always worried about getting pregnant, even with BC

Hi. Well the thing is, I really like to have sex (lol of course), and the only thing that hinders my sexual enjoyment is my fear of getting pregnant. I am always very careful. When I wasn't on bc I always used a condom, and now that I'm on the pill, my doctor told me after 7 days it would be safe (in terms of pregnancy) to let the guy cum inside. Let me just copy and paste a concern I posted in a drugs forum, q and a:

Hi. I have been on lutera for 16 days now, not one pill missed, all taken when I wake up in the morning. When I got prescribed these, I asked my doctor if it would be safe (in terms of pregnancy) for the man to ejaculate inside of me while on the pill. She said to wait 7 days and after that I would be covered. So on my 15th day on the pill, I went and had sex without a condom, and he came inside of me. I told myself not to worry but I believe I have a serious fear of getting pregnant, so I took a plan b pill after the sex. Will I be safe? I'm sure I waited long enough to have sex without a condom cuz they said 7 days... and it was over two weeks when I had sex without a condom. I am aware of birth control and how it works but I can't help but worry.

Apparently I should not be worried...but even after knowing the facts I still did worry. I know I didn't have to take that plan b, but I did anyways...it was like an impulse. I've
been doing better about my pregnancy fear but after I let the guy cum inside of me (cuz I wanted him to and he wanted to), I just couldn't help but worry. Its like..I want to have sex and enjoy it, and I usually do, but my fear of getting pregnant tends to get in the way.

 

I would like some advice on how not to worry so much. Its a good thing to worry when it comes to pregnancy, until it gets to the point when you're worrying even with an effective method of birth control. I've used lutera before without a condom, he didn't cum in me though, and I didn't worry at all. Never got pregnant. So when I let a guy cum in me for the first time, even though I know lutera protects you after 7 days of use, I still worried.

 

If you're in a position where getting pregnant would be a very bad thing, I would suggest to still use a condom in addition to birth control. If you're in a relationship and getting pregnant is something you plan on doing with this person anyway, then just use the birth control and know that in the (very unlikely) situation where you become pregnant that it is something you wanted anyway.

I can't really give you advice on how not to worry, because it's a pretty legitimate thing to be worried about.

 

Another thing to keep in mind is that too much worry can cause you to miss a period so don't panic too quickly.

 

Just keep worrying, excessive stress causes fertility rates to drop in animal populations. I'd assume stress + birth control works very well in the prevention of pregnancy... lol

...of course I'm being sarcastic, constant worry is bad for your overall health in general.

 

Holy cow. What a good way to freak out your hormones. Maybe you should give up on having sex until you can approach it with a little more maturity. At the rate you're going, between all the anxiety and the overdosing on estrogen, you're going to create more problems for yourself.

 

Holy cow, what a good way to be a total jerk to someone who is here asking for advice. At the rate you're going, between being rude to people for no reason and the lack of oxygen from being so far up on your high horse, you're going to create more problems for yourself.

 

you go girl..double up on those condoms

kids are the worst

you gotta feed them constantly...they even want food more than once a day


they smell fucking horrible 90% of the time


the piss,shit and snot that you deal with in the first 5 years will fill a swimming pool

they get in trouble,fights and arrested

they talk back and hate you as teens

they move back into your home in their twenties

its horrible

 

sounds like a generalized anxiety disorder.. speak to your psychiatrist, attend a group or rant here.

 

Thanks for the replies everybody. Yeah..I guess I should step back from sex for a while, its just that I like it so much and I've had this problem of worrying about getting pregnant for years. It started as an irrational fear in middle school...the first time I messed around with someone naked, I felt guilty and thought I was gonna get pregnant, even though I knew that doesn't happen unless u actually have sex. When I got older the worry got better, I used condoms and/or I used birth control to prevent pregnancy from happening. However I still do have those moments where I worry when I know I shouldn't. Ill either use a condom, or take a break from sex for a while. Someday I will worry less.
I do have an anxiety problem. I even used to be on medication for it. So that is contributing to the issue a lot

 

I've always used the pull out method even while on the pill. Doing that might lessen your anxiety without having to resort to using condoms.