When women say "I dont care about looks"

I am wondering how much looks paly a factor into a relationship. I can understand the initial attraction being important to someone at first but after that do the persons looks become just an average thing you see everyday? I mean do the looks lose the impact they once had and become a normality?

One thing I dont like is when people act like looks do not matter but then they will only go out with people they find attractive. Why say something you dont mean. I was wondering ladies how important looks are to you?

Personally speaking I think a persons character is more important then how good looking they are. I mean if I thought the woman had a good character then she wouldnt have to be really good looking ect.

 

They lying

 

Some mean it obviously. For some it means looks are important but not the most important. And perhaps there are a few who think it doesn't matter to them but in reality it does. So it all differs per person. Tricky huh

 

Looks aren't as important to the average woman as they are to the average man. Obviously, there are exceptions to the trend.

I couldn't be with a man that was hideously ugly, but I've never rated guys strictly by appearance, the way a lot of guys do with women. It's just one of the factors I take into consideration. The personality match is absolutely the most important thing, for a serious relationship.

 

Lol. So what qualities do you like in a man?

 

I have found that when I get to know a girl, it plays a lot on how attractive I found her, like I've met girls I thought were gorgeous but after I got to know them I couldn't be less attracted by them because I didn't like them at all, and the opposite is even more true.

I tend to be attracted by girls that have "a charm", I mean who have a something that makes them look unique, even when they're not good looking by classic standards (in french you can say "elle a un charme" : "she has a charm" which means that). I have been attracted by different looking girls, I like when I feel they look "real", like they're not perfectly "good looking" but seem really unique. Lots of time I find a girl attractive whom my friends wouldn't be attracted by at all, or that would just be labelled as 'ordinary'. I guess it still counts as caring about look, but to me it doesn't feel like I only care for the typical "hot" ones.

So I'd say physical appearance matters, because you have to be attracted that way, but it can never be more important than the personality, I actually need to like both aspects to truly like a girl

 

Confidence and height i think play more of a factor than looks. a chic would rather have a clean, (reasonably) tall & confidently sound man over anything else. I wanna say height doesn't matter but when you're 5'7/5'8, and the higher end of "the game" is about status... I'm a little discouraged.

 

Im 6ft 2 maybe we should date lol.

 

I have found average guys to become really attractive to me when I got go know their personality, and "good looking" guys to become ugly/creepy after getting to know their personality.

You have to have more than a pretty face.

 

I would agree.

12 years ago...I was set up on a blind date and when I first laid eyes on the guy I did not find him attractive at all. His "look" was not my type, I could barely even make eye contact with him initially, I was just so not attracted to him. but I went through with the date and had such a great time. We dated for 2.5 years. The reationship ended not because of his looks (I was hugely attracted to him based on his personality and our chemistry) but because of his over bearing mother and his need to please her.

When it comes down to a relationship there is so much more than looks at play....I think looks can factor into it, but for me its about the chemistry.

 

When a genuine and warm heart smiles from inside of you, it lights up you and the world around you! :sunny:


Conversly, a cold heart can chill an entire room. :freezing:


Those are what I see when I look at people. The form their body has taken around their spirit (true self) isn't really a consideration for me.

 

^^^ Listen to this woman :2thumbsup:.

FYI, Kokujin is a dude. He was telling you what he thought women found attractive.

 

lmfao I got a PM from the guy too. Apparently I make a very attractive chic.

Btw I do think 5'7-5'8 is a very difficult height. if my personality/chemistry/game (let's be honest) is all good, then it can work fine, but I have no room for error the more attractive a girl is.

Am I wrong in this? Girls got an opinion on the matter?

I also may not get initially noted, or be the first guy the girls want the attention of, so I have to find other ways to stand out.

But because of that, it's kind of hard not being the keen/needy guy, when you're fawking shorter than everyone else and ain't getting that initial draw from the opposite sex, ya feel me?

Would be glad to hear from others.

 

Most women will say they want a guy to be taller than them. At 6'1'' I guess height is something I and a lot of other taller guys take for granted.

 

I don't see a major problem there. You're still taller than the average girl.

I don't agree that taller is always better. A big height difference is ridiculous. You can't even kiss standing up, comfortably. That's annoying.

When you spend a lot of time with somebody, you end up doing more talking than anything else, so you had better have some common interests to talk about. If a guy isn't a good conversationalist, I'm going to get bored. A lot of guys just don't know how to talk to women, or how to be a good listener. I also prefer to spend my free time with people who have a positive outlook on life, and treat others with respect.

When I was doing casual hookups, my two big criteria were looks, and the willingness to treat a slut like a lady.
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My first wife was 5'4" I am 6'4" kissing wasn't the problem....... but she was annoying for sure.

 

Things I find attractive in a guy (yes I am female Tommy is my man's name)
1) Nice eyes
2) Good smile
3) Not a cocky attitude
4) some gentlemanly qualities (lights my cig, holds open the door, tells me I look nice on occasion, buys me the occasional drink at the bar)
5) MUST BE A GOOD CONVERSATIONALIST
6) MUST LOOK INTERESTED/LISTENING WHEN I AM SPEAKING
7) Not be a jerk when I have a few too many on occasion (duirng my tipsy moment or the next day), just help me not fall down on my way out of the bar so I can leave with some class (this only happens maybe once or twice a year)
8) Have a sense of humor
9) HAVE A JOB OF SOME SORT (doesn't have to be wealthy but like what he does)
10) NOT BE A CHEAPSKATE
11) Not be jealous type ( or a hot head) I do have male friend but I am here with you so trust me!
12) Graciously help me when a JERK is hitting on me when you come back from the bathroom but don't start a fight with the guy
13) Be a giving lover as well as a receiver and know the meaning of the word foreplay AND BE COACHABLE TO LEARN AND CHANGE TO WHAT LIKE. I will do the same for you if you tell me what to do to please you better.
14) Be willing to be affectionate often in and out (snuggling on the couch, kissing, caress my ass as you walk by, etc) of the bedroom
15) BE HONEST! (so super important)
16) Know how to handle your money but know to enjoy life and spend it when its appropriate
17) Dresses neatly and is groomed. A clean shirt, a shower, a nice close shave, and some nice fitting jeans go a long way with me.
18) Be thoughtful.
I know this is a pretty extensive list but one of you men asked. Notice I didn't say gorgeous, wealthy, or drives a nice car. I make my own cash, have my own car and if you have a lot of things on my list I will already think you are gorgeous as long as you don't have any warts, hideous goiters or other serious deformities.

 

^^^ That's a LONG list, lol.

 

Im worth it in return. Must be doing something right to have found a man that I was able to teach my love language and learn his which has evolved into an almost 3 year relationship with a man that fits just about all of that list to a T. Plus he is drop dead gorgeous and great in bed. Nuff said:love: