me and my other half have been together for four years and since pretty much day one he's been trying for anal play.. my first thoughts were no, never in a million years. now. not so much. whilst licking my pussy, he's started giving me a little lick and rub around my asshole, which probably got tighter as he did so, but since he has started, i don't cum as hard as when he does so.. the whole thought of it is so taboo that it literally turns me on just thinking about it. so, my question is, as i'm new to anal play etc, is there anything in particular i should be doing for him, and vice versa..?
Encourage him as long as you're comfortable. Moan a little. Give him access to your ass. If he wants to lick it, get into a position that lets him do so without craning his neck (trust me it feels AWESOME). Enjoy. And have some lube handy
use lots of lube and have him start out by fingering you. Once he can fit in two fingers with no problem, you should be ready to take him. Also go slow at first and dont do anything that hurts.
This is how it starts fellas, LISTEN to what this woman is saying. She was like no, never in a million years until he started to eat that ass and now she can't orgasm as hard without it. If you want to get in your girls ass start with the tongue, it's the key that opens the back door. While fingering is a good idea I suggest you finger yourself with lube during masturbation, then have him do it. Once you can get 2 in there comfortably you can let him stick it in your butt. If u think you cum hard from analingus, wait until his dick is in your ass :devil:! The first anal orgam my wife had she cried, swear to God. Make sure an rub your clit while he's fucking your ass. Make sure he puts lube on his cock and then have him SLOWLY put it in. You should be pushing out with your anus like ur trying to pass gas. I know it seems counter intuitive, but doing that dilates the butt try it in the shower or while masturbating. Women find anal painful when they are not aroused by the idea of anal. If you're expecting pleasure and you're warmed up with analingus and fingers you'll relax and his dick will slide in smooth as butter. Trust me he is going to go nuts when he sticks it in your tight virgin ass, he's gonna cum like he's never cum before trust me. Not only because it's so tight and warm but because he's been anticipating this moment since day one, and it's been 4 years! Let us know how it goes! :afro:
If he is still asking after four years you need to consider that soon it is going to become a deal breaker, and make a decision. I had a GF who denied me for 8 years, and then one day I came home and she announced that she had been exploring anal play with dildos, and she required me to do certain things, in certain ways, at certain times, so that she could orgasm at her convenience. I moved out the next week. I was done.
Lucky for my other half, I'm not this high maintenance and don't think I would require anything at certain times and in certain ways. I live away during the week, and I'm seeing him tonight for the first time in two weeks, as long as I get laid. I'm pretty happy. And so is he. I can still reach orgasm with just pussy play, so I'm not too worried! Thanks for the rest of your advice. Fingers crossed he enjoys it as much as I think I'm going to. He's purchased a little vibrating butt plug first - so we will see how that goes! Anything I should know about these??
Just relax and enjoy the vibrations. It will feel amazing. You could also try it out on him. He will most likely love it too.
Anal is hardly taboo these days. It never has been. How do you think people got on before reliable contraception? In Victorian times prostitutes were often almost exclusively anal as a method of avoiding disease and pregnancy. Didn't work very well... In Portugal one study found that for 34% of women it was their sole form of contraception. People just don't talk about it. One persons kink is another persons vanilla.
Anal Sex, be it Gay or Straight, far from being a 'new' thing has been recorded for thousands of years, as the artistic depictions here demonstrate: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anal_sex
That's a bit like asking how to describe 'purple' to someone who's been blind since birth. The nearest I can describe it, though, as far as being on the receiving end is concerned, is that once the initial penetration has been made & contact is made against the prostate, the sensation of being on the brink of orgasm is felt almost immediately - the difference being that rather than that moment only lasting a few seconds before the moment of climax while masturbating / having sex, that feeling of sexual peaking can continue either until your body can take it no more & takes you over the edge, when you can actually have a full orgasm without even having an erection (due to the fact that more often than not, when being penetrated, despite being extremely aroused, any erection will be lost), which is a strange sensation in itself. Alternatively, your partner will cum first, losing his erection, forcing him to withdraw (or he may simply withdraw for other reasons - perhaps at your request), leaving you to complete the session manually - by which time, your orgasmic level will have been raised, boosting the sensations of the eventual climax.
