OK, I'm a 14 year old guy. I've known for about 1/1.5 years now that I was kind of attracted to guys, but since I've been brought up as a Christian, I ignored how I felt and suppressed my feelings. For the last couple of months I've Realized that I really do like guys, as well as girls. I've recently "come out" to my close friends but a lot of my friends don't know, and everyone has accepted my feelings, Except my parents. I felt so guilty abut it that one night I came out to my mom, and my dad eventually found out. They never really accepted me. And they asked that I try to stay away from guys I was attracted to, and suppress my feelings.I live in Alaska and there aren't many homosexual/bisexual people at my school, so there's no one I can really talk about if with. I also started um touching my butt, and um... fingering myself around a month or two ago. I'm just wondering if that's normal and OK to do, and if anyone has any advice on what to do with my parents. -Thanks Silver
Dealing with your parents is going to be a tough issue for you. Regarding your sexuality, that is something for you to understand firstly. Playing with your anus is natural exploration as well. Don't put any porous items inside. A forum that specialises in LGBT matters is important for you. One I know of is Empty Closets. You might want to try them out: http://emptyclosets.com
I Have A Question For You Silveroak3, Of All The Millions Of Websites On The Internet, What Made You Choose Hip Forums To Make This Thread....??? Cheers Glen.
Thanks Wombatso. So fingers are ok? Do many people do this? I searched bi forums, or something along those lines, and this was one of the first ones to come up. It looked like it had an active and helpful community, so I signed up -Silver
You may want to think twice before going public among friends and family about your sexual interests. I'd stop talking about it with people, who may be well-meaning but unable to understand and help. You are who you are. If guys turn you on, so it is. You are certainly not alone in the world. Try to connect with the guys whom you may like, and who may be able to help you explore your sexuality. A small town Alaska may not be the best place in the world, but there is internet, and there is travel, too. KD
I don't mean to be rude by the site suggestion. This fella looks like he needs a support base and the forum I mentioned is active, full of information for LGBT people from 13 years up. I'm sure he can learn stuff there.
that's BS. suppressing your feelings will cause you a lot more issues in long term than the opposite. why wouldn't it be normal? eventually you'll go beyond the fingers, so, yeah, nothing unusual about that. keep your parents out of your sex life. they have no business in it.
I know it's BS, it still hurts that they don't accept it about me. And I just wasn't sure I guess. I've never really done anything like that before and I've never really heard of anyone else doing that before so I just wanted to ask.
well, it's not something anybody really talks about outside the bedroom. but most everybody does it. even straight guys. you're young. you still have plenty of never-done-befores. as long as a thing makes you feel good, and it's not hurting anybody in the process, nothing wrong with it.
