the asshole friend

I appreciate every single one of your posts and replies. Even the one that says to spend less time being less insecure, you are absolutely right man! I am not going to break up their friendship or anything like that, geeeeeez. I am not that kind of lady. I just asking for some simple advice.. and I have been very well informed.. thank you all . Everything will be alright ;D

 

So what did you think about my hypothesis that your boyfriend/fiancee's friend having autism/aspergers?

 

Doesn't sound like it.

He sounds like he's very insecure and feels the need to push his opinions and way of life on others.

 

So high functioning autistic people can't be insecure? The two theories are not mutually exclusive, they're mutually inclusive.

If you have trouble making friends because of autism/aspergers and the social deficits it often creates, I'd imagine that individual might have pretty low self-esteem and cling to the few friends they are able to make.

People with autism/aspergers can give off a really strong vibe to others of selfishness too, partly because they aren't aware of how they come across and are in their own world that doesn't take the perspective of others.

 

Read your last paragraph.

Autistic people are not socially aware. They are focused on other things. They are not going to come accross as OP's acquaintence did. They are selfish by nature, but they won't have that air of superiority, they don't take others into account in a way that requires them to be superior.

Unless they are the sandy hook type of autistic. In that case, they do care about others.... but that's beyond simply rare.

 

He sounds like a massive, irredeemable tool and I wouldn't buy into anything he says.

Congratulations on the happy coupling and child coming though! enjoy life