How to help my wife with her sexuality.

I've been with my wife nearly 20 years and our marriage is good.
We rarely argue and our sex life is reasonably active considering we have young children, so we are often tired and busy (if you get the picture). I have always tried to support my wife and she does the same for me.
Neither of us have strayed from our maritial bed.

Before I ask my question I want to make it clear that I'm not asking this question for any other reason than I want to make my wife happy. This is soley for her benefit and I will not be a part of it, I want to help her.
I know some people who will read this will say that it is just for me to have some fun. I have no intention of being part of this. This would be her time out of family life. As a person my wife is very caring, she is very attractive but she lacks self-confidence, particularly after having the children.

For many years my wife has said, quite openly, that she would love to have a relationship with another woman.
The first time she said it I was taken aback and I was worried in case I had done something to put her off men. As time passed we have talked about it and I have watched her behaviour around other women and I can honestly tell you know what sort of woman she would go for.
I can see her getting quite frustrated and I don't want her becoming depressed, which will lead to other problems.

From my own experiences of life I know how painful it is to have regrets and I don't want my wife having regrets about wanting to do something that she hasn't allowed herself to.

I have tried to encourage my wife to find a woman to have a friendship with but she doesn't have the confidence to take the first step and I know she is worried that I would leave her.

Can anyone give me advice how I can support my wife to explore her sexuality. I have thought about ignoring the issue and hoping that it would go away but its not as simple as that. I have thought about the risks to our marriage and I'm prepared to give her the freedom she needs so she is happy.

 

What a wonderful husband you are for being so understanding. I can't give any advice regarding approaching another woman, just wanted to give you respect!

 

I would just tell her that its ok with you if she has some kind of sexual relationship with that lady . Dont force her , she may not be interested in her or being bi .

 

She might be more comfortable with the idea if you were to take part in it and ease her into things with a 3-some.

 

It doesn't seem as though things are that broke....so I recommend you not try to fix it.

 

It isn't easy for a man to approach women for sex. For a woman, it's very easy. I'm a woman, hetero, but I sometimes approach women to fuck my husband. If your wife wants a woman, it'll always be easier for her to go after a woman herself than for you to arrange it for her.

You could both visit a lifestyle club. Even if none of you would do anything, you'd at least see it happening and that would perhaps help her lose her inhibitions.

Otherwise, just tell her, like you've already done, that you support her and are OK with it, but don't push it. Some things sound nice as a fantasy, but not everybody is ready to make fantasies come true. I have a few fantasies I have no intention of living in real life. They're just fantasies, not something I really want in my life.

 

Yes, very understanding if over those 20 years she has already had a few girlfriends

 

I don't see that anywhere in the OP - in fact he is asking how he helps his wife explore her sexuality. Again, you are over assuming and adding fiction.

 

I dont see why it would be that hard for this guy to just talk to his wife how she felt about this other woman . It might be that this other woman has no intrest in having sex with another woman . Not ever woman goes for this kind of thing . My g.f. talks about it , but I dont think she would have sex with another woman .

 

You dont see anything in the OP about secret girlfriends he never sees?

Pure fiction eh? Cant be a possibility? You right of coures, his wife has a vagaina, that means she is incapable of telling lies.

I'm the evil villian with a multitude of obvious problems for even suggesting it

 

Neither of us have strayed from our maritial bed.

I get the point , but who talks or writes like that ? Most people might write , I have not cheated on my wife , to my knowledge neither has she . I am ready to put this thread in my post and split pile , then in the troll one.

 

Wow you sound like a great caring guy.i am also in your shoes your situation is so close to mine .my wife don't openly say she wants to find a girlfriend,that's usually one of the things we talk about while getting in the mood.my wife has a friend that they go places and hang out a lot so that part is easy.they are a ready best friends they don't get a chance to spend much time togather.so I try to make a special point of helping her find more time to go do things with her they have got into photograph so now they go for drives here and there.i find she is always in a great relaxed mood when she gets back her friend has some marital problems and she always feels neglected so I'm enjoying them hanging out.im also pretty good friends with my wife's friend so we are all on the same page.there only at an occasional holding hands and a peck on the cheek but if that's where it stays and there comftable with it I'm fine or what ever they do is fine so I hope your wife finds a good friend,than it comes easy the more time you can give them the easier it will be.good luck

 

Did Not Read So Much As One Word Of The The Original Post,

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Cheers Glen.

 

Everyone has to start at one when they find the site don't they I can relate to the guy his writing is a little off but he is still believable.

 

As a woman I feel that I occasionally need contact with other feminine energies. I am one of those that enjoys the fantasy of being with a woman but would probably no actually be with another woman. I do however find much relief in positive female interactions and even embracing other women. Maybe it would be nice for her to simply have another woman that she can connect with as a friend and if they see fit, in a sexual manner.

Good Luck