Hello I have this weird thing, I cannot get an instant erection or pleasure whilst masturbating to some hard porn, what I have to do is just watch the whole video (frustratingly) and then just sit in front of this huge rectangular mirror on a chair and start rubbing my penis normally. I get a lot of pleasure from running those pornographic images in my head whilst jacking off in front of the mirror, if I try jacking of to a video like a normal person I get nervous about ejaculating instantly after a few seconds due to nerves, so the result is that I get a very week erection and get bored so I end up just sitting in front of the mirror and using my imagination/memory. This is really bothering me I'm only 22, the poor erections and pre ejaculations started when I was 17, at the time I coped with thinking really hard whilst masturbating (like imagining a different camera angle in the porno) this just increased the anxiety and made me panic resulting in very week orgasms and frustration now I need a clear imagination fuelled by prior viewing (watching and no touching) and facebook stalking:computer: not to mention a large mirror to stare at. Im losing my mind !! And I fear that my penis must be damaged somehow, but the mirror thing must mean that it must be a nerve issue between the penis and the part of the brain that deals with sex Help
Sounds like you are putting too much pressure on yourself. This generates inhibitions. Relaxation is required. It will happen naturally if you don't force it. You get excited in a mirror possibly because you imagine someone looking at you the way you're looking at yourself (subconsciously). Maybe you feel some guilt while looking at porn? Maybe you are more interested in a 1 on 1? I am just guessing here. If anything, you should try to go to a Urologist and explain your erection issue. Even to a regular MD doctor may help. Has anything traumatic happened in your life that could have contributed to this? If not, don't obsess over the question. I'm just addressing a possibility. If it's true, seeking a psychologist may help to explore this and it may help you regain your sexuality. Good luck.
well yeah I have tried many many times to stop because of religious pressure (Im not unintelligent or stoopid) but I have given up and would like some sort of physical gratification. I would like a girlfriend as well. I should try and go out some more maybe. Im not sure How I would approach a doctor if it is serious, it must be psychological since I do get a proper erection with the mirror. How would I fix this and go back to regular jacking?
Honestly, brother, I am just a regular dude on the internet. I am no doctor so don't take me too seriously. I am just giving advice based on personal experience and what you're saying. Personally I feel that religion can put a lot of strain on your sexuality by instilling guilt on something as natural as eating... but only you can decide where you want to go with your faith. See now you're obsessing over the psychological thing. I probably shouldn't have said anything because it may not be anything like that at all. But, my advice would be to go to a regular MD and see how that goes. Ask the doctor what other things you could do to see through the problem. They may or may not recommend counseling. I'll say though that someone your age shouldn't really be having erection problems so it's something to go to a doctor about.
Rather than forcing yourself to masturbate when your body doesn't seem interested, you should try some reverse psychology on yourself by denying yourself the privilege of even touching your penis, let alone masturbating unless you have a full erection to start with. In this way you'll probably find that this simple act of self denial will soon result in achieving an erection in no time. Furthermore, the longer you deny yourself the pleasure, the more intense the orgasm will be when you eventually yield.
I agree - re: when body isn't interested. It takes much longer to masturbate when you are not feeling horny & have no erection at the time. look at some porn & then you'll body will soon let you know it's time to get things warmed up & ready for action to start.
At 22, most guys are trying to figure out how to hide their boners. Sounds like big time guilt issues. Get over it, the gods gave you your dick to enjoy. Bet you're listening to "them," miserable, uptight, frustrated hypocrites. Do your mirror trick if you enjoy it. Watch yourself pleasuring yourself, we all do. Try it all, you can't do anything gay with yourself. Maybe include a carrot or a screwdriver handle with the perfect fit to it to hit your prostate. Explore your nipples, think what a great kisser you are and watch your lips in the mirror. Yes, kissing yourself is a turn on. Give yourself compliments about your dick. And know how great it looks and feels in your hand. Might even give yourself a manicure beforehand. Rub your balls and give them a nice pull, watching them change color. High fivers!
Experiment with other stuff, wait until you're already ridiculously horny. Find out what exactly turns you an and do it. Everyone has good advice for you here.
