The thing is, I have no idea what I want out of life. And I thing this self esteem problem comes from within, because realistically, I haven't done that badly in the past, I finished high school with a good grade, left my country to go to a good university, I'm finishing university this year, I speak 4 languages, I'm good at a lot of sports bla bla... So I don't even know what is with the self esteem problem! Maybe it's because I don't know what to do from now on... And I'm feeling lost.. And lonely... And I can't seem to find the strength to be as positive as I would like.
Oh and also I feel like everyone expects me to know what I want to do, or to figure it out and start doing something right now... And I feel like I'm letting them down by not being able to live up to their expectations
These phases pass. They're torture though while in them. If it's transient, just accept that certain days aren't going to be completely full. I know that it's hard not to feel small compared to others. Why we all deal with not feeling worthy is frustrating. Truly, we are all equal on this planet. Try to think of it with a bigger perspective. You may also want to get a book of inspirational sayings or stories that will help you see things a different way. Taking a walk with music helps clear the mind too. Maybe take a community class or something.
pipgirl, I read your posts and I think you misunderstood what I said. I did not say anything about a lifelong career goal. Especially since you seem to be doing well in your studies. I meant goals you set yourself. Including short and medium term goals. Things you like to do for yourself, not to fulfill the expectations of others. It could be a hobby, asking someone out, 30 mins. of jogging, finishing a book, saving to buy a diamond-studded tiara, etc. You said you like helping people, well...sounds like a place to start as long as it's a genuine passion, rather than trying to pass yourself off as "concerned about others."
I listen to a lot of aberham hicks give myself credit for the things I do do write paint draw make lists of things I need to do and get them done love the little things * any little thing* laugh, dance, sing and do yoga turn the music up loud take myself out out do something new just doing the things I know feel good. and honoring my body if I just need to rest
Yep I thought you were referring to career goals, my mistake. This is actually really good advice, thanks!
Sometimes you have to ask yourself if it's the self esteem that's the problem. That seems more an effect of something else.... like not getting what you want * ask yourself what you want* not being healthy enough * figure out how to be healthier* medication side effects or birth control etc
http://www.mimosaspirit.com/images/Book%20of%20Chakra%20Healing.jpg this book helped me work through balancing or finding embalances in eareas of myself and my life. it isnt a workbook but I turned it into one. by working through the atributes of the chakras from the root up you can find out areas that need work or balance for the whole of the good of your mind and body. I just went one chakra at a time through each thing and wrote down how it applied to my own life and body. then you use that as a tool to work those things and then you are in more balance again
Oh I love these kind of books! Thanks for recommending it! I was on birth control pills 2 years ago, I had terrible mood swings. But right now I'm not on any medication or pills, and I'm healthy. I'll definitely read the book
hi pipgirl for me its the other way round. as you can see in my profile.. i am "middle aged" and i had a very low self-esteem as kid.. and teen. i was overweight, felt ugly, etc etc. over the years i learned that.. i should never compare myself to others.. nor should i really care what others think of me. i have qualities that others don't have.. and in the end we are all equals. i've had quite a few ups and downs in my life and always survived.. managed to get up again. you are still quite young and have life in front of you.. there is so much to discover and find.. life is an adventure. try to set some goals .. realistic ones.. and be positive when you have achieved something new.. and if you failed, then see it as another lesson in life and something you probably were not meant to learn. look in the mirror and crack a smile at yourself.. be good and gentle to your self.. discover your self and BE just that and look at all you have achieved already and be proud! it's ok to feel good about achievements ! ok .. i think that's it. i am not really good at posting stuff in forums.. so i hope this is not boring to you have a great day/evening tilly
Nice it doesent really matter what as long as you do it. i do not agree that much with the "hippie" flower power version, because our actions define us. We are what we do. we cannot pride ourselves with being alive, and not doing wrong. And the low self esteem< i believe, it is rendered by the subconscious willpower of becoming more. A caterpillar will never feel bad about being a caterpillar, but a butterfly will. Hatch, and then spread your wings. How bad do you want to fly? Because ur subconscious, apparently, really does. Good luck
Hi Pip, what ever life has in stall for you will happen in its own time, alone the way you'll make some good decisions and some bad. But for now you're an intelligent, kind person, that's all you need to gather some self esteem. You've got a whole lot to look forward too.
What helps, I learned, is if you can fix yourself some chamomile tea and listen to some OMD with the lights turned down.
