Ok so heres the story.... Next to my work there is a guy who im very attracted to. At first we didnt really talk to each other, mainly looked... but now we chat a little, ive seen him out a few times etc and i really want to get to know him better. But im a shy person when it comes to the crunch of asking someone out, so do i flirt with him and see what happens, or should i jsut cut to the chase and see how he feels? Any thoughts... what are the signs i should be looking for if he's interested? Cheers
I know how you feel. When it comes to girls I just turn to butter. If there is a girl I fancy I go really shy and never get to ask them out. What I say is just talk to him. Let him know how you feel. Most guys have a hard time trying to suss out the opposite sex. Go and flirt with him. Guys find this fun. Make yourself available but not to available because if you do then you might as well have desperate written on your forehead and that is a big turn off. Just get chatting and drop hints. He may just pick up on that. If he comes on to you then so much the better. Matt
Hey! Dont worry dont rush it! How to tell if he likes you (and if he's flirting with you in his special own guy-way). A lot depends on the type of guy and his individual personality. Shy Guys These are tough to crack sometimes... He'll look at you, until you turn around, then boom, he's looking the other way. You may 'feel' like he's watching you - but he's hard to catch at it He may do something physical - like grab you in a play way, poke you, play with your hair... (Remember when you were really young and the guy you liked punched you or tackled you?) He may be working really hard to pay attention to you, but doesn't quite know how... He may ask a friend of yours about you - he'll say it's just for "friend of mine" that wants to know about you. He talks to everybody else - but when you're around he turns silent, or chokes up. You seem to accidentally bump into him a lot of different places. He may not say a word to you, but he shows up in the same line, at the same movie, etc. He'll give you a little smile from across the room, but if you get near, he won't look up. Basically - the BIG clue is that his behavior changes when you're around (compared to when he's around his buds or other girls). DEAD Giveaway - when you talk to him he turns red. (Bingo - you can pack that puppy up and take him home...) These are some of the more subtle clues - keep your eyes open - you may have more guys flirting with you than you realize!!! He remembers little things you mention in casual conversation. It may take you by surprise. You might have been talking when he was around and two weeks later he'll say, "Well, you like orange fizz..." His voice changes when he talks to you in a group. He may say "Hey." to everyone with you, but the "Hey." to you is a little different. His voice gets softer when the two of you talk. Sometimes he stares straight into your eyes. His eyes get 'soft' when he looks at you. They change slightly or get relaxed around the edges. It's subtle, but you can tell if you watch... (You may already be aware of it at a subconscious level - that's what made you start wondering if he likes you...) When he's near you or talking with you, his eyes travel in a little circle around your face and land back on your eyes. (Like he's looking at your whole face - then back to your eyes.) He watches your lips. (Dead give away.) His friends start asking you questions - if you haven't met him yet - they may ask what your name is. Or may ask you what you think about 'him.' If his friends are paying attention to you after he's been staring at you - it can mean that he's been talking about you. He tells you that you smell nice... (No hidden meaning here - it's a good thing.) He might act weird around you or seem very nervous. His behavior may just plain change when you're around. If he's normally quiet, he may get louder, or vice versa. It's the difference in behavior that's the clue. But yeah haha i got that from some website, Links2love.com Goodluck! is he shy too? but dont worry if a guy likes u, he'll ask u out. but jus give out some 'clues' cuz guys are clue-less.
Damn, that was good^^^ I'm pretty shy around guys I like too. I'm partial to just becoming friends and then letting things sort of happen naturally....which usually doesnt take long if there is a mutal attraction Only time I was not myself was when this tat shop opened up in the plaza where I worked. One of the artists was really hot and really my type. He was a little shy as well though. We smoked together almost every night after I got off work, and I just blurted out one night "if you want to kiss me you can" (that is so unlike me) and then he kissed me and many times after that I've never been so bold since, but yeah...look where it got me! I say go for it if you are gettin' that vibe from him. Good luck, let us know what happens!
the stuff above.....GOLD Ive pretty much got the same situation, is a little different in the way that ive never said a word to this guy, yet see him at least 4 times a week. At the moment this guy lives down my street, he is fairly good looking etc and i see him when i drive to work, walk the dog..... but how am i suppose to flirt when were in a car....ive seriously thought about writing down my number and throwing it in the car window... how do you reckon that would go? Oh sorry to interupt the thread.. Rough Diamond i would flirt a little with him, see how he responds back? if you get the signs go for it.
Hey sophisticaste...wait so u never talked to the dude? does he see u too? well if u do give the guy ur number...that puts u in charge...but like, shudnt he ask for it? wave to him one day!! cuz if a guy really wants a girls number...he'll ask! but putting up ur number in a car is kinda funny..hehe but hey, it works..well so ive heard from my friends anyways!
well...because if a guy really dug u...he'd gave the damn guts to go up to u ask for yer number! of course, i make the first move sometimes....i have no problem with making the first move...esp. with those shy guys! but all the guys who have been worth while, have made the first move on me..because it shows that they care enough to make it. i think of course u gotta give clues, cuz guys are clueless. but i wudnt want a guy whos afraid to walk up 2 me and talk 2 me first! because i aint afraid to go walk up and talk 2 him either!
