Naked Photos

This may not be a masturbation question, per se. I'm sure it leads to that! But don't know where else to ask.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for about a year. We are both 28. I was wondering if you guys think it is okay that he has naked photos of other women (not women he knows) on his phone? I don't know exactly how I feel about the situation. For me, it seems weird only because he has naked photos me on there too. Is it okay for him to want to look at the others instead of mine?

Also, the reason I know because he was the one who taught me how to hide photos on my phone so I got curious one day and unhid his to see what was on there. I told a few of my girlfriends and they got all up in arms about the situation, but I didn't find it THAT upsetting... Just looking for a little unbiased advice from some men and women. Thank you!

 

i consider porn to be a pretty innocent thing for the most part

i'd also consider it to be a pretty unreasonable thing for you to ask him to not look at porn while he is dating you. guys look at porn (so do a lot of women, for the record). that's just how it goes, nothing is meant by it. a lot of women make the mistake of thinking it's due to lack of satisfaction or attraction to them when often it's nothing to do with that

now if women he's friends with are sending him naked pics, that would be a different story, and you'd have a right to be mad, but that's not the case

he just has random pics, so i say let it be and don't make it a big deal... though honestly i don't know why anyone would choose pics over videos these days... but i digress

 

yeah, it doesn't sounds like a big deal to me. i would definitely be more concerned about the fact that you were snooping in his phone.

 

I don't know why, but I don't consider photos on his phone porn. He told me once that he only likes to watch videos to fap to and the photos are just nice to look at but don't really get him excited. I don't have a problem with porn at all.

But still, I shouldn't be bothered by him wanting to look at them even if not to masturbate to?

 

Would you be upset about him having pictures of beautiful women that were fully clothed that he liked to look at but not fap to?

C/S,
Rev J

 

I can't say for sure but I don't think I would be. That's not really different, huh?

 

I do not see the problem of looking at beautiful naked women. Is it wronger than looking at cars?
I think if you do not like it it says more about your insecurity than about anything else.

 

I don't see it as a big deal, but I wonder why he wants to take up space on his phone with those photos. He could just go to a website and see all the nudity he wants to.

 

maybe he knows that his girlfriend likes to check up on his browsing history.

 

if ur not mad right now then why should you find it upsetting?

 

The question that would be running through my mind is what makes you think that he doesn't know them? Is it simply because this is what he's told you, or is it that they are clearly professional ones downloaded anonymously from the net?

 

Wow, lurking on his phone then see naked pics of women whom you know he isn't doing anything with - yet want advice on whether you should raise hell :devil: You should just let it go and forget that you were being sneaking and controlling with his things OP.

Fucking women!! You want us to lust for you at all times but only act on it when you want us to...I swear chivalry needs to die! /end rant

Good Luck

 

Talk to him about it... he may well explain to you why.

For me... I like looking at naked women... although my choices tend to be a little more tasteful than most... like I don't go for gratuitous, pointless nudity... I like a nice photo or a good pose - if the woman is clothed or not, it's irrelevant.

My primary knows everything about me... she knows how much I like looking at and playing with other women. It's not that she can't satisfy me, it's just that my urges are strong and need to be exercised with multiple partners. So perhaps mine goes even further than yours

She knows that it doesn't mean that I don't love her and that I see the physical act of sex and mental-love as two separate things generally... although of course they can be intertwined with the right person

All guys have strong sexual urges, we are programmed by natural selection to spread our seed as wide as possible... there's nothing abnormal about it... in fact, monogamy is abnormal!

I'd look at it as good that he wants to look, but perhaps not touch... he can get some of that side out of him.

Most guys are so repressed - it leads to relationships breaking up.

I love being so open and free about who I am and what I want with my primary - our relationship will never end

Some women go crazy with jealousy - even if they know exactly what's happening. I had an opportunity with a girl I quite liked - she quite liked me. But I made it clear exactly what was going on, that I loved my other half but would like to bring her into our group too. Unfortunately, she couldn't handle it, turned out to be jealousy! I like not having to mislead... even if I have done, many times, in the past.

Talk to him - that's the only thing to do.

 

What's all this talk about nekkid pics and no one's sharing them?

Man, that's pathetic. Don't brag about them if you can't share them!

 

I agree with you....dont talk about naked unless you can share....we are all adults here I hope! So Lets see people!

 

And if your audience found out you were talking like this, but your boyrfriend isnt the only guy you've hooked up with in this year?

 

It is not worth getting jealous over. Plus what is on his phone is none of your business. You violated his privacy. Most men I have ever been with liked looking at other woman's bodies. I do not consider that cheating and it does not make me feel insecure. My ex husband was the only guy I know who acted puritanical and acted like he thought porn was terrible but he was Christian. He started admitting to liking it after we had been together for many years.

 

First of all do you maybe have some trust issues snooping out stuff on his phone? If you found some stuff about him cheating on you then ya you might have a reason to be upset. Otherwise who cares. Guess what even people that are in love like to look at other attractive people. Guys and girls do. It doesn't mean they are going to go out and try to fuck other people. I think my lady is the most attractive girl on the earth. Doesn't stop me from appreciating other peoples looks. Hell she does it with me. There is more of a chance of her having pics of other woman on her phone then me, but I would not know, because I don't check up on her, because I trust her.

 

Here's the other thing that I'd like to ad to this discussion. In general people want to look attractive. We choose the clothes we wear, the hairstyle we have, the skincare products we use etc. to make us more attractive. Whether we are in a relationship or not we want others to notice us and think we look good. Or we want to look at ourselves and think we look good.

Think about it like this. If there is anyone in the house when you leave to go anywhere how often do you ask "How do I look?" There is a reason for that. Subconsciously you want to look good.

C/S,
Rev J

 

i really don't think i've ever done that.