I was on the train the other day when I overhead this crazy conversation between a middle-aged woman and what I assume was her teenage daughter. Basically, the woman was telling the girl to draw her own boundaries and not let the antecedent of the conversation pressure her into doing things she wasn't fully up for herself. Sound advice, but then the girl said something to the effect that in her mother's days, guys didn't expect girls to engage in oral sex, but this was different today, and she was afraid of losing the guy in question if she followed her mother's advice. I'm not even getting into the subject of who was 'right' here, what I'm more surprised about is some girls have such relationships with their mothers at all, that they could discuss the sexual politics of fellatio at all. My parents were of a 'liberal' stock - though probably not so liberal as they imagined themselves - and encouraging me to 'share' almost to the point of excess - but I would never dream of getting anywhere near the level of specificity as this pair I eavesdropped on the other day (plus, I'm a guy, and most fathers and sons just don't talk so much). Mind you, this may also have to do with Dutch culture, the Dutch priding themselves on a certain liberal rationality where it comes to sex and drugs, but also often demonstrating a bluntness of expression that, as far as I've seen, is far less common in the Anglophone world. So...I guess my question is to what level of detail any of the 'hippies' on this board would feel comfortable discussing the trials and indignities of their sex life. I mean is oral sex and whether or not you like to sallow really something you should feel the need to discuss with your mother? The Netherlands is famously low on teenage pregnancies and the like, and the common view is that this is due to a certain 'openness' in talking about sex . Information, information, information is the mantra. And I'm all for it, in general. But beyond a common sense rationality regarding sex, I cannot fathom this kind of frankness between parents and children, and honestly I find mothers and daughters who are each other's best girlfriends a bit suspicious. Also because I think the whole point of sexually coming of age is that you don't go back to mommy all the time for good advice and moral support, but go out into the world and find your way as an individual. Shit, I wrote a book again.
I have an "early 20's" daughter. From a normal age, I informed her about the birds and bees so she was prepared for puberty. Not being married and being a flip-flop bisexual, I have had the odd "sleepover" with members of both sexes. This over time has led to a few reasonably in depth discussions about sexual practice. She has never asked "Mum have you ........?" but I have volunteered certain facts about myself. Also, the young these days are far more knowledgeable and less inhibited talking about such subjects. For them it is not a taboo. For her its just helpful information along a road we all have to travel. yes, we have discussed oral sex (both types) anal sex and group sex (amongst others) nicely - no personal details. We basically both shared our views on the subjects. .... so hearing a discussion the way you did may not be that unusual.
I explained in detail how two girls have sex or how I did with another girl to my mum when she finally asked. I remember her saying "so it's definitely a longer experience" rofl.
Yeah she was pretty awesome about it, we even lol'd when I made the peace sign and flicked my tongue in it. I don't think she was that keen when I first came out to her but once she understood that the emotional feelings were and are real and we could physically love each other she was happy after that. In fact I think she really let go of me in a good way and started concerning herself with all the guys my 3 sisters were fucking. I couldn't become pregnant with a girl, this was okay in my parents books.
I had a friend in high school who was always coming clubbing with her mom, getting drunk, chasing guys. etc.... Its fun having fun with ur parents, but a line has to be drawn, for which you have to be able to tell who is the parent and who is the child. MY opinion anyhow!
I know a lot of girls who share their sex life with their moms. I find it weird but hot at the same time since their moms still look very good
