What's wrong with the middle of the road? (Fuck a fence) Bi-Sexuals get no love

Bisexuals get hate from strait people because as far as they're concerned, it's just as bad as being gay, and they get hate from gay people because as far as they're concerned, they're over-sexed assholes who can't pick a side and just want to soak up all the sex they can in their life, or (usually with bi-sexual women), they're "really not bi they're just calling themselves bi so they can experiment with a girl without calling themselves gay", or they're just a part of the big "being into chicks to impress guys is kewl!" trend.

I'm a bisexual dude, I call myself bisexual because I'm attracted equally to males and females, but I use that term only as a surface classification. It does not define who I am, what characteristics I might have, or anything about me other than I love both males and females in a sex/love way.

I'm in a relationship with a lovely woman, and I am a virgin, so I obviously do not qualify for the "soak up all the sex they can" bullshit.


I will not "pick a side of the fence", and neither should you. Fuck a fence, it does nothing but seperate us.

 

I don't feel hate and I'm bi. I am who I am and, most of the time, people respect me for that. I'm surprised you get hate directed towards you like that.

 

i'm an over-sexed asshole!! i admit it. tee hee. i can't help it. it the best of both worlds. but i have yet to fool around with someone of the same sex

 

i don't know if i'm equally attracted to guys and girls. there are guys i dig and chicks i dig. its not like i keep track. and then there are times when i'm more about one than the other. but there is a lot of misunderstanding by both gay and straight, but i guess we're neither. (just human being blinded, mostly at least, to the boxes of gender)

 

I think there's sort of a bell curve on this, so to speak. Bear with me a little here while I extrapolate my theory.
There are people who only feel sex & love with people of their same sex. There are people who only feel sex & love with people of the opposite sex. These 2 groups are probably the largest segment of the population. There are also people who feel sex & love with either gender. There are a few of us but not as many as the above groupings. There are also people who really prefer sex & feel love with the same sex & those prefer sex & feel love with the opposite sex but will have sex with another person regardless of gender but they always refer back to their "home preference" for lack of better term. I would say of the people I've met this is the smallest group.

This is anecdotal "from experience" kind of thing. I have not done any kind of scientific study on this.

I have also run into quite a few straights that just consider me gay associating whatever baggage they had with that & also met gays that have had issue with my being bi. I also have had wonderful loving relationships with both genders. My longest with my wonderful Wife who has stayed with me for over 24 years now. Don't panic there's time. You may have just not found the right people for you yet.

 

I agree with Snowdancer. I think there's very much a kinda continuum with the biggest groups at either end of them in the straight and gay "sections" and various other smaller groups along it. There's also another small group not even on the scale which is the asexual group.

I've gotten shit for being bi and "not picking a side". I've also gotten shit for "just going through a phase" and being told to "settle down and realise I'm straight."

Well... 5 years on and I'm still in that "phase". Ah well... Personally, as soon as I stopped stressing about my hormones going all over the place and me being attracted to one person one day and another the next, things settled down and I just kinda accepted the fact that I'm not bound by gender.

 

I get the feeling that people aren't taking me seriously rather than giving me grief. i think people are waiting for me to make up my mind. It doesn't matter how many times I tell them I am attracted to women as well as men, they just don't seem to 100% believe me. Why would I lie? That would be a bit pointless.

 

Hey, chill there buddy, first off, they do not define who you are, and any criticisms they make reflect who they are, not who you are.
I am straight, and I fully support complete equality of rights for gays, protected by law. I have never thought poorly of bi's, and upon further thought, it sounds like the most loving and logical position. More love is good, as far as I see it. Not accepting, or excluding one sex or the other as a sex partner is not as loving a stance, to me.

I cannot grasp how people will say that accepting both views is not valid. I say you have made up your mind, good, I love it, and accept it as a truth. I get the fence thing all the time cuz I feel re: individual spiritual beliefs, we can all be right, cuz we are all experiencing unique realities. I'd be more shocked if we all agreed on religion.

having said all that...........
'would you like some cheese with your whine?' lol, just being immature, hope you take it as intended.

 

lol, I'm totally chill bro, I just come across as agressive on the internet. Infact, all my friends that I've grown up with on/offline (met online and started hanging out with offline) always tell me "You act all hard online but you're so nice in real life."

I talk exactly the same, it's just that in real life you get tone of voice too.

 

Awesome, I really liked the post, and I am a fine one to talk, I am forever bitching about something people do that pisses me off to no end. lol

Druggie Fresh,

You can call me 'toked every day of the 80's guy'...........lol

 

Haha, word up

 

I identify as bisexual and have had relatively very little sex, only being with one or two partners of each sex so far in my life. The point is not that we want to get as much ass we can. The point is being willing to accept feelings of love from wherever they naturally come and not prejuding people based on gender anymore than one race or religion or anything else. We all need to stop listening to the propaganda on both sides of the fence, start listening to our hearts, and start showing some respect and acceptance for people whose hearts lead them down different roads than ours do. Just my two cents.

 

Omnia Vincit Amor
Love conquers all.
I accept, respect, and believe in, anyones spiritual values.
I consider them just as valid and true as mine.
Listening to our hearts, I second that.
I read that you are promoting love, and acceptance for people, regardless of their labels. heteros, gays, bi's, atheists, men, women, Christians, Animists,
Buddhists, white, black, red, yellow, etc.
It sounds like a whole lotta love.
I would be curious to hear some attempts to argue that all that love is somehow not good.
Accept, respect, love, and believe each other.
what's the catch? sounds too good to be true

 

What a great poem/statement! Thanks for sharing it.

 

I am so touched by your wonderful compliment, I am turning this into a poem, and I will send it to you. BTW, I checked out your bootie pix, which are very alluring. You are a beauty. Love your hair, nearly the same colour as mine, but mine is much greyer.
I never thought of my post as poetic, but I do write a lot of poetry, and after your reply, I see the reason you would write that. It will hopefully be an improvement once I 'poeticize' it, and if it is not, you let me know. I value your input, a lot.
Snowdancer......awesome name. I love to dance, and I have snowshoed under a full moon to a mountaintop, and it was such a beautiful trip that I cannot imagine words to capture it. The forest was so well lit, we never used lights, and could see colours. Meadows were seas of shimmering, brightly sparkling diamonds.
Merry merry,
Love BG13

 

I'm bisexual. Took me a long time to be comfortable with that term. But you know something who cares which gender you love as long as you just LOVE. I've had lesbian, str8 and poly relationships-from each I've learned that I just like 'em both. Both genders add their own uniqueness and from each individual you gain a new appreciation for the human animal.

Although...if I had my choice of couples...gimme Brad & Jennifer. I think they would make a pretty cool poly couple > not to mention...hmmm...Brad delicious!

 

I'm a gay boi who loves women, perhaps a nice bi/lesbo fellow traveller can translate this into female terms.

Any man who doesn't see women as beautiful has no heart; any man who doesn't see other men as beautiful has no soul.

 

very well said.

 

Thanx!

 

I've been openly bi for about 10 years now, even though now I'm married to a man and have a heterosexual relationship.... but a lot of folks have given me a hard time with being bi... so I know what you mean. As lame as this may sound, the best thing to do is be confindant in who you are, and if folks want to give you a hard time, then ignore them. Explain your feelings to those who authentically care, and ignore the haters....