Love Means Never Having To Say You're Sorry? WTF?

Remember these oddly confusing words from the great weepy flick Love Story: Love means never having to say you're sorry? I don't think anybody in their right mind still knows what any of it was supposed to mean. LOL.

It could mean that if you really love someone, then you will forgive them for hurting you. Or it could mean that if you truly love someone, then you will never hurt them. But that seems a bit odd, because some people go out of their way to hurt those they love the most. Perhaps it means that when you really are in love with someone, words become unnecessary? So WTF? Anybody got a clue to what the author of the immortal line might have been trying to tell us? Or maybe there's ten different ways of interpreting it? So what do you think?

Peace,

~PD

 

I think that can be interpreted in thousands of different ways and in my opinion everyone would be right. To me, love is never having to say your sorry because 1.) you never do anything wrong enough (i.e. cheating, telling lies) to need an incredibly long, heartfelt apology 2.) that the person accepting the apology understands you enough that they really understand how sorry you are and 3.) that you really should know the person apologizing well enough that they dont even need to say a word to get their point across. So basically, I agree with all of your thoughts on the saying.

 

I especially like #3. I only saw the movie one time. And it was a long time ago. I wonder how it would seem to me now? *gonna have to see if they got it on video at the library*

Peace,

~PD

 

i think that at times it takes real love to be able to say that you are sorry.

 

Hey, I like that! So it really should have been: Love means being able to say you're sorry. That certainly is a lot easier to understand.

Peace,

~PD

 

I'm thinking, yeah, it means if you love someone that much you shouldn't have to say sorry in order to get your point across, they should know.

But what if its one sided love? What if, say, I get obsessed with someone, fall madly in love, she doesn't even know me but I end up nearly killing her in passion. Should I say sorry? (I guess what my 'love' actually is should be questioned huh)

I think love means feeling sorry. Not literally..like, if you do something wrong and are in love you'll feel sorry for doing that to them, even if its little, because of the love you have- rather than not caring.

 

Big News! My neighborhood branch library actually had Love Story on video. So I'm gonna be watching it again (last time I saw it was like in 1976?). So I'll let everyone know if I have a different "take" on the "love means" remark. I am a little worried though. Cuz there was like half an inch of dust on the plastic movie case. So I don't think anybody has checked this baby out for a very long time! LOL. I like all the different interpretations so far. Thanks for helping me out. Anybody else have something new/different to add?

Peace,

~PD

 

I have seen the movie last somewhere in the 80's. It is one of those that I have watched a few times. I think I do remember the context of this though. Jennifer Cavalleri (Ali MacGraw) instead of offering forgiveness to Oliver Barrett IV (Ryan O'Neal) delivers this now famous line. Here's where I get shaky I can't for the life of me remember what he did. Anyhow my take on it then (aged 15) was that she had already forgiven him he didn't have to ask for it. I also just found out that Segal's novelization had the line: "Love means not ever having to say you're sorry."

I decided to google this line. There are some interesting things out there.
I especially like what is said on www.selfgrowth.com

I, BTW, have seen this disused by (always male jerks) in that they summoned up this line instead of showing any remorse for being assholes to their partners.

 

Cool. I appreciate all the info. I still haven't taken a peek at the video. Just been way too busy cuz of Christmas and stuff. But your excellent interpretation should help me out big time when I finally get to see the movie again. I mean, it has been literally decades. LOL.

Peace,

~PD

 

I always took it to mean that if you love someone then you'll never even do anything that would make you have to say you're sorry...

 

i think it means that if you are actually in love you will never get yourself into a situation that calls for an appology...this holds especially true cheating situations.