My girlfriend and I are virgins. She loves the male parts, but hates dating males. She doesn't want dildos or whatever, she wants the male part. She assumes that I won't be sexually satisfying to her. I'm so hurt by this. I guess I am insecure about not being good enough. I feel hurt and upset about it. However, it's the truth though, and I shouldn't be totally 'butthurt' about it, but it just strikes my insecurities. I mean why date me? Why not go do a guy and stop dating me. I love this girl, and I wouldn't want any other partner but her. However, for her, she wants to have a male part to try at least once... I don't know, I guess I just want to rant and tell someone... Maybe I'm confused about sexuality and love. (The title is a bit weird, I meant to type "girlfriend wants straight sex". She doesn't see lesbian sex as satisfying as being penetrated. Sex is all about psychological and physical. If she doesn't find oral/etc sex appealing, then it definitely wouldn't be satisfying, right?) Also, being sexually satisfied is important in any relationship, right?
Honestly Kopi, it seems to me you have only one option. I can tell you really like this girl. Its obvious. However, as I said I believe you have only one option and that is to simply have no reservations and try and give her (as well as experience for yourself) the best sex you know how. I mean pull your resources, (I know you watch Porn) and take your time, explore foreplay....LIVE foreplay my man because it is Essential. Make it last as long as you possible can and go for seconds or thirds, if you can. If she is not satisfied then that is what is. No sense in worrying about it. I applaud you both for being virgins because that is so rare nowadays and I wish I could get a "DO-OVER" on mine. Best advice I can give you is ENJOY IT. Stop stressing and just give it your all enjoying every moment and every sensation. Good luck my friend. -JRod
