Who needs girls when you have video games and internet porn?

He's also terribly irresponsible with all the women he cheats on, his children that he doesn't support, etc., etc.

I'm not bothering replying to anything else you said because you say my 'facts' are wrong, and didn't cite any sources for your corrections; and the overall image you painted read like a Norman Rockwell.

 

I would never pass you up for a video game

 

what do you mean? Are you a psycho, a leper, or something?

 

trust me men when you find the right girl she will be worth more than 10 or even 15 video games

 

I understand where you're coming from although I don't necessarily agree with all you say.

In my experience, while some women are shallow, women should not all be tarred with the same brush. I think more women are attracted to confidence, drive and a love of life than money and good looks and if you come across as a insecure, self loathing person who has given up and is not willing to try (and would rather hide away, watching porn and playing video games), then you've already lost half the battle.

Even if you're in a shit job and are broke, if you show people you're willing to try and improve yourself and that you have the belief that you can better yourself, this goes a long way to improving your standing. Good luck!

 

surely not 20 video games though?

 

Someone say porn?

 

OP has a point and his critics have a point too. Overall I think this thread has maintained a very balanced conversation on the topic of status VS love life success.

The OP has disclosed that he is a teen (19) and so I would like to tell him to not get depressed or anything, as that will work against his future potential to find love if he starts carrying a grudge or bitterness about women with him now.

Also the OP should work toward good health, a good job, and a good positive outlook on life for his own sake, not for the sole or even primary motivation of getting a girl.

 

I think you gave some really good advice overall for someone like the OP, but I want to point out that some things you said. Some of the advice or solutions are a catch 22 in the context of status and success in starting a love/sex life.

Looking clean-cut, is really hard to do if you are born into poverty, or life gives a hard slap to the face to your immediate family if tragedy strikes and the main bread winner lost their job or worse died tragically. Hard to take a shower all the time when water bill wasn't paid on time. Yet more often than not peers will judge you, assuming your hygiene is just bad. Lack of money and status may mean lack of a car, and that can also restrict dating opportunities.

OP has a point that status does matter significantly, he was just wrong about over generalizing it to the entire sex and going into negative tunnel vision thinking.


If someone tells ___ to learn to be more social and be more of a conversationalist that only works to a point because the flipside of this often ends up in that person being someone they aren't. They'd be fake, and the girl will pick up on the fact that a particular guy is forcing a conversation.

Also when I was 19 and younger, I rarely met any girl in my peer group that could hold a conversation about politics, or any other bigger topic. I think topics like that tend to work well with a more intellectual, mature, and older crowd. Most young people I know (high school age 14-19), find those topics out of their league to talk about and can be a turnoff.

 

Yeppers.

Make your life what you want it to be for you.

 

Yes they did....porn porn porn....sig your too funny!

 

If you are going to go through life painting all woman with the same brush then yes you are probably just better off with your video games and porn!

 

Thank you....finally some one sees my point...your cool in my book and I hate video games!!

 

porn porn porn porn glasses porn porn porn gas up the car porn porn porn porn oh dinner with my sisters porn porn porn porn

 

WELLLLLLLL......I am what ever you want me to be....read my post a little slower and just maybe you might get it after a few times....bless your little heart!

 

I am glad we are all PORN lovers....GO PORN.....LOL

 

I'm not a pr0n lover it was just a reference to a beavis and butthead episode, in which they are making fun of an mtv show called true life, and the episode was titled true life: im addicted to porn. lol.
heres a shitty youtube video of it
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UnIBQrI3LMg"]Beavis and Butt-Head- Porn Porn Glasses Porn - YouTube

 

well that attitude ain't getting you laid. I feel like it's crazy some of the transformations men must go through in order to become attractive to the opposite sex.

You want confident passionate happy people when in actuality the world is cruel, filled with bad, and it takes work to not become a cynic?

Whatever happened to just being physically attractive? It's pretty much the only standard you're held to. :2thumbsup:

 

Unless the only things you are passionate about are porn and videogames. I don't care how passionate you are about them, it is never going to impress the ladies.

Given the fact that women can only give birth to a very limited number of children in their lifetime, while men have the biological potential to father many thousands, it makes sense that we have evolved different instinctual mating strategies. In general, men tend to look for one thing in many women while women tend to look for many things in one man.

TO THE OP: You think that because you are an above average looking guy that you should be able to attract an above average looking girl. But it just doesn't work like that. Women care about the whole package (which includes status), and looks are only one part of that package. Guys care about the whole package too, but we put more emphasis on looks. Neither gender is more shallow than the other because of their preferences. It's just how we are.

There are girls that would be interested in dating you (at least once you drop the "all girls suck" attitude). You probably just think you are too good for them. And that's why you are alone. So you basically have a couple of options. You can devote yourself to becoming successful and charming and the type of girls who currently reject you will become attainable. Or you could work on overcoming your own shallow mating instincts and lower your standards a little bit when it comes to looks. Because I guarantee you there are smart, successful, beautiful on the inside women out there who are just as lonely as you are. And they are probably cursing men for being shallow and only caring about looks.

One more thing. It is true that there are gold diggers out there who are cold, calculating, parasites. These women will date a man who has money even if they aren't attracted to him. But the vast majority of women are not like this. Most women do however find success and status to be desirable attributes in a man. These attributes (among others) will make women genuinely attracted to a man. The groupies that have one night stands with butt-ugly musicians don't do so because they hope to benefit financially. They do so because his talent and status make him sexy in spite of his physical appearance. Success and power turn women on for the same unconscious reason that a great set of tits turn men on: they feed the children.