Hello, I'm new to the forum. I've been married almost 4 years now...and I'm shy to say this but the sex sucks. My husband is absolutely never into it nor does he want it. It hurts, you know? I feel like I can't ever turn him on and if I do he just cums immediately and it's all over within a few minutes. I've read that men with low sex drive are usually more driven and successful which he very much is. He came from nothing and is a successful doctor. He has A LOT of friends which I don't :c I've been diagnosed with chronic clinical depression for the last 5-6 years but despite the medications and the depression my sex drive is normal... I think this might be a driving force for me to want to divorce him. We waited until we were married to have sex. I figured we'd learn to get good at it but in the last 4 years nothing has gotten better. I used to cry a lot about it; nightly in fact but now...I've gotten to the point of resentment and yearn daily to cheat on him just to get him to wake up and realize how much this means to me. Also, my anti depressants really prevent me from crying (I dunno if that makes sense) but it just makes me feel like I'm holding a lot in and I'll end up cheating on him from the built up pressure. So this is a ditch effort to get some help and some advice. As I said he isn't into me in a sexual way so please don't advice the usual lingerie, candles or bubbles to amp up his drive. I wish there was some way to truly make you believe that I'm a very pretty girl but he doesn't see it I guess? Or he doesn't care for it? I dunno... Anyway, I apologize for the long rant. I really am hoping for some insight and help. Thanks...
yes darlin...my short advice is leave the dude before you are too old to have a happy life without him however,,,these intro threads are not for advice and conversation,,,,,,you need to start a separate thread in the relationship forum and lots of people will try and help you welcome here
