Did She Really..

Please.. what are the odds of her being gay. Even if she was bi, she'd still be only 19 and wouldn't dream of experimenting yet. It would be fun if she was gay, because I could make it my mission to convert her!!

It doesn't really matter if she isn't a virgin.. I don't plan on marrying her. Its not so much that I have a crush on her. Its just she's cute/hot and I like the way about her. She's kind of a leader

 

Her actual place of residence is about 100 mile from me(at the moment), but you know that that would be a breach of my ethics anyway.

Funny thing is: It since occurred to me that the day I met/saw her first, it was my Dad's birthday & the day I asked her out was my Granddad's birthday! Just saying

 

statistics vary depending on where you look, but it seems to generally be somewhere between 5 and 10%.

 

Newsflash! You can not change someones sexuality. You can try and force your will on someone and try and suppress their feelings, but not to many people enjoy living that way. Also yes there are many people out there that are 19 that do experiment and live out their dreams.

If she is kind of a leader what would make you think she would want to spend time with someone that would hold her back?

 

Hold her back because of my backward minded sexual views? Is that what you mean.. how else could I hold her back?

I guess I'm glad in a way I asked her out this side of Christmas to get it over and done with.. kind of felt like coming out of the closet in a way. I haven't even thought about how I'm going to pursue things next year

 

Yeah Rain, you should just approach her like this directly, but not rudely, and say what's going on. That's ok to do, it cuts through the games.

 

Agreed!!! Direct, nicely, with some fun and good humor. Nothing to lose.

 

It's hard because I have no idea what she thinks of me. Whether her and her friend had a good laugh at about me or what!

 

The trick is to not care what they think of you when you approach them and ask them out in a classy way. If they start playing games with you that's a red flag to do two things in my humble opinion:

1. Raise a red flag that she'll be trouble


2. Play along for the sake of seeing where things go and for the learning experience, but begin to brace that it probably won't work out.

 

"them"!? I certainly won't be approaching 'them' again. I've learned my lesson from making it public

 

And you would know her true self how?

Just don't judge based on video clips that are obvious business plugs, of course it's gonna sound like marketing it is.

 

For some reason I haven't contemplated things with her as regards to what I'll do or not this coming year. I guess I've decided to keep my distance for a while and show that I'm not needy. She might expect me to be all over her like a rash saying "well, did you make up your mind?". I guess I'll just see what happens for a change.. I'm sick of trying to make things happen!

In the unlikely event she texts me, I reply "who's this?" Now that would be fun!

 

she's probably insecure.

 

Thinking that way will make me feel better anyway

 

deep

 

i think you should move on. if you got a fake number, or she just didn't reply, either way, thats an upfront way of saying she's not interested.

 

i feel like some of those things you're talking about RainCheck as far as calling from a private number and whatnot aren't really indicative of you being a stalker, they just seem to be things that people who don't have many prospects or much experience do. i thought about shit like that but learned quick from what (very) little experience i DO have haha. the less seriously you take all this stuff (you're 20, man) the better off you'll be

she probably doesn't expect anything from you, just remember that. when there are plenty of people who are willing to give you the time of the day, why waste your time on someone who isn't (even if they're hot)?

when i'm around girls and i'm taking everything really seriously, that's when everything goes wrong and i get all messed up in the head. stop thinking so much and analyzing details and you'll be much better off... i need to listen to that more often myself... but yeah it's true

 

I'll probably see her in a night club some night some time, or at a party when I'm drunk and will end up trying it on with her again.

 

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