Let me add a little more info. This person has been my friend for over 10 yrs but we became really close over the past 3 yrs. Im the first one she speaks to in the morning and the last one before she sleeps. She has a bf which she refuses to talk abt with me, cant even get his name out. Everyday my feelings grow more for her. It honestly makes me sad that I can never act on it. I need to let my feelings go but its hard when she doesnt give me space. What to do to remove myself from what is becoming functioning dysfunction?
You weren't really clear if she's aware that you're interested in her or if she's interested in you.. It sounds like unrequited love though.. As difficult as it is, you just have to just let go because it's not fair to give your heart and energy when you're not getting loved back... Be with someone that deserves you.
Agree with Rainy. It seems you have three options. Come clean with her and see what that leads too. Distance yourself from her, or gain more control over your feelings for her. The first option may result in the second option happening, but allowing the current situation to continue is making you an emotional mess, and probably developing some sort of codependency problem for the both of you based on this: It is also possible that since she can't talk about her bf to you, to the extent you mention, that there may be some sort of serious problem in her relationship over the last few years which has caused her to cling to you for emotional support. For your own sake, maybe find another friend you can spend some time with for some balance.
Thank you both for your replies. Believe me I am trying to distance myself from her and she goes out of her way to find me. I dont know what else to do short of telling her to leave me alone and I would never do that.
