Why are you staying married to your wife? Everyone advised you to talk to your wife, but it's clear that you don't want to. I'm curios why you won't leave her and be free to do whatever.
Some times fantasy is better than the reality. Be honest with your wife. Be honest with yourself. You are be-glamoured. When the glamour wears off you will wind up alone and in a daze without a wife or the girl. I know i have seen this happen to others before.
My wife & I had a good talk late last week & now things are getting good again between her & I. So things have improved now & later this week it's my birthday & she's more willing to initiate sometime & I've asked her to as well. So roll on birthday or what ever cums first. I bought some sexy underwear for her to wear for me sometime as well. Can't wait for her to appear in something sexy looking.
She's (co worker) 30 & me 53 - shortly. We get on very well at work together & enjoy talking about some of her back ground & culture & some of mine. We are just good friends at work.
Enjoy her attention/affection... explore it... real connection doesn't happen often in life - it seems silly to reject it because of a piece of paper. For me personally though, I wouldn't want to hide it from my wife (if i had one)... I would talk about it, but still exercise my freedom. Her marriage is her responsibility & it's her life... you do not have to respect (or even think about) their marriage - it's her life, body and choice.
I bought her some g strings although she hates anything that splits her up the middle - so to speak- she has agreed to wear 1 of them sometime for me & to remove for sex. So hopefully my birthday (later this week) will bring me a few treats or more by her? I'll let you know what 'developes' & what doesnt.