Advice for me and my dad

We don't get along at all. We're so different that I sometimes don't think he's my father. Anyway, here's an example...

I'm a vegetarian, he's a hunter. I'm optomistic, he's a pessimist. I love music, he never puts on the radio. I love trees, he cuts them down.

So there it is. I just can't put up with it. He critizes everything about me, and complains when I don't give him respect. But I just can't respect him, he's tearing my family apart.

Is this normal? What should I do?

 

how old are you?

disagreeing on certain issues doesn't necessarily constitute major personal difference.

 

Yeah, you're age is the key to this!

 

I'm in highschool... That probably explains it. I just get really fed up. When your own father calls you a bitch to your face. But I can move out in 2 1/2 years :2thumbsup:

 

Be the better person. You don't have to fight just because you don't like the other persons view of the world

 

I try to be, I never fight with him. He yells and I walk away. It's not just me though, he does the same thing to my mom

 

son?...is that you?...you little fucker...i told you to stay off the fucking computer till you clean up...your room looks like a bomb went off...a stink bomb...you disgust me...you are just like your mom,that bitch is so lazy i';m surprised she still attempts to breath...i cant wait till you move out...

 

Haha, pretty much. But I'm a girl

 

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my daughter is/was a veggie head since age 12..i am not...we get along great...my son is exactly like me..he hates me...go figure

 

At the risk of being chastised I laughed like hell it this

 

Haha, I know there are! I like in Atlantic Canada, really pretty up here. That's great, I wish we were like that! I get along with people of very different backgrounds and values. I just don't think he likes me in general! XD I'm sure your son doesn't hate you!

 

some reasonable options are

talking to him about it/ family therapy

living with a trusted relative, like a grandparent

 

I would suggest not openly disagreeing on topics in which you know you won't change his mind.

Bear in mind that eating meat or cutting trees can be done in illigitimate and wrong ways, or legitimate and acceptable, and necessary, ways. Hunting, for instance, is doing it right.

I assume he hunts deer or elk or something. Give it a try, it's delicious, and lived freely until dieing swiftly.

I don't think him liking silence makes him any sort of bad person or anything, either.

Some people can be quite impossible when you go against them, but mellow out with a tiny bit of friendlyness and outreach.

 

Parents and children often have different beliefs. Why argue about the differences.

 

From what I can gather about the situation, it just seems like a fairly standard parent/child dynamic. The two of you have different values. But you can still love each other.

I was in a similar situation with my dad when I was in high school. I was a vegetarian for a few years then and he was (and still is) an avid hunter. We disagreed on almost everything politically and we probably disagree even more now. He hated every boyfriend I had and even followed me on a few dates to make sure nothing happened. I thought he let my older sister get away with more than I ever did. But at the end of the day, he was my father and I loved him and I still do.

You're going to have issues with your dad because he's your parent and you're a teenager. That's the way teenage rebellion against authority works. You'll probably get along better with him when you're older. That's what happened with me, at least.