Is there such thing as a perfect person for you?

Nah :sunny:

 

I certainly don't believe that there is such a thing as a perfect

out there, so to speak. i believe more that one might find someone with whom mutual interests were shared and that over time the bond grew until that person became your perfect partner (not that i think perfection is a good way to put these things, we love each other for our flaws, as well as, if not rather than, our perfection.)

these things grow over time, i don't believe that there is a "one". I actually think that's kind of a bleak thought, given how many people would never meet or worse, miss their chance with, their "one". i prefer to see things as being alive with possibility. anyone could end up being the one, that potential exists everywhere, but its a role that people grow into in relation to another, not one stamped on you at birth.

 

Hopefully

 

Damn bro I wasn't asking about your horrible sex life this isn't what I was going for at all. Sounds like you two have some deep issues you two need to sort out or go see a therapist or something.

 

its definitely possible. ive found mine

 

I actually like the word partner. I often call my boyfriend my partner. We aren't really ever planning to get married but he's so much more than just my boyfriend - we're raising a child together, saving to buy a house together. I feel like the term "boyfriend" belittles our relationship because we're equal in every way to a healthy married relationship, minus the legal title. We're true partners in every sense and I think the term suits us better than "boyfriend and girlfriend."

 

I just met a couple today that have been married for 69 years.
And I was trying to brag about our 23d anniversary coming up LoL

 

Ditto, Meliai, I find the word boyfriend belittling to love, in some way. I often call him my partner. Or, more importantly, I call him by his name and say forget the titles

And IamnotaMan, so what if the word partner is associated with homosexuality (I don't really agree with you there--I don't see the connection)? Let them think I'm gay, I don't give a shit.

 

I don't mind the word partner either, because at least in a good relationship I consider her my partner.

But when introducing I'll say this is my girlfriend ______, or just say her name because it's assumed we're dating. I never say this is my partner _____. That just sounds pretentious.

 

Married over ten years and in a relationship over 13 years...
and I really didn't feel like writing a long response to this (though I could write a book), so, with having just read the first three pages I found 3 responses that, when combined, pretty much sum up my response.

the bottom line w me and my spouse....perfect partner? soul mates? no and no such thing. But does it work? Hell yes. We used to spend all of our time together. All of it. We still love to spend time together but now we are more secure in doing things separate or alone more often (plus we have a kid now)... but yea, we want the same things. We value the same things. We are working towards the same things. We can laugh and have fun together. AND we can also give each other space n peace n quiet. In a long, long, long term relationship, you really do start to value more and more the space to just...sit after a long day and reflect, listen to the quiet, read, whatever and not have to talk... but have someone there to just smile at and hug good night. That is some nights...other nights you can do things together because you work together and you love and respect (and accept) each other.

 

I think you can fall in love many times in a lifetime. I think every past relationship prepares you for the next one.

I really do think there is a right person; for me at least. Because I believe it. But my partner is far from "perfect". It's more important to have the right fit.

Everyone says that it takes a lot of work to maintain a relationship, and to a certain extent it is, but it's also very easy for us to maintain ours. Mostly because we communicate with each other openly. I think if you know where you are on every page you can make it easy to stay on that page together and to figure out where to go to. And knowing the person wholely and respectfully makes it easy to respond to them. But I've never been a hard person to get along with in a relationship to begin with. I'm truly all about the peace-making. I think this comes from my upbringing and living with my siblings.

Anyway, in our relationship we spend a lot of time together and share similar interests, we play hockey together, we go for walks, we spend time with our families, and we carpool together so we associate with our work colleagues often. But we also have our interests and hobbies that remain separate. It's just really simple in our minds that we are committed to loving each other. I don't see how that idea can be so hard to pursue, but I can understand how you can feel differently about it.

Finding the right person is like slowly building a mansion stone by stone. There are a thousand ways to measure its progress and its potential. But you have to decide your own happiness in building it.

 

I think deep down inside I've stopped looking for the right one....and realized what I really want is the last one.

 

if there is, the odds of finding and joining up with them are somewhere between winning the lottery and the earth being struck by a commit.

if personal relationships are that important to you, you've just got to take 'close enough' as being as close as you're ever going to get.

 

No one is perfect.

But I've found someone who is close enough, someone I'm very compatible with and am still extremely attracted to in many ways after more than 4 years together. It was an extremely unlikely match, and we could have very easily never met in the first place.

But any relationship is always going to be a lot of work. This idea many people have of a romantic relationship out of a fairy tale is probably responsible for destroying many relationships. No matter how compatible you are, it's never going to be easy.

I consider myself very lucky.

 

Truer words have never been spoken on these forums, can I get a Hallelujah!

Just say gay, unattainable has too many syllables

....when he stands on a step ladder

By each other you mean , he doesnt say anything, you do all the talking.
By finish each others sentences you mean you say a whole bunch of stuff and he's like mmmhmmm, yep, mmmhmmm

So deep in the closet C.S. Lewis wrote a bunch of books about your adventures

 

@Vanilla Gorilla I wish...but it's much, much worse...