I was 15-16 when I started realising that I was a lesbian. I hooked up with my first girlfriend (also my first time) when I was 17 and it just confirmed everything. The second we started to make out I knew that what I was. A lesbian. Coming out wasn't hard at all! My friends, family, everyone was fine about it! I've always identified as a lesbian, I have no interest in boys. Many ask me all the time if I ever think about having sex with a boy and my answer is always no. So here is my 'problem' I was drinking at a local bar on the weekend and I found myself glancing up to find a male smiling at me from behind the bar. I couldn't help but smile back. Something just came over me, like I'd been hit by a wave or something. I'd never felt this before. Stupidly, I thought "Is this what people think love at first sight it?" there is no denying I was smitten. I ended up returning to the bar many times just to see his smile again. Drunkenly, I left my number on a piece of paper behind the bar not actually expecting anything but he did message me. We've been messaging a little this weekend, and I know it is only early days but I want to be sure that I can do this. Am I bi-sexual? Or am I still a lesbian with a boy crush? It's really messing me up, I never for a second once before thought I could ever like a boy, let alone actually pursue one by giving him my number! Please share your open and honest thoughts everyone!
Only you can know how you feel. I would say don't worry about defining yourself as lesbian, bi-sexual or whatever. If you like this guy follow your instincts. It's obviously confusing but sexuality isn't a black or white thing. You've met a guy you like, that's great, it's a really good thing. So don't worry about what you are or are not. It could be a one off or maybe you are bi-sexual, it doesn't really matter at the end of the day as long as you're happy. You'll know when you know. https://www.youtube.com/user/lesbianadvice1
Honestly, it could just be a single opposite sex attraction. My partner has one of those, and she was really confused about it for a while before she decided to just go with it. You should just have fun. Don't try to think about what it makes you or doesn't make you. Just try to enjoy yourself, and of course, enjoy the cute guy you met. Of course, this is the only post you made on this site, and it's over two months old, so you'll probably never read this. I guess it's still good advice for other girls in this situation, so I'm still going to post it.
