a ridiculously unfathomable accusation

So. My boyfriend has a three year old. shes wonderful. I think shes the bees knees. But you know what isn't the bees knees? When the baby mama accuses me of MOLESTATION. I'm not gonna sit here and explain who I am to you, but that concept is so horrible to me, so far past anything I'm capable of. I never hated his ex, always kept in mind that being rude to her her would suck, she's a part of his life, unfortunately, and pretty much always will be. But to accuse me of something like that literally made me want to vomit. So, in believing that I needed to set this straight myself, not via word of mouth. I messaged her, choosing my words carefully as to avoid conflict, to avoid making her think that I would ever do something. And she picks my words apart, like an immature high schooler. Called me 'little girl' so what, I'm younger than you..... and? I think, if you could see my life, and hers, side by side, you would be as flabbergasted as I, that she would even dare to come at me like this. The daughter doesn't seem to dislike me at all, she adores me, calls me jellybean. Infact there is no reason to even think that she's ever been sexually abused at all. But, if she had been, why automatically make such an assumption? Especially since her (newest) babydaddy, is in jail for literally kicking her face in. So, yeah..... What the fuck. The boyfriend and I are moving in together, and I hope we can have the little one more often, teach her a better way to think.... Because her mommy is literally batshit crazy ): sucks to be caught in the crossfire of a jealous, petty bitch that I didn't do a single thing to, except appreciate what she obviously never did.

And to be clear, the daughter is quite alright. There's nothing that would warrant such a suspicion. ): even the thought of that makes me quite sad. To be accused was such an angrymaking thing. Augh. End rant.

 

rape is a weapon ... just as much as a rape accusation is..

 

I keep thinking, the only thing I don't like about my boyfriend, is his ex. Because. Holy shit. And yeah, you're right. But I think she underestimates how unrealistic she is acting, as well as what type of person I'm known as.

 

If you were a man you would be locked up right now.

 

She didn't alert the authorities. she told him, rhich leads us to believe she made the whole thing up. You're right tho. If I was a male, no one would find this as ridiculous, they would probably figure its a possibility, better safe than not, type of mentality. Which is bullshit that anyone would fake that.

 

I think your boyfriend needs to intervene here.

 

Whats bee knees ???

 

He did. Told her to fuck off. She called him a bad father, also untrue. Fuck her petty games.


Bees knees..... Insect ligaments!

 

I knew I guy that did 5 years for this accusation. He got out because the accuser admitted that she lied. He still had to register as a sex offender however.

 

Spouses crazy ex's can be a crazy making element in a relationship. I sympathize.

 

Yeah. But on the bright side, the only thing I don't like about him is his ex.... Pretty Great. Whatever. Shes the one with problems, not me. She has a habit of lying about these things, I hear. Faked her own rape, when she was a teen, apparently. Known as a 'crazy .bith'

that's some bullshit.... Even tho all claims were false, he still had to register? She fucked him that hard, no consequences for her fraudulent actions??? Justice.....

 

I would make sure this situation is straightened out before you decide to cohabitate. If not you could be in a position in the future of being formally accused and charged.

Being innocent of all of it will not protect you if at some point in the future the ex makes a formal complaint. In fact legally it would probably make it more difficult as she has on her side that she voiced concerns and they were ignored. Be it that they are false or not.

Be very careful, please.

 

It was years ago so I remember all the details, but yeah I don't think anything happened to her.

 

Document everything and then sue her ass for defamation.

 

Okay, so I did message her, on Facebook, to address the accusation myself, and made it very clear I would never put her daughter in any situation to see anything of a sexual nature. I choose my words carefully, made sure I was clear that I did no such thing. Does that *count* as not ignoring her concerns? I will always have those messages to go back and look at, so......?

He is gonna start paying child support in the next month or so, but next school year, he wants to move her in with us and send her to a better school. So after that,he won't need to pay. And you're right, I realize, she's going to be a part of their lives, always. So I have done my best to not engage with her in any dramatic fashion. I mean, I had to contact her to put those claims to rest, but otherwise I haven't bothered with her. I did reach out to her, tried to be friendly. Ignored.

But yes. I can see through her actions. Shes Nuckin futs. Seeing as she lost my wonderful guy, got knocked up by a rather slimy individual, who is now in jail for kicking her face in (literally), she's already said how she regrets everything and wants him back, but according to him he never wants to be with her again, and etc blah blah blah. I do feel sorry for her. Two cute kids, two baby daddies. So much energy going to be wasted on major fuckups. Ugh I always thought I would be the last person for any type of babymomma drama, but.... Here I am....

 

Well, the Facebook exchanges are forever preserved. But the phone calls can't be documented. What's defamation?

 

http://legal-dictionary.thefreedictionary.com/Defamation+of+character

 

Defamation of character, means making you look bad or destroying your reputation.

 

Did she end up in jail? That's got to be a jail offense... Surely.