When you dont even want to get up...

I dont usually bitch like this... but recently everything in my life's been going to hell, and everyday it gets worse. I dont even want to get out of bed in the morning/afternoon because everyday some new problem arises. A few days ago, my parents found out i had been involved with marijuana.... and being the people they are... they have gone to peices. I dont hate my parents, i feel no resentment towards their actions and im trying to handle this with maturity, because i know they are just trying to resolve the problem they find so serious. They have banned me from seeing a lot of my friends, including one of my closest, and threatened to take away my car. Not only this, but they are monitoring everything i do without even trying to cover it. (anymore) They are trying to find out if the rest of my friends smoke pot, and if they did find out that was going on (not saying it is) they would probably not let me see them either. I believe they are also going to tell my friend's parent about this, making even more people's lives worse. I dont know what to do, everyday things get substantially worse with no light at the end of the tunnel.

 

Well I am not good at giving advice or anything so I will just tell you what I would do in your situation if I had parents like yours...

Your parents are your parents, you cant change that, you cant change their thought process or how they feel about a situation..
If I were you seeing that you are 17..and the way it sounds, it sounds like you are not happy at home, I would just save up and when finished with school you should maybe move out. But I dont know your situation real well. I dont think its right of your parents to tell your friends parents cause they dont know how the other parents react, and your parents shouldnt invade on other peoples lives like that... They should just worry about yours and not your friends..
But again, Im not real sure how your situation is or anything..
Good luck...

 

yeah, you're 17. You only have a little bit of time left until you can leave. Are you going to college? Do you have a job? Get one if not to occupy your time (and to get some freedom- you parents aren't going to follow you to work) and get some cash together and move. I moved out when I was 16, but I don't recommend that to anyone. I ended up finishing school and I have a great job now, but I lived in a car for the longest time until I could afford an apartment. Is the car in your name? Insurance and everything? You're in the clear if so. They can't legally take it away. If the car or insurance is in their name you're lucky they did that in the first place so they have every right to take it away if you don't go by thier rules. Sorry. But you've only got a few months left, right? Work hard and wait it out and you'll be golden.

 

Go. To. College.

This is how I escaped from the hell you know now.

4 or 5 months into college, and I'm back for Winter break right now ... and spending as much time with friends as possible. I think my parents are a little more reasonable than yours, but college is the best way to go. Our dorm floor is FILLED with smokers. =P

Either way ... yeah, your parents will probably just get worse from this point on, unless you appease them. That's the only way to come out of the situation with the most favourable result, as I've found (unless you are prepared to move out and sever all ties with them ... which probably would NOT be a good idea at all).

In my personal opinion, just try to appease them, and get a few joints in every now and again when you can ... and just be the guy who lives upstairs (or wherever) for a while ...

 

I was already planning to move out and i do have a job, so ive already sort of got things in the works going from there. As for my car, As soon as i turn 18 (8 days) im going to try to get them to change it over into my name. Not much of a chance of that happening now i suppose, but it's worth a try... besides, no matter what happens, no matter how bad things possibly get in the house, ive only got one semester of high school left. Even if i do get grounded till then, it'll make freedom that much sweeter...

But, damn, i sure wish all this had happened after i got my car transferred... timing is everything.

 

but lets say you cant get your car transferred cause more than likely you wont be able too.. Just buy a shitty one until you can get a better one, ya know..

 

ha ha. I like your new sig. shroom.

I've met that guy a bunch of times!

 

haha thanks..
You've met Ron!! You are so lucky

 

it sounds like youve got a reasonably good relationship with your parents, and this is just one topic in which theyve flipped the shit. all the suggestions to move out sound a bit radical to me, especially if all they are doing is flipping out about catching you smoking trees. like you said, be mature about it, talk to them about your choices, let them know that its their roof and your still following their rules, but that its also your life and you are responsible enough to make the choices you do. it might take some time, but if you handle it properly, they wont want to incriminate you, you are their son. be mature and responsible about it, and talk it out, dont argue

 

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in highschool this guy was my hero...