I'm still in the closet for various reasons. I've leaned to thinking I'm bi for many years. But I'm realizing I'm more gay than bi. I've considered coming out, but due to workplace issues I have had in the past I question if it would do anything or me. I work in a homophobic industry, I've had many difficulties with co-workers accusing me of looking at them wrong. It's not always the case either. or I am not aware of doing it. I'm just not sure if being out would make life any less lonely or allow me to be less bullied at work. I'ts gotten to the point were I quit a job at the slightest hint of trouble and I'm tired of it. It's no way to live. I feel insignifigant, lonely and lost, and I live in largely gay populated city on top of that.
It seems that your problems center on your work place. Gay or not. Out or not, you should not be bullied by anyone. Period. I would look for a different work place. People who bully other guys do not constitute productive work environment. You go to work in order to do your job, and make your income, not discuss your sexual life with your coworkers in any way. Coming out in such an environment won't help. Homophobes are not going to be your friends because you are out. It will probably make things even worse. Even those guys who may have been friendly or neutral will most likely run for the hills not wishing to be associated with someone who is challenging the prevailing attitude. Life is nor work only. Go out. Meet other people, network, move on. Life is too short for this nonsense. KD
Little fawn I need more info. What industry do u work in and how old are you. I feel depending on ur age and economic standing the advice I feel u should be given changes. Please elaborate.
I take what I can get and it's usually warehousing. Narrow minded moron's to work with. Not suggesting I'd come out at work. Just tired of being targeted no matter what I do or don't do. It's definatly time for a new line of work, but must pay the bills. Who can afford a lawyer?! Not I.
Surely as long as you are out to yourself and can pursue a happy relationship then it really doesn't matter what your co-workers say. Although I have found that if you just ignore the bullies and don't pay any attention to them they will stop because it is having no effect. But I would say if it is that bad then quit your job. Good luck!
