Too Much To Ask?

A girl builds a wall for a reason. Every time she's lied to, used, stabbed in the back, cheated on, every time some one tries to tear her down, she adds another layer. Some one said a real man would take it down, brick by brick. I have to say I disagree. A real man will do what it takes for you to let him in. He'll help you build your wall higher, make it stronger. If it starts to crumble, he'll fix it. If by chance, it falls, he'll be there to stand guard and help you rebuild it because a real man will do what it takes to make sure no one else is given the chance to hurt you. And if he cares about you at all, he won't destroy it if he leaves because he won't hurt you either, even if you aren't meant to be together...

 

I'm gonna have to disagree

 

And why is that?

 

I think a real man would climb over it and find someone else.

 

yep, a real man wouldn't waste his time with someone who creates unnecessary hurdles like that.

 

A real woman would see that a man isn't responsible for how she reacts to past bad experiences.

 

and a real man would give her the chance to realize it's her wall and her choice

 

This is a minor variation on the Cinderella story. It's been beaten to death.

 

Bah! Who needs a real man anyways. Tear down the wall! It is just cowardice that makes you hide behind it.

 

I am sick of always hearing shit about women being victimized, as if men are never victimized by women.

Threads like this make me want to puke.

 

A real man proves to you why he deserves to have a key to the gate.

The wall is for the rest of the world.

 

As Cherea said, it's all so Cinderella. I don't like it either.
But I get that way with posts about guys whinging about the 'friend zone'
So at least, I'm not sexist about it. :devil:

 

There's something to be said about a man that has integrity to dignify woman with nonhurtful methods of being in a relationship or breaking one up. But women should behave like that as well.

 

Wall or no wall, accept her for what she is and if it's meant to be, it's meant to be. If not, show respect and don't cause her anymore grief. and the same can be said vice versa.

Somewhat off-topic but what is a real man or a real woman anyway? Isn't it all just a bunch of silly shit people made up? I think you should just strive to be a real individual (nothing forced) then striving to live up to other people's standards of what a "real (insert gender)" is. Just stand up for what you believe and that's all that matters. There's no such thing as "real men" or "real women" anyway.

 

Teen facebook status thread? I'm getting really sick of these prissy princess "gotta be treated right because I'm sooo worth it and real men only shit on Wednesdays and like fluffy kittens" sentiments floating around.

I do think it's too much to ask a man to play along with mind games backed up by some dodgy metaphor in the name of how terrible your past has been.

 

I'm so glad my relationship isn't this heavy. No-one has to prove anything between us. We're two people who really like eachother. Sometimes we're shitty to eachother and then make friends again. This is life.

 

A real man will help keep the wall up, and make it taller, and stronger.

She started the wall by herself, so look at what she did, and embrace that, now just help her.

 

Arghhh friend zone. These threads are indeed equivalent to eachother. I guess internet whining about nothing knows no gender boundaries.

 

sexual chauvinism.

ugly stuff.

 

I agree with you for the most part but when you mention men and woman in particular, your claim can come off as sort of sexist...it's better to say people because it can go either way, a woman or a man may have built the wall...

"Some people build walls, not to keep others out, but to see who cares enough to break them down."

I think a true lover/friend will stick by you even when things get really tough. Sometimes it seems someone is pushing you away when really it's just a defense mechanism because of past pain. The true lover/friend will help you through this and won't leave.