This is a question that can apply to both sexes, but I am specifically interested in what men have to say. My boyfriend wakes up in the morning automatically goes to watch porn, and obviously, masterbates. Meanwhile, I am warm, wet and willing in bed. There is nothing he cannot get from me, I am very open-minded, quite kinky and definately super horny!:2thumbsup: I have spoken to him about it numerous times therefore he knows it hurts my feelings that he choses porn over me, and makes me feel like second best. Now, I am at the point where I feel sexually neglected...and sometimes unsatisfied as I have to also masterbate, which is NOT MY first pick!! Why would he chose porn over me? His explaination: its faster, and less tiring? Huh!?!?!? I make him cum faster than the Porn process... So why would he chose the visual and his hand, over the real deal?
Hmm, perhaps he has a porn addiction (which can have negative consequences all round, including ED) Maybe he doesn't want full blown sex, so next time, try offering a BJ and see if he takes you up (as a BJ is fast, and as quick as a hand job) If he doesn't, you need to perhaps have a more in depth talk. Do you have sex at any other time?
Hi!! Yes I always offer blowjobs, they are my favorite thing to do and I get really turned on from it! He knows he can come see me at anytime and I will gladly suck him, plus I deep throat him and let him face fuck me.... We do have sex at other times, we have, what I think, is a pretty healthy and regular sex life. If not actual sex, we usually make each other cum at least once a day (69,or just oral)...if not everyday because of work or wtv, then at least every second day. I would be more than willing for once or numerious times a day... And he knows that... I feel he is just too lazy for sex...(or oral), even to just sit back and get a bj....like if it is a hassle... And that makes me feel like shit! He is getting mad at me for asking and/or talking about it...he doesnt Want to talk about it anymore. hence why I ask you kind gentlemen !!
Yes definately...for every cum shot he wastes on porn and masterbation... It forces me to masterbate later on too... if he would come to Me, we would have sex, or at the least if I would give him a blow job, which is my biggest turn on, and from which i can practically cum, i Would feel much better and not neglected... So yes, I do... My sexual appitite is for once or more a day...
Sounds like a little more than your average love of porn. Have you asked if he is interested in fucking or getting a bj during his morning fix? Seems like the best of both worlds to me. I don't know any guys who would turn that down, unless it is actually the masturbation he finds fulfilling more than the porn.
What!! You are joking right? Give him a bj while he is watching other women? No way! I am open-minded but that is just crazy talk! Make him cum over other bitches (whores should i say) with my mouth! No way! Does that mean he isnt satisfied with being with me and only my while i am sucking/fucking him? The guy gets everything he wants from Me... Anything he sees on porn... I am young, hot, and good in bed... I just dont get it and your solution is such a typical man thing to say. makes me want to cry that this might be my only solution...
Sweetie it is not a typical man thing to say as I am a girl You may have just answered your own question... if you are not secure enough in your relationship to watch porn and play with your boyfriend then you might want to take a look at other issues than him getting a morning stroke going.
Hey... Your name did not sound very manly lol! Like what issues? I mean, I am secure enough to do a lot of things most women are not, or would not be interested in. I just do not feel comfortable with my bf chosing to watch porn, over coming to come to me. I do not understand why he would want to? Wouldn't most men prefer the real deal? I know all the men who have been with me would this far. Plus I doubt many women are willing to suck thier man off while he watches porn, either way, I am not and that should be respected. I am open to many things and he is lucky to have me, but that is not something i am open to. i am fine with him watching porn when i am not around... As long as its not excessive because then that would just put in question issues of mental health. Just when I am around, why would it be easier for him if I am willing?
I would think it'd be better if you were to be doing that to get him off while he's looking at this stuff, rather than him putting you distantly out of mind while he's doing it himself. At least, in the end, it's you getting him off.
reg sex is kinda boring, in porn sex is glamourized women look their best with make up high heels and porn takes u into a fantasy world (like star wars or comics) but with sex. porn is fun. plus porn girls are a mans utlimate fantasy.
Ok, I am female. When I watch porn, I get turned on, just as your man does. It does not mean I love my husband any less, I get turned on by watching the act of sex - yeah I may fantasise over the odd porn star but it is never going to amount to anything! Do you have a favourite male actor/singer/other who you have fantasised over? (Of course you have) - does that fantasy make you love your man less? I doubt it. So try to understand that giving him a BJ while he is watching porn is no biggie. My husband and I watch porn together occasionally and have a great sex fuelled night while watching - it doesn't mean we love each other any less. However your bf might have a porn addiction issue.
Sounds like a pornography addiction to me. I don't care how big your libido is, if the first thing you think about when getting out of bed is to fap it to hardcore porn - while you have a willing and able young woman at your side - then you're doing it to cope (or rather, not cope) with whatever issues haunt you. It's perfectly normal for men in relationships to spank it to porn every now and then, and this doesn't mean he's "not so into you", but that this is a part of his sexuality he's not wanting to give up. But again, if it's this compulsive thing, where every morning it's the same deal, the two of you might need to have a serious talk, and not just about each getting yours in bed.
Sounds like you associate porn with something bad/negative. Anyone who watches and enjoys porn must have some sort of problem right?
