Is chivalry dead?

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I love love love chivalry. My husband has NONE NONE NONE. I blame his parents. Something about chivalry makes me see men as protective and cherishing toward the woman that have become special in their life. Lately I've had 6 new men enter my life. 3 of the are chivalrous. Each of them is in their 50s. Of young men, I suspect they have been reared by a feminist that concludes any tender treatment from men to be another way from them to say women are weak ie unequal.

 

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I always hold the door open for a lady. But, truth be told, I only do it so I can check out her ass when she walks by.

Don't tell my wife.

 

There are so many women out there in my generation that have been trained to sneer at a man for being chivalrous, and when questioned why they are acting that way they spew "I'm an independent woman and don't need a mans help!" Chivalry is dying because women have forgotten how to treat and man and therefore a man has a hard time showing that to a woman. Men are chivalrous to women who are respectful to them. Respect seems to be a dying art as well.

 

i'm generally nice to everybody pretty much equally. of course, any guy who does something nice for a woman is either considered a clingy doormat or is assumed to be a fake nice guy just trying to get in her pants, so sometimes i kind of wish being a decent human being didn't come so naturally to me.

at least when i'm nice to guys, they seem to appreciate it.

 

theres nothing wrong with being a decent human being immy.stay you:2thumbsup:

 

I appreciate chivalry. I've never really cared about it in the dating world or in a relationship per se but I just appreciate it in general. Most of the men where I live were brought up to be very courteous towards women. I don't really understand why a woman would find chivalry offensive.

 

If a nice looking woman is waiting to cross the road in front of me, I usually stop or slow down in my car to let her go across. Then as she's walking past me, I sometimes have a look to see what else I like about her as well. If a woman is walking in front of me & is about to go thru a doorway, I open it for her just to a gentlemen & they usually say thanks.

 

Bingo. Though I'd use the word "deference."

 

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My ex had a first degree black belt in Asshat, which is why I never had sex with him, because I wasn't going to be stuck with his ass for the rest of my life if I got pregnant.

Josh, my boyfriend now on the other hand defines chivalry. He does everything for me. Before we even got together he went out at 4 in the morning to get me cigarettes so I wouldn't have to, because he knows I have trouble talking to people sometimes (I'm deaf).

 

I asked my fiance and he said it just comes naturally to him. I thought as much. That's one thing I always loved about him. He holds open doors for me and if there are people behind us when exiting a place, he'll hold it open for them too. If something is heavy he'll take it from me and carry it. He's a perfect gentleman; tries not to lose his cool and even if he does he won't hit or badmouth me.

 

"A lot of women will misbehave and then they'll just say that they're a diva. And they think that just makes everything ok. 'I'm a diva. I can cut in line. I'm a diva. I can be selfish and thoughtless. I'm a diva.' Hmm, I'm pretty sure you're a ****." ~ Sarah Silverman

 

Everyone keeps mentioning just opening doors. Isn't there more to chivalry than that?

 

hope this clears up some of the confusion
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Yes, there is a lot more than opening doors. Mostly it is awareness. They take care of our comforts. Today, a man friend shared his sandwich. The other day a man friend directed me a different way when we came upon a bad odor. It's all sorts of subtleties that are wonderful ways to be treated.

 

Ya know, if I ever catch myself or some woman sneering at a guy who does something chivalrous and just simply polite, I'm call her out on it in be it in a public place or not if she doesn't at least say thank you.

Of course, but "opening doors" is the stereotype action to define the concept.

Other acts:

1. Flowers (usually a reserved action for chivalrous flirting or a special occasion to cheer someone up you know who has a bad day) But this can backfire if you're not clear it's not a romantic gesture if you intend it not to be.

2. Writing love letters

Obviously something that I don't know if many guys do much of anymore. Also I don't know if girls do this either for guys if they receive one. Social media online private messaging, and this generation's ability to use the English language in the era of texting has hurt this craft as well. (penmenship also tends to suck nowadays, because everybody types and expects work typed from schooling, college, and work; all expected to be typed)

3. Shoulder to cry on

4. advice giving

 

hmm...
what would be the equivalent of a woman being 'chivalrous' to a man? Would you just say she's being 'sweet'? What types of things do men find comforting that women do for them?..

 

Good question. Being very warm toward them. Kind and polite. Accepting and not judging or expecting or nagging.