Racial preference in dating: Your help please, esp fm older and more exp ppl

Hello,

I am a 33 y.o. Greek White_Caucasian man. I am straight.

I have a question with regard to Racial Preference in dating that I need you guys to help me solve. Please don't hesistate to post your opinion, I would like as many people as possible to post and say what they think.

Here's my story:

For many years I thought that I was asexual. White Women hardly attracted me sexually or none at all. I would go out in nightclubs, and I would be with dozens of very beautiful young girls, and while I would be attracted to beautiful white women as "trophies", I hardly got an erection by being close to them.

The least attraction I felt to Northern Euro women. While beautiful to behold, my sexual desire for them was less than zero (if that's even possible).

The only output for my sexual instinct was internet p0rn. I got off by watching lesbian p0rn usually but also, solo Asian (Mongoloid) and mixed Asian (Mongoloid)-Caucasian (aka Eurasian) women. We don't have any Asian women here, and extremely few Eurasian (Asian-Caucasian mixed) women.

Sometimes I also watched solo African women, but I honestly didn't like them much, and after some experimentation MUCH frustration I found that they too didn't attract me sexually.

"FRUSTRATION" means that I dated White women, all kinds (blondes, blue eyes, green eyes, brown eyes, brunettes, red haired etc) and I suffered from erectile dysfunction on bed.

That is, I couldn't sustain an erection. I freaked. I thought I suffered from Erectile Dysfunction. I started reading on the interenet, and to my huge relief, I found that I didn't suffer from erectile dysfunction b/c my penis was working just fine during night time, in the morning and while masturbating to Asian/Eurasian p0rn on the internet.

Then, I thought that maybe I fancied African women instead of White women. There are some Nigerian hookers here and in Italy. Since I was in Italy at the time (I was with the Navy) I hooked myself up with a gorgeous Nigerian female pr0.

Same thing. I got an erection but couldn't maintain it. I freaked again.

There was a period that I seriously thought that maybe I was homosexual in denial. But then, men as sexual objects disgusted me (most men disgust me in general TBH) and I was never attracted to any male or transexual.

Recently, I begun to explore the "Asian" part of my sexuality. I found that I fancied Japanese mature women and Chinese mature women. I realized that by just looking at naked Chinese and Japanese women b/c they would give me a strong and firm erection, something that hours of flipping through gorgeous blond White Women with blue eyes and perfect bodies was totally unable to do.

But, even with Japanese and Chinese women I felt that something was amiss. They weren't "Caucasian" enough for my taste. Then I started to remember some girls who really made me mad with desire back in school and also on the internet. They were "Eurasian", Greek girls whose both parents came from Turkey, and they were -usually but not always- Asian/Caucasian mix. They had slanted brown eyes, sometimes so brown as to be almost dark or even black in colour, and prominent cheeckbones but the rest of their features were mostly Euro. I learned later that this type of look was more-or-less somewhat typical Anadolu/Anatolian Turkish look.

Examples:

Turkish actress Fahriye Evcen:
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http://www.forumcax.com/wp-content/...-pictures-fotolari-fotograflari-photos-20.jpg
http://www.kizlarindunyasi.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/02/Fahriye-Evcen-21.jpg
http://g.mynet.com/i/45/54530_0.jpg

Turkish actress Sibel Kekili:
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http://www.welt.de/img/fernsehen/cr...ekilli-teaser22-DW-Kultur-The-Grand-Hyatt.jpg
http://www.sevgimsin.net/wp-content/uploads/2012/06/sibel-kekilli4.jpg
http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/5/5e/Sibel_Kekilli.jpg

[Please note: There is NO PORN whatsoever in the links above].

So, it just dawned on me: I was sexually attracted SOLELY to Turkish Asian-Caucasian mixed women or Greek girls who came from Turkey and were of the same mixed type. Turkish white (unmixed) women didn't attract me. They were -again- completely indifferent to me, sexually.

Then I started searching on the internet, and found that this Turkish "mixed" Caucasian-Asian look could also be found in Central Asia.

So here I am, a Greek found in the extremely ridiculous situation to be SOLELY sexually attracted to racially different women of the "enemy".

What the f... is wrong with me guys? Why can't I be normal like everybody else and have sex with Caucasian women?

Amazed, I started searching some more and discovered that there were two features on the face of such Caucasian-Asian mixed women that turned me on like mad, and made my cock go rock hard, an unheard occurence for someone who almost never had an erection in close proximity of a woman and thought that was suffering of erectile dysfunction:

-Slanted eyes and prominent cheeckbones on an otherwise somewhat Caucasian face, that is, asian features superimposed on a Caucasian face.

Such women caused me, a person who thought of himself as asexual, to go red in the face, lick my lips, sweat and get an unbelievable hard erection.

