should I tell the girl or not

Hello guys,

My name is Matt from Urbana, IL. I am confused and I really don't know what to do as of now. I had a relationship with another guy for almost 10 months, the relationship started to be a committed one then we agreed that we will just be friends with benefits. After almost 10 months, the guy left me for his religious beliefs. He is a Christian and in the process of getting baptized at the Catholic church. I am a devout Catholic, and actually introduced the church to him. For the past 5 months, we were arguing a lot. I don't want to let him go. I ended up telling his parents and his friends about his sexuality. Which of course, I guess he denied and he is furious about it with me. Now he told me that he is no longer attracted to guys and possibly dating a girl as I know it from Facebook. The girl is from Puerto Rico whom he met last year when he went there and we were still in a relationship. Should I tell the girl about him, because I feel that he is just using her in order to prove to his friends and family that he is not gay. And is it really possible for teenage gay (19 y/o) to be straight again after all the experiences he had with other guys. Thanks and hope for your advise.

 

No, and you shouldn't have told his friends or family. That is for him to do. People like you are why some of us worry about being totally open. We don't know what kind of damage you'll do with the information.

 

Totally agree with this! It is not up to you to decide who knows what about his past. Get on with your life and let him do the same.

 

Outing someone to their friends and family out of spite is horrible. You think he's just using this girl? Maybe he's Bi, and just never told you.

 

well, consider why you're be telling them in the first place: to get him to date you again? outing him to more people is only going to make him hate you more, and rightly so because it's not your place to do that, so you're not going to get what you want if that's what you're going for

if you're just trying to "do the right thing", don't bother, because it's not the right thing to do

there's no reason for you to do this. so don't do it. you shouldn't have told his family, but you can't take that back, so don't make it worse by meddling further in business that isn't yours to meddle in

you need to move on, as hard as that may be. maybe he realized he's straight, maybe he's bi or gay but doesn't want to be with you any more, whatever the reason he clearly doesn't want to be with you any more and you need to accept that. spite and revenge is just going to make this messy

 

ukeoo poo sex.. Yuke. But for some reason its not yuke with girls. After all.. girls are more attractive.. soft, curvy, sweet sounding. I dnt understand why you would want to do a guy in the ass, & at the same time consider yourself a christian.

BTW.. who was on the receiving end?

 

i don't think christianity should have anything to do with this. although i personally don't believe in religion, i think that no matter the sexual preference of someone, they should worship whatever they want.

butt sex is awesome.

 

This is sarcasm, right?

 

Is that Ellen Degeners in the pic

 

No, it was more rudeness.. but a genuine question

 

At one time it was considered to stay as a virgin (if you had a certain religous upbringing?) until you got married, was a strict thing to obey . Now it seems it's part of strengthening a relationship even more before marriage in most cases?

 

I think it only came up in conversation because the OP mentioned it and referenced it for himself and his ex-partner.

And that by self-definition, the OP is hypocritical, as someone else pointed out.

 

I'm just gonna say I agree with calgirl, enhancer, PhotoDude, Cherokee, Jay, and monkjr.

 

"Oh by the way.. I've been doing your son in the bum"

 

There is nothing less cool or less funny then gay bashing! You are probably one of the few that actually are ammused by it including most of the straight people out there. You must be very lonely. I don't think you need to be worried the gay men are not going to want to have sex with you and probably not alot of the straight woman either.

 

what a jump, right there. from 'gay bashing is wrong' to 'you must be lonely'

two lefts don't make a right, guys.

 

no, but three do.

 

OP is one of those catty, bitchy, vindictive gay guys. The worst kind.
And girls are bitches.....

 

well, the world was different, perhaps less reasonable and now its a bit more realistic.
sexual growth is just as important to growing as a person as any other type of growth.

 

kind of, but not really. what if there's a one way street? then you're fucked.