I was able to have regular penetration sex today, but not without a struggle. I can no longer ignore a pattern I've been noticing lately of going limp as soon as I see that condom wrap. I've always hated condoms. Cum is my biggest fantasy, but I don't remember having this much trouble before. I'm fishing for reasons. Could be simply aging, could be the fact that I'm in a different phase of my life in which I want an intimate relationship (after 3 years of fucking anything that moved), could be that I'm beginning to explore my bisexuality. I can get a normal erection without a condom, even without stimulation...by simply thinking about chicks. So, it's definitely condom-related performance anxiety. Have you experienced condom impotence? Why do you think? How did it make you feel? How do you address it?
yeah Cherea, sometimes the same can happen with me, but only sometimes. I don't hate condoms - they are a necessary evil if you are actively fucking around - but that doesn't mean to say i like 'em. Had a nice oragasm yesterday with a guy who wanted only bareback. Lots of things can affect us from time to time - aging can be one but you are much younger than me I think. Sometimes it helps if you leave the unwrapping and fitting to your partner. And yes, from your recent posts maybe it's time to start exporing your bi-aspects Good fucking, Simon :sunny:
I forgot to mention I'm in my mid-thirties. Thanks for sharing. Yeah, I'd be perfectly happy with having sex only with people who have been tested in less than 3 months. I understand the 3 month window risk, but it would be a risk I'd tolerate for improving my sex life as much as not using condoms would.
Then it's not aging! IMHO the risk is not worth taking - even at my age. On the other hand if you're the penetrator then the risk is not that big apart from potential fatherhood in the case of women. If you move on to being passive with guys then it's their sensation-loss isn't it. Simon :sunny:
I am with you on condoms being a big mood killer! I don't use them with my lady so that is never a problem, but when we play with others we have a condom must be used rule. I can be as hard as a rock, but as soon as that package comes out it is a fight to stay that way. As for exploring your bi-aspects I say go for it! If it is something you really want to do then there is no reason you should not give it a try. I know my lady was really happy that she explored that side of herself and now is sure how she feels about it.
I never had a problem with condoms.I don't mind them.Obviously it's nicer without.But I find if you can get your partner to put the condom on for you,this can be a turn on,and a great prelude to sex.Make it part of your foreplay.
I had a live in girlfriend last year who hates condoms more than I. We fucked at least once a day bareback for almost a year, and ever since them I have issues when using condoms. Difficult to stay erect sometimes, and takes too long to cum. I figured my penis was spoiled and just needed to get used to using condoms again.
Yes, I wouldn't be passive with a guy without a condom at the moment. No way! And, with women, as long as they are tested, I'm more afraid of pregnancy than anything else.
Condoms have the big disadvantage of not allowing the same sensations & sometimes make sex not as enjoyable for that reason. Maybe allow her to masturbate you without you having a condom on & then with one on. I know the method I prefer - without & a lot more pleasurable too.
I think my penis is spoiled too . I can't stand condoms and rarely ever use them. Having to use one does make the sex less enjoyable for me, but it doesn't kill my hardon. I can stay hard through just about anything... thankfully :smash:
Had an ego-boosting experience tonight. I was able to keep a hard on and have great sex with a condom. This after jacking off twice this morning. It was like the Cherea of old. :biggrin:
Yeah, condoms can be a boner killer so when the balloon comes out, I need some mouth relief to keep me up before it goes on. Once it's on and i'm still hard and I reach my destination, it's all good. Nice to know i'm not the only one who reacts this way towards rubbers. but I must say, there's nothing like going baredick in the pussy but god forbid I become a father at 19.
I have not used condoms for sex in nearly 6-7 years. Greatly prefer having sex without a condom. As far as using them, we've messed around with a few friends and put some old condoms that were handed out to good use- they make great balloons! My worry is that I am spoiled from the years of condom-less sex and should we start to play with others my anxiety will be from using a condom rather than sex with another partner.
