Why is Old not sexy?~ for Women

What do you all think of age in your personal opinion?~

Not all old people smell if you take care of your body as you age, are wrinkles unappealing, is perky better, is saggy unappealing, is old not sexy, is wisdom, maturity and expierence sexy?~

I personally find "wrinkles are beautiful, they are lines of Human wisdom painted by the brush of time." ~ to quote Tom Hiddleson, I personally find saggy just as interesting as perky, I find the way people's bodies change as they age fascinating and everyone to me is different.~ I know some young people who's breath stinks, and I know some old people who don't smell like anything but peppermint, I've seen 'young' people move like a turtle, and I've seen 'old' people who could do vaults in the Olympics!~

I think everyone is beautiful and unique and interesting in their own ways and age does not cancel that out but in fact increases it as everyone ages different depending on anything from how they take care of their bodies to what they do with their lives.~

Why is young so desirable and what about old?~ Is '30' "OLD" do people want to be SO young they even want to look like little girls and boys?~ Do you reject the natural adult?~

 

It's probably all linked to fearing mortality.

 

You seem to be right about that, sometimes I look at certain old people who look a certain way I have a sudden panic of fear, perhaps I'm am fearing my own mortality.~

But I will still face my own mortality face to face and head on without running away.~

Still this doesn't explain why so many people seemed repulsed by any one over the age of or AT the age of 30, it seems it may a cultural thing because it seems to be 'in' to hate anyone at or over 30 years old, even if you don't personally feel that way it seems to be the majority agreement or 'fad'.~

 

My husband is much older than me; I love and appreciate his wisdom, his age-earned calm and sense of serenity. Plus I think his crow's feet and grey hairs are adorable <3

 

Where are you getting your information that suggests "people are repulsed by anyone over the age of 30"? I have not seen anything to suggest this trend in our society.

 

Sorry, it just seems a generally implied thing in many recent movies and generally romance between 'young' and 'young' and 'old' and 'old' are seen as 'normal' but 'old' and 'young' seem to be viewed as weird or not even mentioned at all except to poke at for fun.~

 

I love you for answering in both threads!~ ^_^

Thank you for spreading your wisdom and love that many might want to take a look to get a new perspective on age and love.~

Love,

~Bliss

 

I think that you may be mistaken in assuming that these types of romances are based strictly on physical attraction. There are many reasons to be attracted to someone in your own age range besides physical attraction alone (similar life experiences and maturity come to mind).

 

So people's preference in age is another factor because the older someone else it may or may not be harder to relate to them?~ That makes sense.~

 

My own sexiness is partly my body and fitness. A lot of it is my attitude. Older people have better perspective, and can give of themselves. It's makes us sexy.

 

Thanks for that wisdom, I'll take it to heart!~ ^_^

In that case, what you all think of age in your personal opinion?~

 

Thank you all, especially you GBBlondie for showing me the error of my thinking, as such I have almost completely re-written my entire first post to be more like a series of questions asking how people feel about age, instead of being over-generalizing and faulty in my logic.~ Instead of accusing the world, I should just be inquisitive.~

 

Anyone else want to share their thoughts on age and what they like?~

 

Anyone who has "let themselves go" is not going to be attractive unless you have a fetish for that sort of thing.

When I was a teen, 40 year olds were gross. Now that I am 40, they are looking pretty good. It's all perspective. Right now I have no interest in 70 year olds, but talk to me in 30 years.

 

Imho, it is usually the case that an older man has a wife/girlfriend 15-20 sometimes 30 years younger than he is.
It (the age difference) is hardly ever, if ever, mentioned, though.
Remember 'entrapment' - we are supposed to believe a 29-30 year old woman would be interested in a man twice her age (ok, bad e.g).
I think it has only been recently the age differences are not so great...
I'm not quite sure the differences in age is meant to suggest that age is not an issue, or massage the egos of 50-60 year old men.

 

Really? You sure about that? Epi's a funny neurotransmitter, you know.

It's all biology. Older women are no longer fertile and older men aren't going to be around to raise any kids they might have (and their sperm **shudder** is of poorer quality). Obviously not everyone wants kids, but as drumminmama said, it's the reptilian brain.

 

I think it is more about being less beautiful externally, in appearance. A woman who's 70 is often less beautiful than herself at 25.

Wrinkles may mean good things in terms of life experience, figurative things. But it is a sign of telomers being shorter, of a body that is forgetting how to repair itself, of a circulation that is getting worse, etc. It is a visible sign of a living creature in a process of decay.

I'm 44 and I'm not as physically capable as when I was 30, for instance. My cells are less efficient. It's nature. We can delay decay, but it will happen.

I just want to be the best for myself, to try and keep quality of life. I don't care about the being sexy part. This is mostly in the minds of other people, and that, I can control even less than my decaying process. As long as I'm happy within myself, who cares if people perceive me as sexy?

Sexy, speaking in averages, as perceived by men, has always been the young. Men have always preferred younger women than older ones. And as they get older and have ED episodes, they get desperate not to lose that and go for more stimulation. While a younger man can get an erection by thinking of having sex with a hole on the wall, an older man will need a lot of visual stimuli and viagra. I'm generalizing just to make my point understood: of course there are exceptions.

An older man looking at pictures of 20s girls to feel aroused is like an older woman believing some concoction in a pot will make her wrinkles go away: they're both desperately trying to delay decay. We perceive we're declining and can't accept nature. Perfectly natural.

I don't fight what I can't control. Sexy? Perhaps still, but for how long? It doesn't matter. What really matters to me is to try to do things to improve my quality of life, in spite of the decay. No creams in pots, but water, vegetables, fish, exercise.... this kind of things.