Give the gift back

Say you get a gift from someone, and you feel that the gift is disingenuous -- that the sentiments behind it are phony. You give the gift back to the person without any explanation as to why. Do you think the intended message conveyed in doing this is fully realized by the other person, especially if they themselves know the gift was in jest? Or would I be the ungrateful bastard, and this action would only serve to minimize their own guilt?

 

You mean like if someone gave you deodorant as a gift, and you thought it was an insult so you gave it back?
It kind of depends who gave the gift. Your mom or a coworker...that sort of thing.
Your story is kind of cryptic.

If you feel insulted, then give it back, but only if you don't care how the other person feels.

 

donate it to cherity. she has a whole collection of those things.

 

if the joke gift is at least a little bit funny, it's ok to have a laugh at yourself

you can also send your own joke gift back in return

if it was a mean spirited joke gift, you could manipulate their joke gift into your own joke gift and give it back

 

Generally the best course of action is to put it in your closet and to never look at it again.

Did you get a U R 2 Sweet valentines chalk candy or something?

 

in this case, you could send it back with a new label that says "smells like mean spirit"

 

Like a live skunk!

 

Yeah, we need more info in order to give you the awesome advice that HFs is world renowned for.

 

I have sent gifts back and explained why. I say be honest. I lost a friend that way once but the way I look at it is he really was not a friend. For example I am diabetic and a guy kept giving me sweets. I kept asking him not too. I finally had to tell him not to come over anymore. If it is a relative, I say still be honest. I refuse to put on phony airs of politeness all for reasons of etiquette.

 

Goodwill takes all kinds of donations. If it is something inappropriate for them, throw it out. If I understand you, the person would not "get it" if you returned it.. Then again we don't know the details so I could be way off base.

 

I would not give the gift back as if someone went to the bother of trying to please me I would rather they felt they did.

I would re-gift it or donate it if I could not use it.

That way we all win.

 

wow..that date went worse than i thought

 

I want to know what this gift was

 

It isn't the same woman.

The "gift." lol... a thoughtless $25 Visa gift card.

 

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Cheers Glen.

 

I think you're being excessively negative about this.

I don't see any malicious intentions here. It sounds like someone wanted to do something nice for you.

Maybe there would have been better choices, but maybe she was stumped as to what to get for you

maybe you could have lunch with her and pay for it with the gift card

It sounds like the gift was given in the spirit of benevolence, and therefor should be received with appreciation

 

Do you think it should have been more?
Is this like Donald Trump giving you a quarter?

 

Nope, she stood me up basically then thought the gift card would appease me.

 

I'd give it back and tell her where to put it.

 

Use it to buy a REALLY mean and thoughtless gift.