Okay a while back this guy in my class I was kinda feeling randomly asks me out...we were in a group of friends and he kinda Just blurted it out. He said exactly, Sarah, I like you, would you go on a date with me? I kinda froze and didn't say anything because a) I thought he was kidding b) it was out of nowhere. So a week later (kinda late) after a ball game I went up to him and was like when you asked me out we're you serious and he hesitated for a while looking at me and he nooded saying yes and asked me if he had made me angry by asking me out..I told him no and he continued to say I talk about you,all the time and his friend came over and got down on one knee... Well another week later (late again!) before winter break, I went up to him after class and asked him if he still wanted to go out...he kinda blew me off around his friends saying no your mean to me and he was like never then he walked away and went off with his friend... So I was like whatever we went on winter break and then we came back to school. First day of class back, he asks me Sarah, did you have a good break and I say yeah and he says that he had the same...then he looked down and was like ' I haven't seen you in so long'? ..whyd he say that ? Anyway like later that week I find out hes been talking to this girl...and apparently he had been way before he asked me out..so I kinda got dis hearted...his friends knew apparently he had asked me out because this one day his friend looked at me and said ' so you guys went on that date yet'? And we both were silent.... So the semester ends and we don't have the same class anymore I decided I want to find out what's really going on and I say... Hey drew its me , I miss u from class I wanna talk to you about something tho! Him....heyyy girl I miss you too what do you have to share Me....well when unasked me out that day I was caught off guard and everything plus I heard you had a gf when u asked me out..so I want to know what's up Him...sorry it took so long to reply I had a bball game , well I'm talking to someone NOW..real sorry :/ First..why would he LIE and say he's talking,to someone now when he was talking to her way before he asked me out...and second...what made him act this way..was any of this my fault? Please help? So I saw him a weekend ago for the first time in almost a year & we completely ignored each other but he checked me out...
He acted this way because he sounds like a jerk, and a fool. Unless your truncating your side of the story, and there's something you've done that has deliberately was rude or insulting and made him feel disrespected then I don't see where you went wrong. I think at this point move on, perhaps he was using you to make another girl jealous, or perhaps both of you are victims of the judgmental cycle of peer-to-peer politics. But whatever the case, move on, or if you want to pull him aside privately and talk to him. If you choose the latter, tell him what angered you was that he was sending mixed signals, and that if he doesn't knock-it-off the window of opportunity for him to go out with you is gonna close, if it hasn't already. Also keep in mind that he could just be a jerk and just used you, and could simply string you along the dating game to get into your pants.
He acted that way b/c he felt rejected when I didnt say anything to him when he asked me out? & yeahh, this happened awhile ago. It just resurfaced b/c I saw him for the first time in almost a year. & we didnt speak to each other. Sent from my SGH-T989 using Tapatalk 2
That's possible. You should've deflected him and floated the idea that if he had pulled you privately aside and asked he might get a straight answer rather than putting you on the spot. (that response would've been honest, and true to yourself)
like standing there silently when he asked her out? i talk to lots of girls. it doesn't mean i have a girlfriend. even if i was pursuing a girl, i don't see why that would mean i couldn't consider pursuing someone else. it's not like anything is exclusive at that point. also, i'm really confused about his friend getting down on one knee up in paragraph 2. i don't know why it would happen, or what the relevance of it could be.
