Anyone got any (true) stories about their sexuality?

Hi guys, so I was wondering, does anyone have any (true) stories about their sexuality? Whether it was coming out or anything like that, what's happened with you?
My story goes a little like this -

In my 3rd year of secondary school (2005, so I was 14) I was getting the absolute hell beaten out of me while being called a pervert for being a lesbian and getting changed in the girls changing rooms. They cracked my head against a wall and I thought I was going to pass out, when the only disabled girl in the school - Megan- came through the door and yelled at them, before being beaten up herself. I passed out and woke up in the science teachers arms on my way to the sick room while an ambulance had been called (never forget ya, Mr Dorcon XD). It turned out that Megan had suffered pretty bad injuries as well. I couldn't believe she had stuck up for me despite the fact that a) she was at a huge disadvantage and b) her parents were opposed to homosexuality and indeed bore resentment towards homosexuals themselves.

As time went on, we got closer and closer and I fell for her. Sure she would reject and then distance herself from me, I took a deep breath as I told her how I felt when I was 17. And to my amazement, she felt the same way. It took a while but her parents finally accepted me. We went on holiday together to celebrate our 5 year anniversary and today...

The girl who came to my rescue all that time ago lowered herself to the ground out of her wheelchair and pulled out a diamond ring. When gay marriage becomes legal, we have pledged to marry each other.

 

good for you jenna , i hope you have a wonderful lifetime together xx

 

Although I describe myself as heterosexual,I have had four sexual experiences with men.Three of them with pick-ups and one who was a friend.I went with the pick-ups because I was flattered that someone,anyone,fancied me.I just wanted physical intimacy and just wanted to be close and held.In fact my last sexual encounter was with a man.I sincerely prefer women,but I find them much harder to pull.With men,you both know what you want,don't have to jump through hoops - you just get it on.The last guy was someone I met in the pub after my life-drawing class.I was standing at the bar getting a drink when I noticed this presence beside me.There was some kind of chemical connection.We started talking and sat down together.In conversation we both insisted we were straight,and the guy,Lex,said he had a girlfriend.But he invited me back to his hotel and we made out.I fancy women much more,but sometimes I really need to love a man.I called Lex one time and we had a quick chat.I still have a photo of him on my phone.I'm still waiting for that special girl to come along though,but I'm not too picky either,I go for personality and chemistry over looks.

 

Although I am straight & married, I sometimes wonder what its like for 2 guys having sex with each other & what they like doing that turns them on the most -
either receiving or giving oral or anal sex ?
When I'm having one of my anal play sessions occasionally, I sometimes imagine in a kinky way its a male penetrating me with either a sex toy or his penis.
I did have a previous encounter ( many years ago) with another male but we didn't have anal sex but pressed our penis against each others groin & anus.
It was a big turn on when I made him ejaculate & I often fantasise about a guy masturbating me. I am bi sexual curious at times. Even when I masturbate, I try & imagine its another guy doing it for me sometimes. I prefer the female body for its extra places to stimulate thou.

 

That is truly wonderful. Good for you.

 

I have to come out twice in every relationship. Once as bisexual and another as open/kinky.

Years ago, I came out to my live in partner about being open/my desire to have multiple partners. Even though it eventually ended our relationship, it was one of the most liberating experiences I've ever had. I always feel like I'm in a monogamous straight jacket in relationships, yet I'm not into the whole conniving and cheating games played by alpha males and females alike. I love intimacy, but I can't stand the sexual morass that intimacy usually leads to in long term monogamous relationships.

I had an open relationship with my ex for a couple months, and it was among the happiest I've ever been. I felt like I had nothing to hide. I felt extremely sexy having sex with both my ex and a friend without having to sneak. Sex was mind blowing with both of them.

Now...I'm in a similar conundrum. I just cried a bit about it. I'm dating a girl who's been a breath of fresh air in my life, and I came out to her as bi. She took it in stride.

But I still haven't come out to her as open/kinky. And, even though we still haven't had "the talk", I'm feeling like we are de facto monogamous and it will ruin my relationship with her if I don't come out to her as open.

I'm terribly afraid of losing her for it.

 

Wow, that is great, I hope you two have a long and happy relationship!

I am bisexual and I really can't remember a time when I was not as attracted to other girls as much as guys. I started experimenting about the same time in the same ways with both, had sex with both about the same time and have remanied especially active with both; it is really a 50/50 split.

Since my middle teens I have been wide open about it and I never had too many problems with people, just the occasional idiot who can't stand not to mind other people's business, a few fights and a lot of honing my sarcastic wit. I am not all that easy to bother about it... the only true awkward moments were my Daddy catching me with a girlfriend the first time and having to explain it to my Grandmother.

My kinks have gotten more attention than my orientation because I am very extreme and people seems to have more trouble comprehending that excruciating pain is actually the epitome of pleasure for me. More than once a random do-gooder has tried to help with my "abuse" and convince me how much of a problem I have. I suppose BDSM is still more taboo than same sex relationships

 

@ OP - Congratulations on your engagement. I wish you and your partner all the best with your future together. Hopefully you'll come back and participate on these forums as well.

