Getting Sex without Drink!

There have been times I've been in Barnes and Noble and some cute girl would be looking in a book section I'm also interested in, and almost tried from that angle. Fuck! A Starbucks was in the same store! "Wanna grab a latte and discuss "The essential bathroom companion of random facts" I got cold feet though.

 

no i know, i was basically saying that there are still ways to pick up girls, just while being creative and thoughtful instead of just like, being dumb and expecting to run back and get laid after being a bro at a bar. sorta like what lodog was saying about a bookstore, or even a museum or someplace like that. sometimes i get too caught up in the whole "don't just look for sex" thing but yeha sometimes that's fine... so yes i'm changing up from what i said earlier, didn't mean to get all "you need to be a human being", but i still maintain that there are plenty of ways to get girls if you just give it some thought and go places with specific interests and strike up conversations. sometimes works sometimes doesn't but just keep trying i guess

 

I think the biggest mistake many men make is to either come on to strong or to be to aloof. Reaching the happy medium is an art. Many women like some mystery or challenge but to much mystery or challenge is a turn off. When men act to timid, insecure, possessive, or clingy; that is a turn off.

Even for just getting laid you need good lines and to know just the right thing to say and when to say it.

I have a good example of a challenge and a winning line that started a relationship and I will be using my ex husbands approach as an example. He was listening in on a conversation at a cafe. He sat in the booth next to ours. He had a fiddle and a backpack with him. I had just had a terrible break up with a guy. I had been with that guy for 3 years. The relationship ended with the guy getting violent. The minute a man physically hurts me (which only happened that one time in my life) I leave him. I was conversing with a female friend who was worried and afraid because the guy I just left, got out of jail after I had pressed charges on him and I let him crash at my house the night before. She was afraid I would get back with him and that I would be in danger. I was reassuring her that I was safe. She was also afraid of my pscho babbling roommate who was harmless and paid rent on time.

My ex husband asked, "Do you need a body guard?" My friend asked him for references. After that he showed us photos of his ex wife and daughter and explained he was trying to get back with her but she kicked him out in the snow. My friend dropped him off at my house to be my body guard since I had a spare room. Now his line, "Do you need a body guard?" opened the door to the beginning of our friendship. He did not act desperate. He was aloof because he wanted to win his wife back. So then the challenge was set. My timing was great too because when he realized his ex had no intention of being with him I stepped in and let him know I liked him. Little did I know we would be married for 11 years and that he was the father of my kids. He is still one of my best friends even though I left him in 2004. I am a heartless B---- I have left every man I have been with. I am a loner and can't do relationships well.

 

I went through the whole going on the wagon rude awakening. I could write a book about it.

Firstly, I lost my "friends". Second, I understood at 31 that my body was on the decline. Thirdly, without alcoholic-teenage delusions, I understood that I wasn't so dashing and charming as I once thought I was. Regardless of the 25 or so chicks I had been able to pick up at bars.

Then, obviously, the problems with the opposite sex were laid bare. There was no escape. I really was on my own.

But, that was the point. Nowadays, I'm completely self-reliant. In ways I never thought possible.

Especially now that I'm mellowing out on sex, which was the last of my vices, I'm really as clean as a sheet of paper. But, I've paid for my prudish maturity with the currency of youthful excess.

It'll be 3 years in June.

 

No alcohol, means no whisky dick! I'm sure some women would appreciate that.

 

Man, you can meet nice women anywhere! You just have to get out there and give a little effort. Don't only have sex on your mind when your talking to them...it will just hold you back and you will seem desperate.

However, I would say most of my sexual encounters always had some kind alcohol involved. Though, I knew the women months/years before we first had sex. We were simply partying one night and it just happened. They were always fantastic experiences however! Haven't really met any new girls in awhile...even to simply hangout with.

Usually when I go out to bars I always have a few drinks with my friends and make some small talk with women or whoever is around me. It usually never leads anywhere from there lol. I suppose I do hold myself back quite alot..even though I feel there are many places I see beautiful women and I get very good vibes or "signals" from them. However, I usually just keep to myself.. It has been quite awhile...hah

Anyways, I say ...get artistic with it! Be different! :sunny:

 

I drink a lot, And almost every weekend, but I never have sex when I have been drinking. I get a headache afterwards so I can´t. And it works.

 

I like guys who don't drink more. than those who drink often.

Sex is never better if the guy is drunk anyway.

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