Receiving cunnilingus insecurities

So I've been with my boyfriend almost 9 months. Of which the first couple times we had sex, I gave him head of which he never reciprocated, hence I stopped. Only for the reason that I felt like he wasn't into that side of things since he never reciprocated, and I started feeling a bit embarassed doing it.

Last weekend we started talking a bit more about our sex (late I know but we're both quite shy when it comes to talking about sex), and he explained that he felt guilty about never going down on me, and the reason for that was because his exes were a bit weird about it. And I told him I felt weird about it for obvious reasons like feeling insecure about how it may taste/smell for him. But he just said that all I should worry about is lying back and enjoying it.

So we were about to have sex Friday evening and he started venturing down to give me oral, but I chickened out of it. However, last night I allowed him to and it felt really good, and I wasn't so embarassed about it. But after we'd finished I did keep asking him if it was alright for him, because I didn't want him doing anything he didn't want to. And I'm very aware of thinking about how it might smell/taste for him. And he did say it was fine for him.

This morning although he went back to just using his fingers. I don't know whether it was about me, or he just wasn't in the mood at that moment, and I was afraid to ask.

I usually tend to clean myself rather well down there, and I usualy always use baby wipes when I'm staying round his to maintain the freshness and cleanliness.

What could have been the problem?

 

I think the main problem here is communication. I know Vanilla Gorilla.

You can't really take charge of your own orgasm and sex life unless you're able to communicate your desires and boundaries. As much as Cosmopolitan magazine says otherwise, people can't read minds.

Being shy is fine, I'm a shy guy myself (ok, maybe not in bed :biggrin but I'd rather take the risk of rejection than have sex with a big white elephant in the room.

I would start by saying, "I'm afraid of saying this, but..."

Good luck.

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Edit: Also consider the possibility that, for all your shyness, you may actually be wilder in bed than he is.

 

Agree with Cherea on the communication advise! The best sex comes when both partners can communicate their wants, likes, dislikes and fantasies with each other openly. You will both have more fun when you don't have to worry if this or that works, because you will both know. When he is going down on you let him know when he is doing something that feels really good. Maybe he will be circling your clit with his tongue and it is really getting your worked up! Tell him what he is doing feels so fucking hot, moan and grab him by the hair and guide him. He will appreciate feeling like the man and be more interested in doing it again. Once the sexual tension between you two is gone the real good times will cum.

 

We're not embarassed about doing sexua acts, just talking about it. And when he went down on me it did feel really good and responded accordingly. Hence why I'm confused as to why he didn't do it this morning..

 

Tell him you want him to then! Maybe he doesn't know you would like it everytime and if you do there is nothing wrong with that. My lady and I have way more oral sex then straight up sex and we both like it that way. Whatever works for you. Just get over the talking about it hump, because it will only help.

 

Maybe he felt that you didn't like it since you kept asking him about it afterwards.

 

Sit on my face I LOVE locking. Nice clean **** :!

 

Any dude that wont reciprocate is obviously a selfish prat. I must admit the first thing i ever do before i go anywhere near a **** with my cock is to get the face down there and explore. Having a smelly **** doesn't mean its unclean, i quite like a strong smell, it makes me even hornier. If you want experienced tongue down there i am very happy to help out

 

I like givng head, but if eating her out meant putting up with a lot of "do I taste OK?" "how is it for you" jibber jabber, I might use fingers. He wants to eat your pussy. He doesn't want to talk about eating your pussy.

 

Kind of reminds me of this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VD26xyWewcE

C/S,
Rev J

 

wow, this went almost a day before the "i'm adicted to likking pusy have sex with me insted" posts started. new hipforums record.

 

I can't believe we are talking about a problem with a solution that is so damn easy. Girls, if you want your man to lick your pussies, get fully clean down there! Nothing deters a man from going down on a girl more than a putrid pussy that reeks of rotten blood. Putting the shower handle under the pussy is not good enough. Douche yourselves completely, and by that I mean 100%. Not a hint of odor, none, should exist. The goal is to have zero odor and zero flavor. Shower and be meticulous with your pre-sex preparation and it will pay dividends during the act. Anal preparations will pay huge dividends.

 

And if she's completely shaven or partly, it makes it even more enjoyable without pulling hairs from out of the way too & without having to navigate thru them to find her love holes easier too.

 

Good point, and add note to the hairs around her asshole, too. Get that razor and shave them all off.

 

The reason you are so adamant about douching is because you are a douche.

As someone who has learned about sex and health from women not misogynistic neanderthals in locker rooms or reading Hustler I suggest not douching.

Your body has millions of bacteria in it at all times some beneficial, some neutral, some downright bad for you. Then there is natural acidity that helps kill off some bad bacteria. Douching not only washes away bad bacteria and some other things it also washes away good bacteria and changes Ph that fights off infections down there.

Honestly I'm surprised this idiots post was up there this long before someone with a vagina didn't point out what I just did.

C/S,
Rev J

 

Those of us with vaginas are still laughing at the ignorance. :2thumbsup:

Backdoor man is clearly terrified of vaginas, if his username didn't already give it away...he would be better off licking a Barbie doll's crotch. No hair, no flavour, no odor, no indication at all that it is a vagina.

 

Thanks guys for all the advice, I guess I should stop worrying and just enjoy what I get.

 

I also enjoy licking and sucking a **** after I have cum inside it. The taste of mixed spunk and **** juice is delicious.

 

I actually giggled.

Guys - we are women - we have vaginas, which have their own unique smell and taste. It varies little between women. If "it" tastes or smells bad there's probably a slight infection which in my experience (quite vast!!) includes about .0001% of the population at any one time.
A healthy vagina tastes like a healthy vagina at any time of the day and any time of the month with only minute variations..... none bad!!

We also have pubic hair! Men have facial hair!!!
Some chose to shave, others don't; it's a personal decision, but it makes not a scintilla of difference. I have actually never met a man or woman, when presented with my lovely Amazonian jungle has ever knocked me back. They've had fun regardless.

To you whingers .......... Get a life!

 

Cos this is the one that stood out:

No amount of talking is going to do anything if she thinks like that

 

Nor does he understand that stroking the hair, without moving the underlying skin, is a dicfernt, more subtle pleasure.
More hair = more options = more pleasure = better sex