For the first time in my life I felt like a normal man "like everybody else". I was so happy. I arranged holidays in Turkey and, after many adventures and ridiculous situations b/c I didn't speak Turkish apart from few words, I managed to get myself a Turkish woman who was an Asian-Caucasian mix, but rather more Asian than Caucasian. I found that the more mixed was the Turkish woman (i.e. the more Asian she looked), the greater was my pleasure, i.e. the greatest was my sexual satisfaction. I was unbelievably aroused and had normal sex without any problems maintaining an erection.

Now, because I am a person who likes to think too much, I am trying to find out the reason behind my exlusive racial preference for dating.

My grandfather on my father's side was racially mixed. I think he had some Asian blood (in all probability Turkish) because he had obviously slanted eyes and prominent Asian cheekbones on a mostly Caucasian face. He married with a blond and blue-eyed woman (my grandma on my father's side) but none of his children had blue or green eyes. They all had brown or dark eyes and some had slanted eyes too. (No prominent cheekbones). I look typically white and have hazel eyes but also do have VERY SLIGHTLY slanted eyes so slight as to be impereceptible.

So, strictly speaking, I have got some Asian in me and I am 1/16 Asian or so? Is this why I am soooooo attracted to Asian and Eurasian women?

What do you guys think? Thanks a lot for your assistance.

 

We'd have to be omniscient to answer the question your asking, so you'll probably get no answer but mine.

And my answer is: I have no freaking clue and why does it matter? Just go with what is giving you the best result.

 

tl;dr

 

I skimmed it, and this is all you need to know:

 

I don’t care. Neither does anyone else. IMO you have some serious issues (ED being among them) and you come off as extremely superficial and shallow.

 

What he said. I commend you for putting your perversion in writing and not skimping on words. But in truth your 'thing' has less to do with a 'normal' ethnic preference - which we may or may not have - than with an extremely fetishist obsession with specific features. Believe it or not, but I have friens who are similarly hung up on specific characteristics and who have this strangely rigid conception of their ideal woman. Needless to say they have very little actual sex, and spend most their time masturbating to online porn. I'm really not saying this to troll, but I feel your 'preference' to be less sexual than pathological, so professional help might be something to consider. I don't see you being remotely happy, ever, unless you get beyond this fetishistic fixation.

 

Thank you for your time.

As I am not trained in psychology or behavioral science, I didn't know where to look for my thing. I did some reading on Sexual Fetishism, and it seems that this is what's "wrong" with me.

Thank God, at least I don't have a fetish with dildos or with "frogs and glue". Yeah, actually a clinical case I read about, was the sexual obsession of a man with "frogs and glue" (together).

My sexual preference is not THAT rigid. I seem to get sexually aroused with most women from Japan to Siberia to Central Asia to Turkey but not with Caucasian or African women.

I am really not sure I want to be "cured" of my sexual attraction for Asian and Eurasian women tbh. But knowing what's "wrong" with me is cool, and I thank you for that.

As for "happy", I am far happier now than I used to be when I would go out with my White girlriends and I couldn't have sex with them b/c I didn't get an erection. Really, I don't wish to anybody to go through the pain of wanting to have sex with a woman and being unable to due to inability to produce or sustain an erection.

Monkjr nailed it as well. I think he is wise.

 

Don't take this the wrong way, but the person obsessed with dildos, or with amphibians and adhesives, is no more weird than you are. Or me. Or anyone else.

Dude we ALL have our idiosyncrasies. It's not fair, IMHO, to rank them provided they cause no external damage.

If a person wants to marry a dildo, I don't really care. As long as they're happy and not causing harm, who cares?

As for your preference, be glad that what you like is available and legal. Be thankful you aren't a gay guy in a strict Muslim country.

 

It's just inconvenient your particular fetish is so specific, when I'm sure many men who go for, say, Asian women also have a certain fetishistic streak - but then you can find those in many places all over the world, not just in the Far East, so it's less of a 'problem'. There's a popular but controversial book and movie-adaptation in the Netherlands about this called 'Alleen Maar Nette Mensen' (which translates into something like 'Only Polite Company'). It's about an upper-class Jewish dude (but who looks like a Moroccan hoodlum, and gets the secretly racist brunt of Dutch society for it) who, well, has a thing for 'wild and untamed' black women. Much of the plot involves his capers in the shoddy Amsterdam neighborhood 'De Bijlmer' mingling with the locals and, occasionally, having the 'animalistic' ghetto sex he craves. Definitely not one for the PC-minded.

But regarding peculiar, ultra-specific fetishes, you might just as well say that once you've been truly, game-changing in love with someone, you're pretty much ruined for the rest of the world anyway. The philosopher Slavoj Zizek says something along these lines, about love as the great dividing line between the sexual 'marketplace' and the individual - there is nothing as discriminating and violent as loving someone, since you are in effect saying, 'This person alone, the rest of humanity be damned!'

 

As I mentioned before, that's called "erectile dysfunction."

 

Whatever floats your boat buddy

 

I prefer middle eastern girls or light skin black girls

 

I prefer girls who aren't green skinned. Apart from that, if it doesn't have dangly genitals I'll shag it.