OKAY! I want to ask her to be my girl

I have been talkking to this girl for 5 months now. We've been on 2 dates. We're both girls. She's "curious". I am actually a lesbian. At first, I just talked to her for sex, but then we got to know each other better...and sex has been the last thing on my mind. I really like this woman. She's older than me, more mature. (She's 26 I'm 20)

We've kissed a couple times. She's asked me to spend the night. We've held hands at parties. I really REALLY like her (she's stated that she likes me as well, otherwise we would never be hanging out), but my fear is, I may like her more than she likes me.

I have never asked a girl out. This would be the first time I am asking a girl out or ANYONE out for that matter. (its usually the other way around). My friends say I should cut her off if she says "no"...

My thing is...I guess I am afraid of heart ache. I feel like because she's not sure of her sexuality, that she will say no. Or if she says yes it will end up being a secret relationship (which i guess is understandable.....)

Yahoo, what should I do and HOW should I go about doing it? And if she says no, should I cut her off? I feel like now is the time to ask her (in person of course) because I have thrown away getting to know other women because I like this one so much....

ALSO, these days, I seem to be the one initiating texts and hanging out (which is understandable because she does not have a car atm seeing as though she sold it to my best friend)...so should I wait till she initiates something or should i just go in for the kill?

 

Open and honest is the best way to approach these things. Tell her how you feel. Whatever happens, don't cut her off! Good people are hard enough to find in this crazy world, so hang on to those you have, even if you don't end up in a more intimate relationship. If she doesn't return your level of interest, at least you can move forward on your journey to find the perfect companion. I think everyone has a person who matches them perfectly, but a lot of times people give up the search and settle for whatever they can get. That usually doesn't work out very well over the long haul.

It's possible that she needs more time to adjust to the lifestyle before committing to a relationship. She sounds very nice, so don't worry about rejection. She won't want to hurt you. If she doesn't want to commit, she will make it very gentle.

Good luck! Come back and tell us how it goes!