Man dating woman... 19 year age difference

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by drumminmama, Mar 6, 2013.

  1. drumminmama

    drumminmama Super Moderator Super Moderator

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    So, the folks here have some definite opinions. What about an almost 20 year age gap?
    Both people are of legal age...beyond 28.
     
  2. MamaPeace

    MamaPeace Senior Member

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    My last relationship was a 19 year age gap. It wasnt weird, some people thought it was at first but got used to it. We were still equals. We rarely even noticed our age difference unless it was brought up.
     
  3. pipgirl

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    I'm not opposed to a bigger age gap, as long as the people are adults and mature enough. However I am curious about how it would work. MamaPeace, wasn't the guy a lot more mature? And because of that didn't you guys have very different interests or mentalities? I hope I don't come across as judgemental in any way, I'm just curious.
     
  4. MamaPeace

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    We were practically the same for everything. Interests, mentalities, he was 39, had a house/buisness and everything but was just out to enjoy life. It didnt work out but not because of our ages.

    Also, I am a mother and live alone with my child so I have had to grow up a lot sooner than I would have if I was babyless and living for free at my parents.
     
  5. pipgirl

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    I guess that would make you grow up, yeah :). Thanks for explaining
     
  6. Mike Suicide

    Mike Suicide Sweet and Tender Hooligan

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    I think it depends on the two people involved and but I really don't care what people do or don't do with their lives as long as it doesn't interfere with mine.
     
  7. daisymae

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    It's not something that would last. He's going to get really old, really fast. So as long as she is realistic about it.

    Not something I am likely to do.
     
  8. I'minmyunderwear

    I'minmyunderwear Newbie

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    i seriously doubt that i would do it, and i wouldn't expect it to work out long term in most cases, but i don't care if that's what someone else wants to do.
     
  9. GreenGreenGrassofHome

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    if it works for them, good luck to them.

    I doubt very much that I could stand a 30 year old woman (assuming I could find one who could stand me) because she wouldn't like my music, house, friends, cars, hobbies, daughter (17), sleeping habits etc etc.

    You can only have sex for 7 or 8 hours a day after all.
     
  10. Lady-Lover

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    I think age is a state of mind. If you are compatible in every way it couldn't matter less.
     
  11. daisymae

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    Your maturity is a state of mind. Your body is going to get old and fall apart whether or not you still like to play Twister.

    And then he will die and leave her alone (hopefully no children, it's all the rage with older celebrities these days) for the next 20 years, probably longer when you take into account that women live longer.

    So, yes, it's nice to be all romantic about the state of mind thing, but we all die eventually.
     
  12. Driftwood Gypsy

    Driftwood Gypsy Lifetime Supporter Lifetime Supporter

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    My husband is 24 years older than me and he's the most like me person I've ever met. We get along so well, we are truly soulmates. And I understand and acknowledge he's much older than me and will get old, but that's okay because I'm a nursing assistant so I can take care of him.
     
  13. PEACEFUL LIBRA

    PEACEFUL LIBRA DAMN RIGHT I'M A WEIRDO

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  14. drumminmama

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    It's been interesting reading the assumptions that have been made.
    I randomly chose 28, to keep it clear that this wasn't an 18 yo and a 37 yo.

    No, what assumptions are you seeing in the thread?
     
  15. I'minmyunderwear

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    i was wondering where 28 came from.

    i'm assuming you're referring to the assumption that the man would be older.
     
  16. drumminmama

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    Bingo. This is a 71 yo woman I know.
     
  17. monkjr

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    As long as that reality is acknowledged at the beginning things should be fine. Losing a spouse really can happen at any age for any cause (cancer, violence, car accident), I would still advocate chasing happiness over age gap social acceptance any day.

    Just as long as nobody is getting abused, or manipulated/deceived.
     
  18. daisymae

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    The older the couple, the less important the age gap.

    Frankly, I don't care what two people I will never meet are doing.
    I do wonder if the woman has money, and if he is after it... A lot of elder abuse out there, someone might move in on your elderly parent and start spending their pension cheques.

    There are people like this woman around:
    http://www.globalnews.ca/internet+b...+attempted+murder+in+ns/6442725653/story.html
     
  19. daisymae

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    I didn't assume. I actually thought I read that in the original post.
     
  20. Spectacles

    Spectacles My life is a tapestry Lifetime Supporter

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    Harold and Maude. I still like that movie. I certainly would consider it if I met someone compatible.
     

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