I look back, lol. Losing virginity didn't seem that special to me then, but now I'm thinking I probably would have regretted it had I lost it to some random girl in a hurry.

But hey, just because I came to that realization doesn't mean everyone else would, right? lol

Good point. I do agree that it's something one should experience at least once before one dies. But I really don't think the OP is still at the age where he should worry about being a virgin for the rest of his life. Maybe when he's 50, but not at 18, lol.

In the meantime, he could exercise self improvement. Reading up on how to be a desirable lover in bed, out of bed, so on so forth. I think I also noted he's chubby... Well, nothing wrong with that. It certainly is good to be happy and comfortable with your own body and whatnot, but at the same time, it also never hurts to improve yourself in that respect, too. Plus, being in better shape essentially means being healthier. And the added bonus is that he gets to look better, too. As his self esteem boosts skyward, girls begin to notice he's starting to get more and more attractive. I think the teen years is a very good age to start getting into those self improving exercises, whether physical, sexual, or intellectual.

And holy tangent, pardon moi. lmao xD

At any rate, we're all entitled to whatever opinions we have.

 

"hey, you're cute, wanna do it?"

if you're all worried about it and have to put on some sort of show or whatever, it will suck. Relax, you need to get along and have the same goal: to do it with no pressure.

You could just hang out, smoke some pot or whatever, see how you sit with each other.


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