I'm Bi and proud

Yes, I am a girl. Yes, I would date a girl. No I am not gay. I am Bisexual. I believe there is a strong difference. Bisexuals are attracted to both male and female genders. I understand why people would consider that gay, but it's not.

 

I to am Bi and very proud. I'm a guy, I'm married to a female and have a boy friend, am I gay no. I love both of them but only have sex with her. Him I have a mental connection with. Society says we are confused, I tell society they are because they don't accept BI people for who they are. Like they accept gays and lesbians.

 

I hate it when people say shit like that. What's their plan for enforcing that "rule"? It's just crazy talk.

 

Welcome Mercedez.

 

I've been an out of the closet bisexual for years, and I've had people telling me that bisexuality doesn't exist, that I'm confused, that I'm really a lesbian because I'm in a relationship with a woman, etcetera. Most of the people who said that to me have been gay, surprisingly. Thankfully, my partner has been more than supportive and accepting of my attraction to both genders.

 

I know, right!?! Thankfully, it only seems to be a small portion of the gay community, but it's still pretty awful.

Unlike the OP, I consider myself to be just as gay as any gay person, even though I'm bisexual. I did marry a woman after all.

We're all in this together. Gay, lesbian, bisexual, bi-curious, transsexual, transgendered, pansexual, omnisexual, whatever other sexuals there are, and heterosexual supporters as well - we're all on the same side here.

 

Maybe it's because of bad experiences with straight people.

If there was an accurate way to measure it, I don't believe anyone would score at 100% or 0% straight or gay, but somewhere in between. And the number would drift over the course of a lifetime, as our personalities evolve.

Last week, I heard someone make reference to the LGBTQ community, with the Q apparently standing for 'queer'. Not long ago, using the Q-word would get you in as much or more hot water as calling someone a fag! Who can keep up with all these changes? Anyway, no matter what, acceptance always works.

 

Errr D'uh, cos that IS the test. Get you angry is the quickest way to get to the truth, one little comment and the vulnerable little girl routine disappears ad we get to see the real you, what your partner actually gets to put up wth behind closed doors.

They'd already know what you are anyway, 26 female and in a relationship with a woman, that in itself is enough of a clue, prime breeding age, so we can cross you out of the baby crazy category automatically.

Then there is how you actually behave around the hot guys, if its only ever a small flicker of a flame, or you always just stand there wait for them to do everything...then we can cross you off another set of categories

Or the opposite of that, you only ever say you are bi to get attention from guys or to try to be queen bee amongst the girls, then you are automatically in another category

'Supportive' is a nicer way of putting it....nicer than saying she's confident you are never going to do anything about it anyway.

What you are is up to everyone else, what you try call yourself is irrelevant

 

Sorry - accidentally hit respond too soon. Typing out my next post right now. Not sure how to delete my post, otherwise, this would be gone.

 

But why is it necessary to get me angry? Why is it any of their business? I assure you, I don't ever pull the 'vulnerable little girl' routine.

I don't know what you even mean by that and the stuff about standing there and letting guys do everything, prime breeding age and baby crazy. I'm having a lot of trouble figuring out what you're getting at here. Please, elaborate.

That's not what I do, either. I could care less about being the queen bee or getting attention from guys. I'm not in high school anymore, so that crap doesn't matter to me.

Actually, we're both in an open relationship right now. So, she's not only supportive of me having sex with other people of both genders, she encourages it. And I encourage her to fool around too.

And what is it that I am to everyone else? Since you're so clearly the expert here, I'd like to know what you think.

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s_8Qlmgw43E"]Kevin Smith defends his gay brother - YouTube

as an aside, I don't neg rep but VG, heres a red thumb down for you, if what you typed out about all you think you know about Victoria isn't just trolling, then I feel really sad for you bro cause thats pretty messed up.
and if it's just VG satire... then... oh. Ha.

