I have read the threads on here and mostly what i find is along if men are ok with it.what I'm looking for from male in the same situation or females is help on how to bring it up with my partner? She is against receiving anal. I originally was just trying to figure out how to bring up her anally simulating me, but after reading on here the switching of roles and using a strap on sounds AMAZING , just can't figure out how to start that conversation or where to go with it. Any and all advise is greatly appreciated.
first find out why she doesn't like to receive anal. her views on it will be what determines whether or not she is willing to play with your ass. has she tried anal before? what didn't she like about it? it can be extremely pleasurable if done right, and if it isn't done right then the person can be turned off anal really really easily! after you find out her reasons, there may be opportunity to show her that it doesn't hurt, isn't 'dirty', and can be a lot of fun. once she's enjoying receiving, then she may be more open to giving.
I bought a Hip G Spot Vibrator a few years ago to use as a prostate stimulator during anal play on myself & it stimulates the prostate well - even without the vibrator switched on. It definately makes the precum start trickling out when it hits the prostate.
I think this may be the way to approach this with your GF. When women realize that the prostate is a sexual organ in men, they are more apt to try it out. It is more than just wanting a finger up your ass (as fun as that may be) but actually enhances the sexual act for men. If you are giving your GF pleasure, she is more likely to return the favor. My GF has no problem with playing with my asshole but then again, she is from a different culture and seems willing to try almost anything. :2thumbsup:
well when it comes to anal you have to start with something small like a small butt plug or a finger over time you and use bigger things so no strap ons for now. 1.thing is get clean you can use a anal douche . 2 lube up you need alot of lube and a good one. 3 start small and slowly over time you can use bigger things
The way to introduce it to her would be to say, while she is pleasuring you, "can you try to stroke my bum hole/asshole, but no finger inside" or whatever "bed" language you are used to using - if she is turned on she will do it. Experience has taught me that the way to introduce any "new" sexual act is to mention it while both of you are turned on - it's much more likely to happen under those conditions. Showing yourself to be too eager for a finger inside might put her off for the first go, which is why I am suggesting the slow route. Just let her do the simple teasing around the hole with her finger a few times while having sex, and then see if she is willing to progress in a few weeks to put a finger inside. If she is not willing to put a finger inside but likes to play around it, then spend time discussing the prostrate and see if she is willing to put a toy inside such as a gspot massager. If she is into pleasuring you, and she sees how much pleasure you get from it, she will do it again. The thought of licking an arsehole a few years ago sickened me, but one night a few years ago we were both very turned on and while kissing his thighs and buttox, I just let my tongue slip around his butt hole - he moaned so loud that I now do this 99 percent of the time we have sex. Our foreplay lasts for a couple of hours each time, actual penetration is only a very small part of our sex life, and always done as the last thing. I now LOVE to play with my husbands arse, I love licking it, tongue fucking it and so desperately want to massage his prostrate (working on that as he is not too keen on finger inside/toys inside him). I love to pleasure him, it turns me on, in fact I love it more than being pleasured. However, I have to say if he had asked me to do it, especially when not in an erotic mood, my answer may have been no. Just because she is against anal as a receiver, does not mean she won't be a giver, especially if she loves to pleasure you. If she is not willing to play with your arse, get her to stroke your perineum (area between between the balls and butt hole) in foreplay as that is the front wall of your gspot outside. I lick my hubbies perineum during giving him oral - it really turns him on.
I just want someone to watch me finger my asshole up close. It might seem nasty to some but thats what turns me on. Also, i love watching cum come out. I would like to try a big cumshot in my mouth. Curious how it tastes.
That was hot Inca, thanks for sharing it. To the OP, I echo this, you need to introduce your lover to the pleasures that you want to enjoy, once she experiences them, there probably won't be too much resistance to returning the favor.
