When women say "I dont care about looks"

Well good for you. Let's hope that's just an ideal wish list and not a prerequisite list. I find girls with prerequisite check lists to be a turnoff.

 

Yes it is an ideal one. Certain ones are of course if the criteria aren't meant are deal breakers of course.

 

I think guys have a similar ideal list.

I can't speak for others, but the how one manages money (not too cheap but not an over spender), is a good quality to look for regardless if you're the guy or the gal.

I have some relatives who married their partner, only to find out soon down the road of marriage that they just married a large pile of financial debt.

There might be genuine love there, but money plays a huge role in how relationships turn out. (Gold diggers can fall into this category).

 

If we talk about relationship, looks aren't too important. As long as the man isn't obese and has no facial hair. What I don't like are beards, goatees, moustaches and any facial hair of the sort. Well, big tatoos would also be not desirable, but I could probably get over it.

Now, if one's talking about attraction, sexual fling, then, I'm a lot more demanding. I pick men to fuck in clubs where we're all barely dressed. Men only wear underpants and I'm in minimal lingerie. So, there are no surprises. Being a reasonably good looking woman, I'm always spoiled for choice. There are very few women and lots of men in these places.

I usually have group sex, several men with me, but only one or two will have intercourse with me. The others can touch me and I'll touch them. It isn't like setting rules, but when it is happening, men approach respectfully and wait for my OK to come closer.

To go to rooms for sex, we all have to take showers and go naked. These are the rules of the places I go to. So, I can see them and they can see me. Some men only wanna be there and get some tenderness from a woman and masturbate watching the action. I always give good views of my body and play with myself to help them out.

I choose for intercourse, men with thick and average length cocks. A cock that is beautiful to look at and that makes me desire it, a little to the big size, but not huge. If it is just for sex, I'm picky. Again, no obese men. A little overweight is fine, but no big belly (beer bellies turn me off).

These are men I will only see again if we meet again in a lifestyle club, so, it is really only for sex. So, only physical attraction plays, nothing else.

I like to have one to fuck me while the others finger, caress, lick my ass, play with my boobs. It's very nice.

 

^^^ Gee, I always wondered what women were looking for in a partner at a swing club... I guess now I know

 

would love to see how drop dead gorgeous you are but we know it's all talk. :devil:

 

I've had lots of women tell me that really good looking guys can become ugly as soon as they open their mouths.

 

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I never said I was drop dead gorgeous. I am average looking but am educated, outgoing, hold a good job and and know how to treat my man. I get lots of male attention but that isn't the point. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I wouldn't really care if you found me attractive or not. I am in a committed relationship and I am a strong confident woman who doesn't need others approval to feel attractive. Anway, I feel lucky to be with a man that I find to be the best looking guy in the world. And I tell him so. Would all other women find him to be drop dead gorgeous? Of course not but a lot do. But actually I don't care. He is a good fit for me so over time I have come to find him even more attractive. I wouldn't care if no one else found him attractive b/c he is all mine.

 

Hey, I was going to use that line Lol

 

Actually I want to challenge that notion of "beauty is in the eye of the beholder".

Certainly to a degree that's true, but regardless there is the law of averages, and from what I read, there IS a universal archetype of physical beauty.

Certain features like

1. Facial symmetry

2. X amount of distance between the eyes

3. Placement of cheekbones

Are some real core features as to what the average human finds visually appealing.

If beauty were in the eye of the holder, this would not be true. Looks are not the only thing that matters, but it can significantly widen or narrow your pool of options.

 

You're right to a certain extent. Beauty is somewhat universal across a society. For example, when people consider someone to be extremely beautiful, there is some leeway in that some may not view that same person as the most beautiful/sexy, but at the same time likely no one would find that same person to be hideous. So there is a standard or commonality so to speak.

 

That's why I said "law of averages", meaning I was speaking towards trends that are statistically significant for an individual's changes on the dating/relationship/love market where looks matter.