Hi all, just looking for input - my wife will be 50 next birthday and has been having hot flushes, swollen breasts since a while and is now experiencing terrible insomnia. She is pretty agressive in denying that she has reached menopause - she still has her periods, though for years they have been a bit erratic, and, since the last year has been studyihg hard insists she is more suffering from 'burn-out.' Add to that the fact that I am bisexual and we have experimented the last two years with an open relationship but our own sex-life has reduced and, for me, deteriorated the last year. Not helping is that being older than her I have started to suffer with ED, though my desire is unchecked. So a few issues but particularly any advice for her on insomnia and pre-menopause? Simon :sunny: ps - going to post this in 'men's issues' and 'relartionships' too since it's relevant to all.
She may not have reached menopause quite yet. She should have her doctor test her. You know I doubt I have any advice for this. Your wife is around the same age as I am and I have the same symptoms as her. According to my doctor i am not pre-menopause yet. Be patient it is a natural cycle for her. If you want to entice her more then woo her as though you have just met and never did it before. Try to step up your routine. Male Kegles might help you satisfy her better. I am sure by your age you already know about them. Female kegels could help her get aroused as well. Plus there are health benefits to them. 5-HTP helps with insomia. So does melatonin.
Her periods gradually going out of sync until they eventually cease, less dependant on the lunar cycle and the moons gravitational pull, hence body clock increasingly not requiring her to sleep at night. Sounds whack, but thats what it comes down to, that combined with needing less sleep as one gets older and slowering metabolism needing her to have smaller naps more often. As for the insomnia, cat naps are the answer, the good ole siesta