 

Why is it any of their business? So you are allowed to dis them and they cant get defensive?....and all for stuff that didnt happen anyway. By "gay community" you are talking about likley a grand total of 3 gay guys that said snotty things to you then giggled when you turn all butch

Thats exactly what happened here, your first post in this thread is pretty irritating and is what set me off in the first place. Oh I'm such a victim, the gay community are so mean to me. Then call you on it and out comes She-ra

Maybe the odd random hookups with some guys, but most around you arent going to see that, and it wont be with most guys. Most of them will just see you in a relationship with a woman, telling them you are bi but nothing ever happens with them. So it will just sound the same as with every other chic, straight or bi, a whole lot of talk to get attention and nothing ever happens. All talk no action. Guys are too used to this

And at 26, you going to pretend you dont have any idea what I am talking about with baby crazy



Guys get used to that as well, total denial on your part is going to look like the bait. Then if they know you are married to a girl many will think the plan is get pregnant, later hit them up for child support. Even if that so isnt the case you'd still have to counter that - not by pretending they are crazy for thinking that

And once the guys gets past 35, good luck getting them to do anything for sex other than sex itself. They are not going to bother with any of this shit if they know full well you are hornier than they are and they will have to do most of the work in the bedroom


So if you do go the next 10, 20, 30 years, no guys just stick to girls or this one woman. Then the "prophecy" gets fulfilled anyway, you will be for all practical purposes anyway, a lesbian.

I'll come off as a tossbag for saying this stuff, even though likely myself and your wife are thinking the same thing, its just a whole bunch of blah blah blah and nothing serious with the guys is going to happen anyway. She wouldnt have gone down the path of thinking long term with you if she didnt think that was the case.

 

Dis them? When did I dis the gay community? I just said that I had some bad experiences with gay people. I looked back at what I wrote, and it was pretty much just "gay people told me bisexuality doesn't exist" and agreeing with someone who said that the gay community ostracizes gay people. There is an element of that, and if you're trying to deny that, then you're not justifying your case. I even said that it's a small portion of the gay community. I'm not painting the entire gay community in a negative light here, just a few close minded members of it.

In fairness, it was really only a grand total of 3 gay guys. Most of the shit I got was from lesbians.

How was it irritating? I was merely reporting what some people said to me. Should I keep my mouth shut about that to avoid irritating you? I don't think I came across like a victim either. I didn't say that they hurt my feelings and made me angry. I just repeated some of the things that they said to me. That's reporting, not playing a victim.

So, should I just climb on top of every guy who knows I'm bisexual and fuck their brains out? I'm in an open relationship, but I'm not a shameless harlot. I don't do hookups either. I have a regular male sex friend and a few occasional fuckbuddies, but that's about it as far as men in my sex life go.

I know what baby crazy is. You just dropped that into your last post out of nowhere, so I didn't know what you were getting at.

Do you really think that's what women are like? That we're all manipulative psychos out to get money from men?

I assure you, I do more than my share of work in the bedroom.

Honestly, I'd be fine with that. I'll have had my share of fun by then. Monogamy's pretty nice, honestly. I was monogamous for four and a half years without any complaints.

Actually, we're having the regular sex friend, who's sort of a mutual boyfriend at this point, move in with us, and my wife's very happy about it. So, your analysis of me based on a few bits of information seems to be wrong.

Seriously, you'd think that the kind of judgmental, close minded crap that you're spewing was coming from a hard right religious nut and not a gay guy.

 

Yea, logged back in tonight, saw this thread *Here*, boy do they get themselves worked up

That one and this thread combined, I think I just give up and go back to funny one liners in non related threads.

 

Here comes the strawman.

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Edit: It's a little bit like the word only, when a man wants to have sex with a woman.

 

Yes, because lord forbid anyone has a few cheap laughs about gay stereotypes like in that thread, or a bisexual woman fights back against your insinuations about her as a person based on the small amount of information you have about her and your own preconceived, fucked up notions about women and bisexuals.

You're so awesome. :2thumbsup:

 

I think its better to say I am "x" and I am not ashamed of it.
I don't see anything to be proud of when it comes to sexuality, race or religion. It is not an accomplishment.

 

Do men really think that all women go through the baby crazy phase?
That one always makes me laugh 'cause I've never felt a drop of baby crazy and tied myself up as soon as the doctors would let me. Fuck breeding.

 

Here's the deal with a term like "baby crazy".

If a woman enjoys sex, shes a whore. If a man does, he's a playa.
If a man plays the field dating a few people (men or women) he's a stud, charismatic, etc. At it's core, men do that because their biological drive is to spread their DNA.
When a womans biology urges reproduction, she's at best "baby crazy" and at worse, a slut.

It is nothing more than males diminishing the value of females in order to keep them in their place through verbal and often physical intimidation.
Why is life and living and biology so bitchin until we warp human nature into something dark?

That said I agree we are already way over populated, which is what is at the very foundation of so much of todays human suffering.

 

You politically correct people are so incapable of any complete line of thinking. All you do is react to key words. VG was making the point that Vic was NOT baby crazy.

And baby crazy has nothing to do with promiscuity, FYI.