I met a girl on a dating website...

Hi, newbie here

Basically, I need advice regarding a girl I've met (or rather, not, that's the problem part!). About 6 weeks ago I joined a dating website (please keep reading, it's not that pathetic!) and after a couple of weeks a girl messaged me. Now, she's really beautiful and the type of girl that if I saw here I'd think "wow" then end up walking away cos I'm too shy to say anything. We're both 20.


She gave me her number after we had exchanged a few messages. About 12 days ago I plucked up courage and rung her. We chatted for about 20 minutes and it seemed really natural and easy. She keeps saying I'm really handsome and that she really likes me, I believe her but don't know how to deal with it cos here's the thing, I've never actually dated anyone or had a girlfriend.


We've sent each other a couple of photos (all clean!) and I rung her again at the beginning of the week and again it was so natural. I'm unemployed at the moment so on pay as you go and I said that it may cut out while we're talking and she was all like "no, no, it's not allowed to" (she was playing, she's not stroppy haha!). Eventually the credit did go and I won't be able to speak to her again till the weekend (thank god for free minutes!).


I want to meet up with her and soon. She's such a beautiful, sweet and funny girl. She's got beautiful eyes. The issue I need advice on here, is how do I 'ask her out'? She seems to really like me but due to my lack of experience with girls am terrified she's gonna say no or if she does meet me not like me. I don't think I'm bad looking, she said when I first rung she thought I'd have loads of girls messaging me so I guess she thinks I'm quite attractive, I dunno.


All the sweet things she says and the fact she likes me is so alien to me and I don't want to mess it up. It's driving me mad cos I just wanna say the right things but feel I'm saying all the wrong things.


Any advice would be gratefully recieved!


Thanks

 

you have a computer, talk to her on google phone..

 

tbh man a 20 year old hot girl? and no offense but from your description of yourself you sound ugly.

it may just be a random person fuckin with you on a fake profile. thats just what ide assume but then again i dont use dateing websites so idk...

and 21 would be a lot easier cause you can go to bars. and drinking makes everything more fun and less intimidating. if you have a fake id ask her if she has one. then dinner drinks movie drinks etc. if you both dont. then just ask her to dinner? you play golf? movie? come over and watch a redbox? smoke weed? what to do really depends on what your both into... those are all things ide do with a girl.. besides smoke weed probably thats a shit date imo. but for her it may be play video games, bowling, museum, ride bikes,

just ask her her hobbies interests what she does for fun.

 

Actually, involvement of alcohol makes things more intimate in my opinion. I personally like to keep the very first meet-up totally casual by just suggesting coffee. And it's really easy to take a girl out for coffee too, as long as there is mutual interest. You just have to say "hey, let's grab some coffee sometime! "

As for the authenticity aspect of this girl... It would help if you two could have a webcam chat. It's important to make sure she is who she says she is. If you could each make a short, personalized video of yourself and send it to the other, it would be great, too.

 

hmm maybe alcohol effects everyone differently i suppose. but its a huge personality booster for me. more confidence, funny, better mood, nicer i just feel a lot better in ice breaking situations after a couple beers.

wait then again i drink almost everyday. lol quite an alcohol tolerance and im used to it for someone who nevers drinks and cant handle it may make you look like an idiot.

 

just ask her out for a romantic dinner together..