My Wife Thinks We Need Another..... Wife???

thesinisterkid · Mar 28, 2013

Decisions.. Decisions, well I'd say try the wmw aka woman,man,woman in bed. See how she likes it. Delve deeper into her reasoning by asking questions like. Do you want me to share you two, and how would it work in your mind. Keep in mind if she just wants a child she could adopt or do a surrogate mother.. There are many options, also ask if she's talking about something like the tv show sister wives, wouldn't hurt to do some investigation about the topic. Good luck man - the sinister kid

smoothieUK · Mar 28, 2013

Dancing in the Mists said:

Generalizing much? I can't stand playing video games for long, and I am one awesome cook I prefer to be playing outdoors, cooking over the campfire, and swimming. Ugh! I can't wait for warmer weather.
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Me neither, its spring here and still freezing the nuts off. You seem like a Woman after my own heart, can you make fairy cakes? If you can i am yours

Mason Grey · Mar 28, 2013

i can't imagine having a second wife, it would be far too much for me.
i am slow and simple.. and love slowly...

are you not having enough sex?
are you losing you love?
you should talk about it frankly

Vanilla Gorilla · Mar 28, 2013

WhichWayDidHeGo? said:

She thinks I need a 2nd wife who is still young enough to have another child and perhaps help with the household income.
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Oi, you should start off with working out what your wife is really after

thesinisterkid · Mar 28, 2013

Vanilla Gorilla said:

Oi, you should start off with working out what your wife is really after
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ditto..

drumminmama · Apr 1, 2013

Vanilla Gorilla said:

Oi, you should start off with working out what your wife is really after
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What, it isn't a breeder financial slave?

Twee · Apr 10, 2013

drumminmama said:

What, it isn't a breeder financial slave?
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This! I just don't see what the fuck the new person would get out of this relationship? Sounds like your wife just wants someone to use.

Mod note: down vote was accidental! It is an up vote. -dm

The_Phantom · Apr 27, 2013

WhichWayDidHeGo? said:

Hey, all.

First post here and it's going to be a doozy. I just can't find anywhere else to talk about this openly and get some outside perspective.

My wife recently brought up the subject of us getting another "wife" for me. She thinks I need a 2nd wife who is still young enough to have another child and perhaps help with the household income. (My current wife is a "home" wife and I believe she is happiest in that role.)

Neither one of us are exactly "young." (I'm 44 and she's 52.) While I like the idea of having more kids, I'm not sure I have the extra energy to keep up with more than the one we already have! (We have a 10 year old daughter.) However, I think she REALLY wants another baby around, even if it's not hers.

Also, we only have a 2 bedroom house. One is ours and the other belongs to our daughter. I'm not sure where we would even put a 2nd wife. Our bedroom isn't big enough for a king sized bed so all 3 of us in there is out of the question. And where would we put another kid if we did have one??

I also think this might have something to do with exploring some "woman on woman" fantasies she has yet to fulfill. Of course, that part I can get into as long as I get to play too.

This is a subject we've joked about a bit over the 12 years we've been together but it's never really taken a serious turn like this. I don't know what has put this in her mind all of a sudden but she seems bent on finding us a 3rd. I'm not really complaining but this will change the dynamics of our whole relationship and I'm trying to find the bumps in the road before we hit them.

Are there any others in a situation like this? If so, how's it working out for you? Jealousy issues? Space? Incomes? Who's on top? How does a couple even go about "dating" for a 2nd wife?

Any advice is greatly appreciated!
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My wife has been doing about the same thing to me for the last 14 years. "Another wife". Recently, I've found out that she's actually a lesbian. But, by being married and having an "old man", she doesn't have to wear the label. Two months ago, she said she wants a divorce... Oh, and I can go on living here with my girl friend.. Then, she said she only said that to push me into getting another woman. And, she wants to be "friends" with my girl friend.

I'm not going to try to tell you that's your situation as well. In my case, the divorce is going to go through. And, I don't think I'm going to worry about a girl friend after that either. I believe I've had enough.

Fingermouse · May 1, 2013

If your wife wants a baby, adopt or foster (but bear in mind her age and ask yourselves if it might be fairer to adopt an older child).

If your wife wants to play around with a woman sexually, find a female fuckbuddy for you both.

Don't mix these two by bringing in another "wife" unless it's what you want more than anything and think it's what's best for your daughter (I can't see how it would be). It reeks of trouble and complications.

Vanilla Gorilla · May 1, 2013

Since this thread has popped up again, I'll link this story, kind of reminded me of it, OPs situation not quite as crazy as the story, but in the same vein

UK mother forced daughter, 14, to get pregnant using sperm donor

Date
April 30, 2013

A woman desperate for another child forced her 14-year-old daughter to get pregnant using syringes of donor sperm, a British judge says.

In a ruling reported for the first time on Monday, High Court judge Peter Jackson said the mother had behaved in "a wicked and selfish way" that almost defied belief.

My mum is a very determined person and she does her best not to let anything get in her way if she wants it.

The judge said the woman, an American divorcee living in Britain with three adopted children, hatched the plan after she was prevented from adopting a fourth.

The scheme involved getting her oldest daughter to inseminate herself with syringes of sperm purchased over the internet from a Denmark-based company, Cryos International.

Jackson said the daughter, identified only as A, "became pregnant at the mother's request, using donor sperm bought by the mother, with the purpose of providing a fourth child for the mother to bring up as her own".

In his ruling, the judge quoted the teenager as saying she was shocked by the suggestion, but thought, "If I do this ... maybe she will love me more."

"My mum is a very determined person and she does her best not to let anything get in her way if she wants it," the teenager added.

The judge said the mother also made the teenager use douches of vinegar or lemon and lime juice in hopes of increasing her chances of having a girl.

The judge said it was likely but not certain that the daughter soon became pregnant and suffered a miscarriage. After six more attempts with the donor sperm, she gave birth to a baby boy in July 2011, when she was 17.

But midwives at the hospital became alarmed by the odd behaviour of A's mother. Her daughter wanted to breastfeed the baby, but her mother said: "We don't want any of that attachment thing."

The hospital alerted the authorities, and the children were taken into foster care. The mother is now serving a five-year jail term for child cruelty.

Details of the case were heard during proceedings at the family division of the High Court over the children's future last year. They were reported for the first time on Monday after several British media organisations, including the publisher of The Guardian newspaper, challenged reporting restrictions.

A court order bars identifying the family members in order to protect the children.
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