As for my own story... I'll just keep things vague. I'll just say that society once had me believing I was one way when I really wasn't. During the time period when I thought I was something based on what society would label me as, I'd told three people about it because I was very stressed out about it. I'd considered them as my best friends at the time. They all had said comforting things to me, and they'd made it clear they were still my friends.

But something didn't add up, and I started doing my own research only to find society had been wrong all along. I wasn't what it made me think I was. I told the three friends about this, but I suppose the damage was already done. Eventually, two of them betrayed me and fucked me over, though, I'm sure they'd just deny it had anything to do with my falsely assumed sexual orientation, if I ever chose to ask them about it now. The only remaining one out of the three is still my best friend, has been for 16 years, and I don't see this friendship ending any time soon. At times like this, you get to find out who truly knows you and who only knows what you're like on the outside. The other two people may have known me for longer periods of time(only by a few years however), but the one who stuck by me actually knew me and what I was really like, based on the deep connection w shared.

These days, I just be myself and let people decide what I'm like based on how I come across, and the bonds they may have developed with me.....which has always been how I interacted with people. But during the period where I was very stressed out about myself, there was a part of me that put the emotional/mental guard up really high in the hope to conceal my sexuality. At some point, though, I came to a realization that I'm just human, a hetero-sexual male who may find male sexuality arousing in certain select situations, and who overall finds the human body to be sensual and erotic but in a positive, celebrating fashion rather than in a degrading way.

Just the other day, I confessed to my SO I have a tame pee fetish(I'm not into extreme pee fetish, though). She isn't into that, but she said she'd try something very light and mild(such as peeing on my foot) with me because she wanted me to be happy. This prompted me to tell her I wouldn't want her to do something just to make me happy, and that our relationship was about exploring MUTUAL enjoyment. I may have certain fetishes, but that doesn't mean I require some of them in real life. She and I communicate like that, and make sure we're on the same page sexually and otherwise.

So, ever since I've come to the aforementioned realization about myself, I've been pretty happy where my own sexuality is concerned. I am, however, deeply concerned about the false categorization/labeling issue going on in society, because people are being brainwashed everyday. Because of such societal brainwashing, I've been called names and my sexuality falsely assumed. If I experienced it, then there must be thousands, millions more out there with similar experiences. This is causing more harm to the human nation than good in my opinion, despite society's never-ending "crusades" to keep some of us "quarantined" in the hope to "protect" the rest. It's all bullshit as far as I'm concerned, and society is only disrupting the harmony in the world by continuing with this brainwashing. Now society categorizes even love. It implies love is to be analyzed and digested, rather than felt and lived. "Oh, that isn't love", "oh, that's not the same kind of love", "oh, you don't know what love is", blah blah blah. All these things society has been doing to us, I started to realize bits by bits over the last decade or so.

My sexuality is one aspect of who/what I am, and who/what I am is not about harming others. I am about being a loving, compassionate living entity. I'm not perfect(nobody is), but I'm friendly and I have a positive outlook on my sexuality today thanks to my own exploration of my inner self.

 

Awww, thats so cute made me want to hug a bunny.

I'm not being facetious, did actually make me feel that way, which for me is a big deal....or maybe someone just slipped some Provera in my coffee

 

That really is a wonderful story. I wish the start of my relationship with my partner was that romantic. Instead, it was just a drunken one nighter between two women who didn't like each other that somehow blossomed into a five and a half year relationship and recently, marriage.

My partner has a bit of an interesting coming out story. Her parents are both right wing conservative types, and she was afraid they'd disown her. She and her first girlfriend sat them down and talked to them and she came out of the closet to them. They were a little angry, not because she was gay, but because they already had their suspicions about it and they were hurt that she didn't feel like she could come out to them sooner. They both completely accept and support their daughter being a lesbian, and they treat me like a member of the family.

 

I've had plenty of gay experiences, but I know I'm bi. My cousin is Bi as well, and all of my friends know I'm bi, but I'm too scared to tell my family, not even my cousin. It's weird, they're fine with gay, lesbian, straight, everything but bi, they think it's unnatural or immoral, they practically disowned my cousin when she came out of the closet. What should I do?

 

Great story! Mine isnt is dramatic. I'm straight. I didnt get married until I was 38 years old and to the wrong woman. (She couldn't even give a blow job right....who can't do that?!) Went bankrupt. Sex stopped. Got divorced. Moved out. Lived in a tiny effieciency apartment for like two years. Drank. Worked out. Got laid. Fucked a married woman. Fucked my ex brother in law's ex wife. Pretty much was up to fuck anything that moved back then. Met my current fiance. Clicked. Been together for going on three years....sex whenever I want. Living in a nice pad. Just your average joe.